It's ever so lonely.. - Page 2

Liquefaction · 02-28-2010, 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted by luciddreamer

I am soo sorry to hear that. I moved to be with someone also..It didn't work out. However, I make friends very easily and they have become just like my extended family.
This is an awesome site..I hope that you connect with others on here and make many friends.
Friends are always there no matter what..It may not be physically..Technology is a wonderful thing..there is no reason to feel alone..

When life comes crashing down and you think there's no hope,look to your friends to bring you out from the darkness and into the light.

I am happy to hear that someone else has risked it all for love! I am sorry it didn't work out for you either and would never wish that on anyone but it makes me feel less of a fool.

When everything fell apart, believe me I was on the phone with my friends all the time, (just ask Verizon) and they all gave me what I needed, love and support. I have made new friends in the city and here. I am impressed at the level of support so many of you give, not just to me, but to each other on a daily basis. It is amazing what a kind word can do, even from someone you have never met. It has the power to make someones day better than it was before.

There are times when I feel sorry for myself and wonder why, but over the years I have learned that it is part of life to feel lonely at times and that it is OK. For me, it has allowed me to value the closeness and warmth of a friend or partner that much more! I enjoy the time we spend together and look forward to the next.

luciddreamer · 02-28-2010, 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Strappie

The one thing I tell myself about long distance relationships is. If and when you decide to move, don't move directly in with each other. Try and find a place where you can at least date for 6 months. Being able to see that person once in awhile is still the honeymoon stage and well honestly the first 6 month even year is the honeymoon stage. Things are always still cute and fun. People don't show their true colors right away.

Talking on the phone is "not" enough to know who they are and going to visit on wknds or a few days is fun, but do you really get to know them?

I'm sorry that things didn't work out for anyone that has move clear across the US or even just to another city for the one they love. This will only make you stronger and wiser next time!!

Hell yeah !!!!

Strappie · 02-28-2010, 11:51 AM

To be alone I think is a test to ourselves...

If we can't be by ourselves how the hell will we be able to be with someone else! Those times we are alone are the times we need to reflect and think about ourselves how things in our lives have changed. I always seem to find the reasons as to why I wasn't meant to be with that person! Then I also figure out what it is I did wrong and the things I need to change to get ready for my life partner.

Liquefaction · 02-28-2010, 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Strappie

[COLOR="Blue"] People don't show their true colors right away.

Talking on the phone is "not" enough to know who they are and going to visit on wknds or a few days is fun, but do you really get to know them?

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LOL...Where were you two years ago? You could have stopped me!

We spent almost two years doing the long distance thing. The first of the many red flags didn't go up until we were packing up the cars the day before I moved.

For anyone thinking about moving for another, read and reread Strappie's post. Now, go back and read it again. lol

Blade · 02-28-2010, 11:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Strappie

The one thing I tell myself about long distance relationships is. If and when you decide to move, don't move directly in with each other. Try and find a place where you can at least date for 6 months. Being able to see that person once in awhile is still the honeymoon stage and well honestly the first 6 month even year is the honeymoon stage. Things are always still cute and fun. People don't show their true colors right away.

Talking on the phone is "not" enough to know who they are and going to visit on wknds or a few days is fun, but do you really get to know them?

I'm sorry that things didn't work out for anyone that has move clear across the US or even just to another city for the one they love. This will only make you stronger and wiser next time!!

Aint that the damn truth

Strappie · 02-28-2010, 12:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Liquefaction

LOL...Where were you two years ago? You could have stopped me!

We spent almost two years doing the long distance thing. The first of the many red flags didn't go up until we were packing up the cars the day before I moved.

For anyone thinking about moving for another, read and reread Strappie's post. Now, go back and read it again. lol

lol Well I have been around the block a few times at the dash site. I have been there for 12 years. I know I'm not saying that I know all, but I do know whats right for me.

I have a friend that is here in the states and dating someone from another country. My friends gf would never be able to move her with Visa's and all it's a nightmare anyways. I'm trying to talk to her basically without say WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU THINKING! lol but oh well she and her gf will figure it out. The other country is not Canada if it was I wouldn't be pushing so hard it a little easier there than were the gf if at.

Strappie · 02-28-2010, 12:10 PM

The one thing I can say is that when you do meet someone online and talk to them on the phone to me you get to know them a bit better (if you are asking the right questions) than if you were dating in person.

Like for instance you go out on a date with someone and you go to dinner. Are you really going to be asking the "deep dark" questions about hwo they feel about things or are you going to answer their questions as easily as you would without looking them directly in the eye. Sure you can get more of a feel for the person with them right there in front of you and see their expressions and so on. But are we really getting to know them with all the distractions going on around us? We have or tend to be more in tune to them on the phone and ask more in depth questions. I do like talking to ppl on the phone to get to know them I'm able to ask more questions "sooner" than maybe the 5 or 10th date. So to me talking on the phone for an hour is like 3 - 5 dates.

With all that said... Dating online to me isn't that scary what is scary to me is when it's time to do something about it. You all know what my answer is there..... Living separate for the first 6 - 12 months!

Liquefaction · 02-28-2010, 12:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Strappie

The one thing I can say is that when you do meet someone online and talk to them on the phone to me you get to know them a bit better (if you are asking the right questions) than if you were dating in person.

Like for instance you go out on a date with someone and you go to dinner. Are you really going to be asking the "deep dark" questions about hwo they feel about things or are you going to answer their questions as easily as you would without looking them directly in the eye. Sure you can get more of a feel for the person with them right there in front of you and see their expressions and so on. But are we really getting to know them with all the distractions going on around us? We have or tend to be more in tune to them on the phone and ask more in depth questions. I do like talking to ppl on the phone to get to know them I'm able to ask more questions "sooner" than maybe the 5 or 10th date. So to me talking on the phone for an hour is like 3 - 5 dates.

With all that said... Dating online to me isn't that scary what is scary to me is when it's time to do something about it. You all know what my answer is there..... Living separate for the first 6 - 12 months!

I have to agree with you on this but I have found it much easier for someone to lie or at least hide the truth better when they are not looking you in the eye. But then again, some people are so good, it wouldn't matter one way or the other.

No matter how we go about it, sooner or later you do see people for who they are, good or bad. And yes, the scariest part is when you have to do something about it. Do you take that chance and risk it all or do you play it safe and wonder what if?

If I had to do it all over again, I do not know what my answer to that question would be.

Oh.....That must be one hell of a phone call if it is worth 3-5 dates!

morningstar55 · 02-28-2010, 12:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Strappie

The one thing I tell myself about long distance relationships is. If and when you decide to move, don't move directly in with each other. Try and find a place where you can at least date for 6 months. Being able to see that person once in awhile is still the honeymoon stage and well honestly the first 6 month even year is the honeymoon stage. Things are always still cute and fun. People don't show their true colors right away.

Talking on the phone is "not" enough to know who they are and going to visit on wknds or a few days is fun, but do you really get to know them?

I'm sorry that things didn't work out for anyone that has move clear across the US or even just to another city for the one they love. This will only make you stronger and wiser next time!!

.. omg........ this is soo right on..
even when meeting someone in person....... as i had this experience recently . meeting someone out here and NOT on line.... well we just did the dating thing.. since well..... we met last july didnt even date until sept.. i think... and ended it into just friends only.. early this month..
and it was for the best..... for both of us.. heh.

i agree with a lot of what strappy posted here....... i like the .. IN person dating thing for a wwhile.. its the best way I feel you can get to know someone.

Strappie · 02-28-2010, 12:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Liquefaction

I have to agree with you on this but I have found it much easier for someone to lie or at least hide the truth better when they are not looking you in the eye. But then again, some people are so good, it wouldn't matter one way or the other.

No matter how we go about it, sooner or later you do see people for who they are, good or bad. And yes, the scariest part is when you have to do something about it. Do you take that chance and risk it all or do you play it safe and wonder what if?

If I had to do it all over again, I do not know what my answer to that question would be.

Oh.....That must be one hell of a phone call if it is worth 3-5 dates!

I agree, some people do lie and some people like to agree with you and say the same answers. I think it's because they are insecure. But if you ask them again later down the line you will eventually catch them.

I tend not to be afraid of asking questions. Might as well ask them rather than wonder what their answers will be.

You outta see my 3rd date!! lol

morningstar55 · 02-28-2010, 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by luciddreamer

What areas do you travel to ? Do you come to Canada?...If so where ?
Noooo....trucking is not a weekend trip...lol

haha.... i use to come to canada... but havnt since last May... due to the speed limiter thing.....
i live in Buffalo NY..... i kinda miss doing the canada tours cuz it got me home more.
when i did come to canada..... it was mostly the Ontario regions

Liquefaction · 02-28-2010, 01:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Strappie

I agree, some people do lie and some people like to agree with you and say the same answers. I think it's because they are insecure. But if you ask them again later down the line you will eventually catch them.

I tend not to be afraid of asking questions. Might as well ask them rather than wonder what their answers will be.

You outta see my 3rd date!! lol

You are rght!!! If there is a truth to find, you will eventually.

Hell, if one call is worth 3-5, I wanna know about your second call!!!

Wow, how off topic am I? lol

Jeep · 02-28-2010, 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Stoney

helllllloooooooo...........

from michigan.... n e body else.....

Yup. Might be why I put this in the Michigan thread.

Are you a Yooper or a Troll?

Stoney · 02-28-2010, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Jeep

Yup. Might be why I put this in the Michigan thread.

Are you a Yooper or a Troll?

oh yeah.....duh........right.

you so funny

pffft......whatever

morningstar55 · 02-28-2010, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Jeep

Yup. Might be why I put this in the Michigan thread.

Are you a Yooper or a Troll?

???? whats that???

Jeep · 02-28-2010, 06:34 PM

A Yooper is someone from the Upper Peninsula. A Troll is someone who lives below the Mackinac Bridge.

cinderella · 02-28-2010, 06:38 PM

Glad you asked M'Star, I was about to as well...

See, now I always thought a 'Troll' was one of those critters in Lord of the Rings...learn something new every day, lol

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Originally Posted by morningstar55

???? whats that???

Strappie · 02-28-2010, 07:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Jeep

A Yooper is someone from the Upper Peninsula. A Troll is someone who lives below the Mackinac Bridge.

I was going to ask too....

I'm glad I'm not living there.. I wouldn't want to be either.. lol

morningstar55 · 02-28-2010, 07:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Jeep

A Yooper is someone from the Upper Peninsula. A Troll is someone who lives below the Mackinac Bridge.

aaHHhhh

.. wondering where the mackinac bridge is ... hmm
i travel to MI a lot.... and i been to that upper peninsula.. during the winter.. and got stuck there over night in a blizzard.....
wheww .. was glad to get out of there the next day.

Stoney · 02-28-2010, 07:56 PM

I guess that makes me a troll.....

look out you billy goats gruff

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Strappie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: I know who I am... Doesn't matter Relationship Status: It's a new day.... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Mpls, MN Posts: 3,283 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,813 Thanked 4,946 Times in 1,350 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	To be alone I think is a test to ourselves... If we can't be by ourselves how the hell will we be able to be with someone else! Those times we are alone are the times we need to reflect and think about ourselves how things in our lives have changed. I always seem to find the reasons as to why I wasn't meant to be with that person! Then I also figure out what it is I did wrong and the things I need to change to get ready for my life partner.

02-28-2010, 12:10 PM	#27
Strappie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: I know who I am... Doesn't matter Relationship Status: It's a new day.... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Mpls, MN Posts: 3,283 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,813 Thanked 4,946 Times in 1,350 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	The one thing I can say is that when you do meet someone online and talk to them on the phone to me you get to know them a bit better (if you are asking the right questions) than if you were dating in person. Like for instance you go out on a date with someone and you go to dinner. Are you really going to be asking the "deep dark" questions about hwo they feel about things or are you going to answer their questions as easily as you would without looking them directly in the eye. Sure you can get more of a feel for the person with them right there in front of you and see their expressions and so on. But are we really getting to know them with all the distractions going on around us? We have or tend to be more in tune to them on the phone and ask more in depth questions. I do like talking to ppl on the phone to get to know them I'm able to ask more questions "sooner" than maybe the 5 or 10th date. So to me talking on the phone for an hour is like 3 - 5 dates. With all that said... Dating online to me isn't that scary what is scary to me is when it's time to do something about it. You all know what my answer is there..... Living separate for the first 6 - 12 months!

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