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On/off the market?
I took part in a discussion recently as to when people considered themselves on or off the market. There was a wide variety of answers to both i.e. some felt they were off the market if they weren't actively dating, others in 20 year monogamous relationships considered themselves on the market until there was an actual wedding - gay marriage is legal in this state. So, I'm just curious as to how people interpret what it means to be on or off the market. What do both or either mean to you?
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I may be old fashoned but if you make a comitment to each other as to being in a relationship you are off the market it may be poly situaton or the monog type but still. Desd and I became exclusive in June of 09 and now we are going to have a wedding even tho it ain't legal in NY but I want her to have that day in front of our family and friends even if is cares this comitment phobe BOI
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I'm off the market when it is agreed by both of us that we are exclusive. Marriage isn't a factor. And still won't be when the Prop 8 issue is settled in California and same-sex marriage is legal (yes, I am staying positive).
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Cool thread.
My ex-wife considers herself off the market if she finds you interesting enough for a second date. She pursues one person at a time. Honestly, I don't know that I ever consider myself "off the market". LOL I may not put out the "On Sale Now" flyer, but it's always on the shelf. But I do warn girls ahead of time that I am a leacherous bastard. Also as I've gotten older, I don't actively look for love interests (whether I'm in or out of a relationship), I just let the cards fall where they may....also whether I'm in or out of a relationship. No additional cards are falling right now, just clarifying for Dixie. A |
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I am not in a relationship. But I am off the market I do not want a romance. One can be "off the market" even if they arent in a relationship.
(I have a submissive. It is a BDSM relationship. Mistake not the two.) But if I Were in a romance, once we as a couple made the determination we were exclusive with one another, from that moment on, both would be off the market.
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Hmm...usually it's rare for me to consider myself off the market. I'm always on the market if it's just casual dating and sometimes even if there are deeper feelings involved. There have only been 2 relationships where I actually cared enough for the person to consider myself unavailable to others (one with an ex, one with my current). Any off market status is subject to change, though, depending on how I'm feeling in/with a relationship. I also rarely go "on the prowl" for other avenues. I just tend to have a flirty nature with pretty much EVERYONE, and sometimes it leads to certain scenarios/individuals that are more enticing to me.
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I am off the market
There is one person I love and am deeply in love with and the market holds no value for me.
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I am "off the market" if I am in an exclusive relationship.
"Off the market" simply means I am in an exclusive relationship. If I am in an exclusive relationship, it means that I am not looking to date others and I see the current relationship as a possible "forever" one. It does not mean that I am married or have chosen my "forever partner".
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No surprise here.
Off The Wall & Off The Market.
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As most of you know, I'm off the market and have been for quite a while. I know, I know...Sorry to disappoint you but these things happen.
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I'm kind of adjacent to the market.
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I've always been a fundamental type of stock that never jumped on or off the market. By now my expiration date has expired. The market has been kind of risky anyway with tax increases and uncontrolled federal spending. However, Netflix has been on my mind for a while. There has been a need for cable TV beyond the sofa, and they are tapping into it. Their stock should explode when they go cable in a couple of years
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Great thread...I am in a poly relationship with my Sir. I do not consider myself "off the market", however, anyone myself or my Sir are interested in is something that we both discuss and come to an agreement on before said relationship would begin. I am not actively "on the market" but am open to that prospective should the right person come my way.
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i am off the market. i could play with others, but only with permission. So i guess that makes it possible for me to go back out there. But i have two Dominants and a busy work life. And honestly my health isn't ideal. i feel like my time is best served by getting healthy.
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Off the market, yes! Yet, I've never considered myself for sale in the first place
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I don't know that I've ever considered myself on the market actually. I've been single for the majority of my adult life...and for most of it have had no interest in seeking a relationship. I've just always been focused on my son, my work, getting a degree, etc. - and was never really one to flirt or date.
Meeting Scoote was a serendipity...and I went from "off the market - not looking" to "off the market - taken."
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Being unfamiliar with said market, I would presume never to have been on the shelf to begin with, partly due to very few very long relationships the last 16 years.
Secondly I am not much for active searching, and am truly unpracticed at dating or flirting. Still I consider myself off the market at this point because I am happy enough as myself and choose to be selfish about what I want and where I want to be or go. Having always taken into account what was "better for us" I however, did have an out of state flirtation that took it unwell when I accepted a dinner request from another. I mentioned that the invitation came to test her reaction, and when I heard nothing in her voice or words I accepted the invitation, latter she showed hurt feelings about it. I would imagine once a person feels that the relationship is one worthy of more attention and the other person intriguing enough to explore more thoroughly they might consider being unavailable to others, or when both parties agree to not see others. Either way I would not believe any one could/should presume that another considers them selves attached or off the market till it is agreed on mutually. sorry I ramble just following my thoughts.... |
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