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Old 11-25-2009, 06:28 PM   #1
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Music does, indeed, soothe the savage beast. At least the beast within me when I get riled up, am frustrated, or just feeling crappy. I pop my headphones on and jam out as I see fit in my own little world. The music I choose depends upong my mood and will also determine what I feel like after my little retreat.

If I'm angry or frustrated, Disturbed or Three Days Grace or Breaking Benjamin is good. If I am contemplative, One Republic or Daughtry or John Mayer or Rob Thomas is good. If I'm just kind of rowdy, Nickelback or Pitbull or Ciara is good. If I'm feeling sweet, Colbie Caillat or Demi Lovato or Mandy Moore is good.

These are good singers and groups that I consider my 'go to' music, but there are several acts that have produced music that can fit into different categories, such as Christina Aguilera, Madonna, Bianca Ryan, and T-SO.
I hung out with Nickleback all quiet and conversation like ...it was cool.
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What gives me peace?

Mint hot chocolate.
Candles
My living room that is so comfortable and homey
A bath
Feeding my feral cats that after 10 months are finally letting me pet them.
The look in my cats eyes when he looks at me when I pet him and sing to him.
Watching a movie with my Father.
Hearing water flowing.
Watching snow fall.
Being held in front of a fireplace.
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Peace for me comes with understanding and realizing that

-I not only survived today but I lived it.
-No matter what, who, when, where, and why... I am loved...always by me.
-Yesterday brought today and the opportunity for tomorrow.
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My doggies give me incredible peace. They are the sweetest most loving little guys, they just melt right into me we they know I need it. We're cool like that...heh.
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Yoga and meditation at 6 am prevent a cruddy day
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Today was cooking. I made laods of stuff and listened ot children's stories on the radio.
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It may weird, but I love to go shopping this time of year. Well, I like shopping anyway and think it should be an Olympic sport, but I digress....

I don't care for the difficulties in finding a parking spot, the rudeness sometimes encountered or the long lines, but other than that, I love it! There's this energy that is so vibrant because of the sheer number of people in enclosed spaces that I just adore. It's so strong, it nearly hums. It gives me energy and a smile on my face, as well as peace.
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Singing to old favourite tracks at the top of my voice and not caring if I'm in tune or know all the words or not.
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The candles are all lit - complete stillness, clicking of the keyboard is the only sound



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Smile What gave me peace today?

what gave me peace today?well i'd have to say it was (the one will NOT remain nameless for long if she doesnt fess up soon)...she lights me up and and brings order to my otherwise chaotic universe.when she sings to me or plays me the piano,it soothes my soul and brings me what was my ever-elusive peace.knowing she's (and my beautiful wonderful kids)are there make this insane journey called life worthwhile and meaningful when i want to think its not.i love you (nameless and 3 awesome kids..maybe 5?) and hold you all dear to my heart and thank the Great Being that overlooks us that i have you all along with me on this journey.

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Standing on the beach...my footprints in the sand...the wavelettes kissing my toes.....looking out to the edge....wrapped in sea breezes.....


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Pulling out the guitar and playing an old tune that comes to mind...
Watching the pelican's glide across the sky and dive swiftly into the ocean...
Feeling the winds picking up and watching the leaves dance to it's song...
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What brings me peace?

Silence. The ability to be silent and to tolerate silence seems to be becoming a lost art in our world of noise and instant access. But, to me, to sit in silence, with perhaps the expected sounds of birds chirping, the ocean roaring, the wind whistling.....is heavenly. It is a time when time stops, when I feel one with the All, when clarity in thought is unsurpassed, when joy and contentment are mine, and when I can just enjoy being.
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Sometimes it's going outside to listen to all the blackbirds singing their little beaky hearts out,
Other times it's blasting out Disturbed on my ipod...
It all depends on what I'm doing,
If I'm writing I need to listen to music,
If I'm meditating, again, it's music, so I can block out the outside world/voices.
Even standing out in a thunderstorm is soothing!
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Depends on the season. Winter is hard , most things I find comfort in require you to be outside. Sitting on the patio after a long day at work, just watching the birds, or butterflies, or listening to the bullfrogs, in my bare feet If I'm really restless, I run , or play basketball, or riding my motorcycle, I get alot of thinking done when I do those things. Just floating around the swimming pool is very relaxing for me. Playing golf always makes me happy , no matter what. I just realized something. When I'm restless or in pain, I just want to be alone, if I hang out with friends, or go to an event , seems to make things worse.
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Having a quiet meditation time for myself...beginning with turning off everything - tv, phone, computer...followed by a sage smudge sometimes with sweetcrass, cedar and/or lavender, then incense and candles, selection of a crystal and then i sit quietly for as long as it takes...letting the cobwebs clear and finding peaceful ground again...
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