Vancouver!!

fever · 04-09-2013, 01:10 AM

Welcome back to Vancouver HB! I remember a few super b/f brunches before you left. Perhaps we can do a coffee klatch on the Drive. I didn't do well organizing a femme tea. lol

cheers from Abbotsford,
Candice

imperfect_cupcake · 04-09-2013, 01:38 AM

Oh I get the general idea a butch-femme brunch wouldn't be much appealing. Most of the people I meet my age who*I* would consider butch, don't refer to themselves that way because they think that painting their toe nails or baking or crying at movies to disqualify them... that and they don't wipe themselves with steel wool after peeing and cut their dinner with a chain saw.

I do miss London for some things. relaxed concepts of female and even feminine-masculinity in comparison to the lumberjack you have to be here and the stereotyping is mind boggling... you know what one gal said to me when we were talking about profiles on POF, I suggested she actually put "femme" on her profile if that's what she wants in a partner, femmes... no, she said, I thought if I did that I'd get fluffy types who were shallow and liked to shop, but she didn't know why she thought that.
"maybe it's because you see femininity as inherently shallow and stupid?" was my suggestion, though I said it more diplomatically than that. Jesus wept!

still. still the way dykes my age think. nothing has changed since I went away.

The ManUp nights, though full of youngsters, are a little bit more my speed.

ruby_woo · 04-09-2013, 10:56 AM

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Originally Posted by honeybarbara

The ManUp nights, though full of youngsters, are a little bit more my speed.

Ha! I've had fun when I go to Man Up, but I'm only 30 and some of the people there look really young to me. The people that talk to me at Man Up are mostly gay guys who loved the dresses I wear when I go lol.

Being a single femme in Vancouver has been really different than when I was a single femme in San Francisco, that's for damn sure.

Stitch · 05-20-2013, 03:02 AM

I haven't been out in the gay community in Vancouver in ages.

I found "nerd" community which I find much more accepting somehow.

How are my Vancouverites though?

imperfect_cupcake · 05-20-2013, 03:50 AM

I've found individuals spattered about. And there is Queer Box Fit, in the east end which is a fitness class run by a butch. She's having a fund raiser come june 1st and I know a couple of the people going - it's east end queers rather than the lesbians my age and older who find IDing as anything but lesbian to be heterosexist or "too confusing" and thus rather dismissive. I'm looking forward to it!

Where in Vancouver are you stitch? Hi ruby woo! I didn't see your post till now...

ruby_woo · 05-23-2013, 10:51 AM

Where else do folks go in Vancouver to meet to meet people? Now that the sun is out (for now, anyway...) I am itching to get out of the house and meet some new folks.

imperfect_cupcake · 05-23-2013, 11:08 AM

well, because I'm loaded with school work I don't meet very many people. But I jut head to The Drive and have a coffee or fruitsmoothie-shake or a cocktail with a mate. I usually meet people there as well when I meet up with them from POF. School keeps me pretty strapped close to home or school.
But I am going to "give a butch a dream" fund raiser
https://www.facebook.com/events/1415...ref=ts&fref=ts
as she runs "queer box fit" which is apparently full of hot queers my own age (35+)
and some of my old mates go to it. they keep telling me to go to meet people but I rarely have the time, with school, to even keep up on my own laundry.
and it's usually when I am in full study mode.
But I'm definitely going.
where abouts to do live ruby? are you ever in the east end or new west?

04-09-2013, 01:10 AM	#1
fever Member How Do You Identify?: stonefemme Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near Vancouver, B.C. Canada Posts: 592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,649 Thanked 1,280 Times in 357 Posts Rep Power: 17783435	Has it been 10 yrs already? Welcome back to Vancouver HB! I remember a few super b/f brunches before you left. Perhaps we can do a coffee klatch on the Drive. I didn't do well organizing a femme tea. lol cheers from Abbotsford, Candice

05-20-2013, 03:02 AM	#4
Stitch Member How Do You Identify?: Sweetest Soft Butch you don't know yet Preferred Pronoun?: She, Hy, Relationship Status: Solo Artist Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Vancouver, Canada Posts: 191 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16 Thanked 305 Times in 111 Posts Rep Power: 2008423	Hello I haven't been out in the gay community in Vancouver in ages. I found "nerd" community which I find much more accepting somehow. How are my Vancouverites though? __________________ ~ Let me show you baby I'm a talented boi ~

04-09-2013, 01:38 AM	#2
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,726 Times in 1,613 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Oh I get the general idea a butch-femme brunch wouldn't be much appealing. Most of the people I meet my age whoI would consider butch, don't refer to themselves that way because they think that painting their toe nails or baking or crying at movies to disqualify them... that and they don't wipe themselves with steel wool after peeing and cut their dinner with a chain saw. I do miss London for some things. relaxed concepts of female and even feminine-masculinity in comparison to the lumberjack you have to be here and the stereotyping is mind boggling... you know what one gal said to me when we were talking about profiles on POF, I suggested she actually put "femme" on her profile if that's what she wants in a partner, femmes... no, she said, I thought if I did that I'd get fluffy types who were shallow and liked to shop, but she didn't know why she thought that. "maybe it's because you see femininity as inherently shallow and stupid?" was my suggestion, though I said it more diplomatically than that. Jesus wept! still. still the way dykes my age think. nothing has changed since I went away. The ManUp nights, though full of youngsters, are a little bit more my speed.

05-20-2013, 03:50 AM	#5
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,726 Times in 1,613 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I've found individuals spattered about. And there is Queer Box Fit, in the east end which is a fitness class run by a butch. She's having a fund raiser come june 1st and I know a couple of the people going - it's east end queers rather than the lesbians my age and older who find IDing as anything but lesbian to be heterosexist or "too confusing" and thus rather dismissive. I'm looking forward to it! Where in Vancouver are you stitch? Hi ruby woo! I didn't see your post till now...

05-23-2013, 10:51 AM	#6
ruby_woo Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme Preferred Pronoun?: her/she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Vancouver, BC Posts: 427 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,848 Thanked 1,941 Times in 376 Posts Rep Power: 17615391	Where else do folks go in Vancouver to meet to meet people? Now that the sun is out (for now, anyway...) I am itching to get out of the house and meet some new folks.

05-23-2013, 11:08 AM	#7
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,726 Times in 1,613 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	well, because I'm loaded with school work I don't meet very many people. But I jut head to The Drive and have a coffee or fruitsmoothie-shake or a cocktail with a mate. I usually meet people there as well when I meet up with them from POF. School keeps me pretty strapped close to home or school. But I am going to "give a butch a dream" fund raiser https://www.facebook.com/events/1415...ref=ts&fref=ts as she runs "queer box fit" which is apparently full of hot queers my own age (35+) and some of my old mates go to it. they keep telling me to go to meet people but I rarely have the time, with school, to even keep up on my own laundry. and it's usually when I am in full study mode. But I'm definitely going. where abouts to do live ruby? are you ever in the east end or new west?