The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

[GeorgiaMa'am]

Originally Posted by Daisy Chain

I know exactly what you mean I`m afraid, I had shoulder length hair but after having chemo its just starting to grow back, maybe 2"s long now. And I have to say I hate it !

You're allowed to hate it! Fortunately, it will grow. I'll cross my fingers and hope it grows fast for you!

[GeorgiaMa'am]

Originally Posted by Daisy Chain

I love clothes with a 40`s feel too, pencil skirts and kitten heels.

Me too! I love the 40s hairstyles too, although I'm glad I don't have to do one every day. I did victory rolls and a 1940s outfit (including pencil skirt) for Hallowe'en last year.

[GeorgiaMa'am]

Originally Posted by anotherbutch

I hear 50 is the new 40... that puts me right around 45... cool.. I like it.

I like it too - I'll sign up for that philosophy!

[Daisy Chain]

Originally Posted by GeorgiaMa'am

You're allowed to hate it! Fortunately, it will grow. I'll cross my fingers and hope it grows fast for you!

Originally Posted by GeorgiaMa'am

Me too! I love the 40s hairstyles too, although I'm glad I don't have to do one every day. I did victory rolls and a 1940s outfit (including pencil skirt) for Hallowe'en last year.

I bet you looked fantastic !! Such a stylish era....though as ya say, hardwork !

On the plus side my hair is coming back much thicker and better condition, gotta look on the bright side !

DC

[HoldMeSteady]

Daisy,

I don't think you have to worry about your age in regard to clothes. I bet that what feels good to you and looks good in the mirror, looks good period. Really I'm just seconding the 'buy what feels fabulous' theory. I'm so glad your hair is growing back thicker and healthier. And that you got through the chemo!

I'm going through a similar time. I had open heart surgery in September and now have a big old scar where I used to let a bit of cleavage show time to time ;-). It's been driving me crazy and sometimes I feel ridiculous because I survived scary, painful surgery that fixed a defect I would have died without getting fixed and I'm worried about a scar! I feel a little better because I went to a play party last weekend and when I wear a corset the cleavage is big enough that the scar is NOT the first thing you see ;-)

However, I agree that part of getting back to normal is wearing clothes I feel good in. So in addition to getting exercise and sleep, I'm going to prioritize buying a bunch of tops that don't show the scar. AND a couple of sexy items worn in certain company which scream "Damn the damn scar - full forge ahead!"

[GeorgiaMa'am]

Originally Posted by HoldMeSteady

. . . when I wear a corset the cleavage is big enough that the scar is NOT the first thing you see ;-)

I'm all in favor of corsets

[Daisy Chain]

Originally Posted by HoldMeSteady

Daisy,

I don't think you have to worry about your age in regard to clothes. I bet that what feels good to you and looks good in the mirror, looks good period. Really I'm just seconding the 'buy what feels fabulous' theory. I'm so glad your hair is growing back thicker and healthier. And that you got through the chemo!

I'm going through a similar time. I had open heart surgery in September and now have a big old scar where I used to let a bit of cleavage show time to time ;-). It's been driving me crazy and sometimes I feel ridiculous because I survived scary, painful surgery that fixed a defect I would have died without getting fixed and I'm worried about a scar! I feel a little better because I went to a play party last weekend and when I wear a corset the cleavage is big enough that the scar is NOT the first thing you see ;-)

However, I agree that part of getting back to normal is wearing clothes I feel good in. So in addition to getting exercise and sleep, I'm going to prioritize buying a bunch of tops that don't show the scar. AND a couple of sexy items worn in certain company which scream "Damn the damn scar - full forge ahead!"

Thank you for sharing.

I`m glad to hear you are healing,

I`m beginning to think part of the healing process is finding new `smaller` stuff to sweat other then the life and death stuff. Its hard to explain unless you`ve fought that kind of fight eh ? You have to get to know and love the new you.

Enjoy the days we are blessed to have is what I remind myself of....though I also allow myself the right to grieve my `before` life once in a while.

Stay strong and beautiful

DC

[clay]

Daisy Chain & HoldMeSteady:
Thankful you both ARE still here.
Anyone worth their salt will not even see your battle scars...but the beautiful souls you are inside. That is my own humble opine!
Continue to light the world with your beautiful beings...you both have so much to enjoy and share......grab life....I love both your positive attitudes and forthrightness! Gentle hugs....clay

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by HoldMeSteady

Daisy,

I don't think you have to worry about your age in regard to clothes. I bet that what feels good to you and looks good in the mirror, looks good period. Really I'm just seconding the 'buy what feels fabulous' theory. I'm so glad your hair is growing back thicker and healthier. And that you got through the chemo!

I'm going through a similar time. I had open heart surgery in September and now have a big old scar where I used to let a bit of cleavage show time to time ;-). It's been driving me crazy and sometimes I feel ridiculous because I survived scary, painful surgery that fixed a defect I would have died without getting fixed and I'm worried about a scar! I feel a little better because I went to a play party last weekend and when I wear a corset the cleavage is big enough that the scar is NOT the first thing you see ;-)

However, I agree that part of getting back to normal is wearing clothes I feel good in. So in addition to getting exercise and sleep, I'm going to prioritize buying a bunch of tops that don't show the scar. AND a couple of sexy items worn in certain company which scream "Damn the damn scar - full forge ahead!"

As someone with a bevy of scars, in varying sizes and noticeability....it's only a story. How dramatic or romantic or silly or scary you make the story is up to you. It can be a conversation starter or you can use it to keep people away.

I don't know you very well, but I'm glad you made it through and are doing much better! Enjoy yourself!

Besides, you never know if a scar will develop sensitivity over time that can be fun or even useful at one of those play parties.

[HoldMeSteady]

Thanks to Daisy Chain, GeorgiaMa'am, and Clay for the sweet support. It's so nice to read! Gemme, you are so right. I will try not to make my story one that keeps people away.

[morningstar55]

hey ya gang .. its been a while….
i think its al face books fault

[Daisy Chain]

Originally Posted by morningstar55

hey ya gang .. its been a while….
i think its al face books fault

That sounds like you`ve been unfaithful to us !!

Daisy

[MysticOceansFL]

Welcome to all the folks who have aged gracefully!

[HoldMeSteady]

I don't know about gracefully. I'm not dead.

[Daisy Chain]

Originally Posted by HoldMeSteady

I don't know about gracefully. I'm not dead.

Ha Ha I`m hanging in there too honey ! Though its very quite around here.

Daisy

[DELSDAUGHTER]

Hey everyone ...long time no see

[Virago]

Since the name of this group is 40's, 50's and over, I thought I should try to jump in now. 2 years 3 months before I'm an 'over'. I've actually started to celebrate that in my mind about 2 years ago!!

Now, if my back and knees would celebrate with my mind it would be perfect! lol

[MsTinkerbelly]

Originally Posted by HoldMeSteady

Daisy,

I don't think you have to worry about your age in regard to clothes. I bet that what feels good to you and looks good in the mirror, looks good period. Really I'm just seconding the 'buy what feels fabulous' theory. I'm so glad your hair is growing back thicker and healthier. And that you got through the chemo!

I'm going through a similar time. I had open heart surgery in September and now have a big old scar where I used to let a bit of cleavage show time to time ;-). It's been driving me crazy and sometimes I feel ridiculous because I survived scary, painful surgery that fixed a defect I would have died without getting fixed and I'm worried about a scar! I feel a little better because I went to a play party last weekend and when I wear a corset the cleavage is big enough that the scar is NOT the first thing you see ;-)

However, I agree that part of getting back to normal is wearing clothes I feel good in. So in addition to getting exercise and sleep, I'm going to prioritize buying a bunch of tops that don't show the scar. AND a couple of sexy items worn in certain company which scream "Damn the damn scar - full forge ahead!"

I had a triple bypass in 2007...the scar is so faded now that unless I see it in a picture or it itches, i never notice it. But, until it faded, it was the first thing people saw when they looked at me.

If the site has healed, they have great body make-up that covers scars for times you don't want to be stared at.

[Daisy Chain]

I`m giving this thread a little bump...

Hope everyone is having a good weekend so far.......

I`m ending my Saturday with and

Daisy

[FieryRedhead]

Hi everyone,

New here to BFP and enjoying meeting and reading. I don't know many people where I live being new to the area so I am hoping to find like minded women here. This looks like a great place to do that!