Long Distance Relationships

Stone-Butch · 02-05-2020, 08:57 AM

I believe anything will work if you put enough into it. I had a two year online using Skype to connect. We spoke daily and she had to have surgery so I wired a beautiful bouquet of flowers to the hospital. We only stopped speaking when her daughter was brought home from her dads and we could not say two words without the daughter standing by her mom talking or putting her face up to the camera etc. After many days of this and her mother saying little I called it quits. She was a lovely woman and very attractive but there is a limit to everyone's patience I suppose.
Anyway, I was suppose to go down to the US to see her before the break but of course it never made it. I do however think it can work as it all depends on the two people involved. I have friends that have had a one year relationship and ended it and they dated every weekend so, it's the people involved in my opinion.

JDeere · 02-09-2020, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Stone-Butch

I believe anything will work if you put enough into it. I had a two year online using Skype to connect. We spoke daily and she had to have surgery so I wired a beautiful bouquet of flowers to the hospital. We only stopped speaking when her daughter was brought home from her dads and we could not say two words without the daughter standing by her mom talking or putting her face up to the camera etc. After many days of this and her mother saying little I called it quits. She was a lovely woman and very attractive but there is a limit to everyone's patience I suppose.
Anyway, I was suppose to go down to the US to see her before the break but of course it never made it. I do however think it can work as it all depends on the two people involved. I have friends that have had a one year relationship and ended it and they dated every weekend so, it's the people involved in my opinion.

You're right, it takes two to make it work.

Ldrs aren't easy by any means.

I'm sorry you have had bad experiences with this.

charley · 02-10-2020, 06:53 AM

Another reason I am not interested in LDRs is that I just don't have the $$ to even consider getting involved in that way (long-distance phone calls, travelling, gifts, etc.). Financially, I manage well enough just for me.

However, I wish everyone the very best who is lucky enough to find that special one in an LDR and young enough to make that relationship happen so that they then can say that there is love between them, something I have been lucky enough to have lived through twice in my lifetime*.

*I will add here a personal note... the first one is dead, and the second one got into a cheap crapola group therapy (rme), which I had warned her against, and "became" more controlling than she was before, and that ended that. As I had accepted myself when younger, I had easily accepted her - lock, stock and barrel - prior to her "therapy"; but it was obvious because of her shoddy work on herself that she became permanently unable to accept herself and hence me, and obviously anyone else - and that's how you can tell that choosing a good therapist is of primary importance. I was not surprised at the time of her getting into therapy as she had just filled her heart with empathy, and I understood that it was now time for her to free herself of her past, her life mission having been completed. As I understood it then and still see it that way, many people choose therapists (and friends) who do not threaten their dysfunctional conditioning, believing - falsely and quite erroneously - that that they can never be free of that conditioning - something that the irresponsible and good-for-nothing therapist encouraged! Oh, the damage that lesbian therapist did to her and so many other women!!! Some years later, I heard that she regretted how she treated me and went looking for me, and I thought then, "Too late, bye."

02-05-2020, 08:57 AM	#1
Stone-Butch Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stonebutch Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Canada Posts: 3,238 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,247 Thanked 8,526 Times in 2,660 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	LDR I believe anything will work if you put enough into it. I had a two year online using Skype to connect. We spoke daily and she had to have surgery so I wired a beautiful bouquet of flowers to the hospital. We only stopped speaking when her daughter was brought home from her dads and we could not say two words without the daughter standing by her mom talking or putting her face up to the camera etc. After many days of this and her mother saying little I called it quits. She was a lovely woman and very attractive but there is a limit to everyone's patience I suppose. Anyway, I was suppose to go down to the US to see her before the break but of course it never made it. I do however think it can work as it all depends on the two people involved. I have friends that have had a one year relationship and ended it and they dated every weekend so, it's the people involved in my opinion.

02-10-2020, 06:53 AM	#3
charley Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: gentle stonebutch [vanilla] Relationship Status: single Join Date: Dec 2017 Location: canada Posts: 497 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 906 Thanked 1,204 Times in 422 Posts Rep Power: 0	LDRs Another reason I am not interested in LDRs is that I just don't have the $$ to even consider getting involved in that way (long-distance phone calls, travelling, gifts, etc.). Financially, I manage well enough just for me. However, I wish everyone the very best who is lucky enough to find that special one in an LDR and young enough to make that relationship happen so that they then can say that there is love between them, something I have been lucky enough to have lived through twice in my lifetime. I will add here a personal note... the first one is dead, and the second one got into a cheap crapola group therapy (rme), which I had warned her against, and "became" more controlling than she was before, and that ended that. As I had accepted myself when younger, I had easily accepted her - lock, stock and barrel - prior to her "therapy"; but it was obvious because of her shoddy work on herself that she became permanently unable to accept herself and hence me, and obviously anyone else - and that's how you can tell that choosing a good therapist is of primary importance. I was not surprised at the time of her getting into therapy as she had just filled her heart with empathy, and I understood that it was now time for her to free herself of her past, her life mission having been completed. As I understood it then and still see it that way, many people choose therapists (and friends) who do not threaten their dysfunctional conditioning, believing - falsely and quite erroneously - that that they can never be free of that conditioning - something that the irresponsible and good-for-nothing therapist encouraged! Oh, the damage that lesbian therapist did to her and so many other women!!! Some years later, I heard that she regretted how she treated me and went looking for me, and I thought then, "Too late, bye."