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07-22-2011, 09:53 PM | #1 |
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Being perceived as ditzy, flaky or shallow for being femme
It seems that this will be another soul searching difficult post for me, which has been incited by thoughts and feelings I have experienced over a few different nights, and particularly last night when out at a gay bar in town.
As a quick background, for the most part I identify as femme, and it is something that I feel is “natural” to me and something I have experimented with. Before I came out “officially” I confess that I had this strange notion that to be a lesbian, I would have to be more butch, and I did experiment with becoming more masculine in both mannerism and clothing style. However it didn’t take me too long to realise that this simply wasn’t who I am, it was an ill fitting costume. When I go out, I do like to dress up and I tend to sit more in the high femme end… And lately (I am not sure whether it is happening more, whether I am noticing it more, or whether I am just being more sensitive to it) but I feel like butch women don’t take me seriously, and treat me like an idiot, or dismiss me as being shallow simply for the fact that I am wearing cosmetics, and feminine clothes and (most importantly for me) having fun with my clothes! I will post more on this topic soon, I am really just feeling utterly depressed and rejected right now.
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