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"It's those kinds of attitudes that cause drama and dissuade others from wanting to get involved in these discussions and oftentimes cause them to miss out on the value of being a part of such a wonderful and diverse community.
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tawse, that looks like a UT orange colored mustang in your profile pic ... no? LOL
just joking with you lol. i need to know what every femme should know, ... for the sake of the mercy rule. and for mercy's sake! (i know what you are thinking. she's from mississippi and that means something lol.) |
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Hi Vonni. Welcome to the site. I wanted to address some of the things you are talking about here. I know it is hard to jump in and start posting. One thing you mention is diversity. You are right that there is a lot of diversity here and it is part of what makes it so fun to read and post! I learn things all the time here.
On the dash site someone started a fun thread about OCD. At least that is what they though they were doing. I have OCD and so of course I was interested and went in to read it. It was actually not about OCD. It was about joking about being extra clean or particular about certain things. I wasn't offended but did want to post that for some people these quirks were'nt funny and actually were debilitating, scary and difficult to deal with. The OP pretty much called me a buzzkill. I was bumming people out. They suggested I go read something else or stay out of the thread. I wasn't trying to cause problems or make a fuss. I wanted to suggest that maybe the thread not be called OCD but something else. I wanted to let people know that it might not be funny to everyone. I am telling this story to illustrate that posting things and having others disagree or challenge what you are saying is the diversity that makes this site and others like it so great. Sometimes people may not be nice about it. One person's "nice" might be someone else's mean. I think it is ok to address someone and let them know that you are uncomfortable with what they have said or even how they have said it. That seems to be how things work on forums. As far as the OP and this thread it seems like people have posted how they feel as femmes and are showing the diversity here. Quote:
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I never saw the OP's intentions ever being the center of discussion in this thread.
I also think who is considered rude is going to vary depending on whose perception it is.
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I miss the days where being specific about context and meaning and fucking language was something of value and not me being a big meaniehead.
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Not here to school anyone, but your rudeness is duly noted.
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Ugh! That photo of me isn’t one of my best! My hair needed combing and wasn’t my mane attraction and my behind was a little too fluffy that day! LOL!
Orange and blues are good; All Black is great, but…..Silver, now silver is where it’s AT! Ooooooh! The eye-candy on the New Zealand Women’s Rugby team…..a Femme cannot help but perv, admire salaciously, lol!
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Believe we when I say I STRUGGLE with this.. lol at least once a month. If ONLY Tennessee WAS NOT Tennessee - I could obsess freely.. but as is I make sure I put a LOT of magnets on the Stang when we go to the UGA vs UT games. And even then I'm nervous... lol signed, Torn between the love of a color and the hate of a rival |
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Is this still the "what every femme should know thread"?
Cars, interior blue lights Tawse & Incubus? You know I love both of you ( in a sister sort of way) but really guys!
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How about posting your car in the car gallery? I'd love to see a larger picture.
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Hey, Anya. I think because this is actually in the Quotes, Snippets, and Other Writing and was actually only meant to be brief quote from the OP and not a discussion on "what every femme should know", people are feeling free to just blab. Meaning, since the thread already moved away from its original purpose (which was not a discussion thread), it is undefined
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This coming from someone who's been in the car as well as the cab. Crap. You all fussed so long and so much that the page that this was referencing is too far back for me to figure out what in the Hell I was addressing for Quirky. I'll have to check it again and come back to finish my thought. Quote:
Posting in emotionally charged threads CAN be daunting for those who are new to this particular group of people. It would be so easy if everyone who ever got upset would put their big boy/girl shorts/panties/etc on and either walked away or dealt with things in an 'adult' manner. Some of the time, we do. Sometimes, we don't. We're all human and all of us have different spheres of reference from which to draw. So, don't lose faith or think poorly of us. We get it right more days than we get it wrong. Quote:
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It just seems to me that you saw the heading and posted. It's not the end of the world! For the record, I used to love gels and like the handpainting of the gel coating. I like manicures. I love having my toes done too and they are almost NEVER the same color as my fingers. Because I can. Also for the record, I do maintenance on my golf carts at work as well as climbing ladders and taking down and installing 8-9 foot lighting bulbs. I don't do it because it's fun and I am quite afraid of, not so much the height, but the hard landing should I fall. But I do it. Because I can. Also also for the record, I feel most comfy in jeans and a shirt that makes my breasts look bigger. I wasn't blessed with an ample bosom, so I'm making lemonade out of this batch of lemons I have (extra weight). It just so happens that the best clothing for this is maternity clothing. My current favorite pair of jeans are maternity and they hug my hips in a delicous manner. Because I can. Also also also for the record, I am the epitome of Gemini, but I am often clumsy and/or careless with my words. But I think that everyone can understand when I say that I am femme. Not the 'every' kind of femme, but the 'only' kind of femme I can be. I like and do the things that I do, sometimes because I am femme and sometimes because I am me. I can do things that aren't 'femme' and I'm still 'me' while doing them but find no joy in doing things just to 'be' femme if it's not 'me'. I enjoy things that 'some' femmes enjoy but not 'all' femmes. Not 'all' femmes enjoy the things that 'I' enjoy. Quantified expressions are hard to handle sometimes. It's good for us all to have a reminder that we ALL speak from our 'me, myself, I' place. Things get hinky when folks start talking from the viewpoint of others. That's not good. I love that we can have multiple discussions and multiple viewpoints going on within the same thread at the same time. It's makes my Gemini multi-tasking heart beat a little faster. However, I thought that the dialogue between Kobi and Julie went really well. It felt like a real time discussion in which they hashed things out and really LISTENED to one another. Is it really so bad to wish that that happened more often? Last edited by Gemme; 02-24-2012 at 05:41 PM. |
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