Wedding Planning

nanners · 03-15-2015, 07:00 AM

Now that "same sex" marriages are legal in so many states (sorry if yours is not one yet, but hopefully it will be soon!) are any of you out there planning a wedding?

DJ4321 and I are getting married on September 19th, 2015. We are in the midst of planning the wedding. There are SO MANY things to consider! It's fun at times and stressful at times.

If you are already married, what parts of your wedding did you like the most and what would you have done differently?

If you are like us, and in the midst of planning what have you done so far?

All ideas welcome here for any part of the process of planning a wedding...especially the ones that tend to save money or be on the inexpensive side.

I would love to hear stories and ideas about engagements, wedding planning, the actual wedding, and the reception...and even great places to take the honeymoon.

nanners · 03-15-2015, 07:09 AM

I'll go first!

DJ proposed to me in September last year in front of my family...since then we've been dreaming and planning of our wedding day.

We have done these things:

*Picked out an officiant (a lesbian pastor I am friends with)
*Picked a location for the ceremony: A friend offered her beautifully landscaped large backyard
*Secured a VFW Hall for the reception
*Chose the colors blue and purple for the wedding colors
*Chose and asked the wedding party to be in our wedding
*Started getting the guys and girls fitted for suits and dresses
*Chose the wedding rings
*Decided on cupcakes instead of a big cake, but bakery is yet to be determined
*Hired a DJ for the reception, and are thinking about using him for the Ceremony as well
*Ordered the bridal party gifts
*Asked my Dad to walk me down the isle
*Had my Mom help me shop and we purchased my wedding gown
*Started thinking about what the flowers will be like

nanners · 03-15-2015, 06:54 PM

Bumping....

OMG, have you seen the price of wedding photograhers?

MsTinkerbelly · 03-15-2015, 07:08 PM

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Originally Posted by nanners

Now that "same sex" marriages are legal in so many states (sorry if yours is not one yet, but hopefully it will be soon!) are any of you out there planning a wedding?

DJ4321 and I are getting married on September 19th, 2015. We are in the midst of planning the wedding. There are SO MANY things to consider! It's fun at times and stressful at times.

If you are already married, what parts of your wedding did you like the most and what would you have done differently?

If you are like us, and in the midst of planning what have you done so far?

All ideas welcome here for any part of the process of planning a

wedding...especially the ones that tend to save money or be on the inexpensive side.

I would love to hear stories and ideas about engagements, wedding planning, the actual wedding, and the reception...and even great places to take the honeymoon.

First off, best wishes for a long and happy life together!

The best part of our Wedding (besides marrying my soulmate), was having the ceremony in my mothers backyard so she could be there.

The only thing i would have done differently, was to avoid marrying on a holiday weekend without a lot of pre-planning, as important people were unable to change plans and attend. In California, we had such a short window during the summer of 2008 when marriage was legal, that we took one of the first available weekends (July 3rd) to have our ceremony.

Words of wisdom: no matter what people tell you you have to do, or should do...only do what makes both of you happy.

MsTinkerbelly · 03-15-2015, 07:11 PM

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Originally Posted by nanners

Bumping....

OMG, have you seen the price of wedding photograhers?

You could have a small package of wedding photographs done by a professional, or a great friend with style, and spread some disposable cameras around at the reception and ask your friends and family to take candid shots for you.

nanners · 03-16-2015, 05:10 AM

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Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

First off, best wishes for a long and happy life together!

The best part of our Wedding (besides marrying my soulmate), was having the ceremony in my mothers backyard so she could be there.

The only thing i would have done differently, was to avoid marrying on a holiday weekend without a lot of pre-planning, as important people were unable to change plans and attend. In California, we had such a short window during the summer of 2008 when marriage was legal, that we took one of the first available weekends (July 3rd) to have our ceremony.

Words of wisdom: no matter what people tell you you have to do, or should do...only do what makes both of you happy.

Thank you for the hints...I have had a lot of people say to me that we should only do what makes us happy...and we are doing exactly that, even if it's a little different.

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Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

You could have a small package of wedding photographs done by a professional, or a great friend with style, and spread some disposable cameras around at the reception and ask your friends and family to take candid shots for you.

Great idea! We hadn't thought of that. Thank you!

nanners · 03-18-2015, 05:14 AM

Wheee, we're going to a Wedding Fair this weekend.
Doing research on Photographers, cakes (cupcakes), Limos and flowers.
I think it'll be fun!

Sassy · 03-18-2015, 06:45 AM

We're planning on an early October ceremony. But the only thing we've managed to book is the honeymoon.
But we're viewing venues and discussing details, creating Pinterest boards. We'll get there. I love that we're planning this day together. ♡

MsTinkerbelly · 03-18-2015, 09:12 AM

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Originally Posted by nanners

Wheee, we're going to a Wedding Fair this weekend.
Doing research on Photographers, cakes (cupcakes), Limos and flowers.
I think it'll be fun!

When we got married, cupcakes had just become popular for weddings, so we did cupcakes in our colors, and a small "wedding cake" with a topper we picked out from a cake decorating place. That way we still had a cake to cut, but our guests could be served immediately and with little mess.

It's nice that you have time to do all of the planning and research...we were in such a rush, that by the time the day got there, i was a frazzled mess! Lol

bright_arrow · 03-18-2015, 02:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by nanners

Bumping....

OMG, have you seen the price of wedding photograhers?

Outrageous, right? That was the most expensive part of my wedding.

Quote:

Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

The only thing i would have done differently, was to avoid marrying on a holiday weekend without a lot of pre-planning, as important people were unable to change plans and attend.

This. Places are more expensive, people have plans and/or can't get the time off (especially retail folks).

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Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

You could have a small package of wedding photographs done by a professional, or a great friend with style, and spread some disposable cameras around at the reception and ask your friends and family to take candid shots for you.

Tried to save money, bought recycled ones. Photos that *could* be seen looked like they were from the 60s. Didn't find out until after they were exposed - had to pay for them regardless. Save yourself the trouble and buy brand new!

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Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

When we got married, cupcakes had just become popular for weddings, so we did cupcakes in our colors, and a small "wedding cake" with a topper we picked out from a cake decorating place. That way we still had a cake to cut, but our guests could be served immediately and with little mess.

It's nice that you have time to do all of the planning and research...we were in such a rush, that by the time the day got there, i was a frazzled mess! Lol

We had multiple flavors if I remember correctly - vanilla, almond, chocolate I think? and then the cake almond flavored. Easy peasy clean up! Had a guy who was a one-man show make them, it was $250 total for our cake, a cake for my parents for their 25th wedding anniversary and 100 cupcakes. Minimal decorating, multiple colors and flavors.

Good luck!

Darth Denkay · 03-22-2015, 06:52 AM

My partner and I got engaged this past November. We live IN Tennessee so not legal here at the moment. We're holding off on actually getting married, because I think by the year's end it will be legal everywhere. TN is one of the states going before the Supreme Court, very exciting times indeed!

03-15-2015, 07:00 AM	#1
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Darth Denkay Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: I'm good with whatever Relationship Status: in love and loved Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Tennessee (Memphis, from Chattanooga) Posts: 315 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 456 Thanked 463 Times in 150 Posts Rep Power: 891934	My partner and I got engaged this past November. We live IN Tennessee so not legal here at the moment. We're holding off on actually getting married, because I think by the year's end it will be legal everywhere. TN is one of the states going before the Supreme Court, very exciting times indeed! __________________ Darth

03-15-2015, 07:09 AM	#2
nanners Member How Do You Identify?: her femme Preferred Pronoun?: girl Relationship Status: Blissfully married to the love of my life. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: MS Posts: 1,126 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,367 Thanked 4,840 Times in 1,066 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I'll go first! DJ proposed to me in September last year in front of my family...since then we've been dreaming and planning of our wedding day. We have done these things: Picked out an officiant (a lesbian pastor I am friends with) Picked a location for the ceremony: A friend offered her beautifully landscaped large backyard Secured a VFW Hall for the reception Chose the colors blue and purple for the wedding colors Chose and asked the wedding party to be in our wedding Started getting the guys and girls fitted for suits and dresses Chose the wedding rings Decided on cupcakes instead of a big cake, but bakery is yet to be determined Hired a DJ for the reception, and are thinking about using him for the Ceremony as well Ordered the bridal party gifts Asked my Dad to walk me down the isle Had my Mom help me shop and we purchased my wedding gown *Started thinking about what the flowers will be like

03-15-2015, 06:54 PM	#3
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03-18-2015, 05:14 AM	#7
nanners Member How Do You Identify?: her femme Preferred Pronoun?: girl Relationship Status: Blissfully married to the love of my life. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: MS Posts: 1,126 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,367 Thanked 4,840 Times in 1,066 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Wheee, we're going to a Wedding Fair this weekend. Doing research on Photographers, cakes (cupcakes), Limos and flowers. I think it'll be fun!