Preferences changing during transition

[Esme nha Maire]

Just a quick additional comment; I woke up fuzzy-headed with a slew of random stuff rattling around my brain when something from my past surfaced and I had a lightbulb moment: Dapper, I wasn't concerned about my lack of breasts until I hit my teens, at which point I became VERY upset that I wasn't devloping/hadn't developed them. And my lack of concern, when breasts did develop under the influence of oestrogen, mirrors the relative lack of concern re genitalia amongst FTMs. I'mthinking aloud here, but..

It's as if the brain is wired so that as long as there is a certain minimum amount of appropriate development in the one area, it doesn't get too upset, whereas too much development in the other makes it very unhappy. Which end causes distress from lack and which from excess is invese between the genders. And as you pointed out, the timing difference between MTFs and FTMs over when distress sets in is down to the 'normal' developmental processes causing problems early in MTF girls and late in FTM guys.

There's a kind of symmetry to that. My inner pattern-recognition geek is satisfied now :-}

Sigh - life. It's all so very complicated! And no user manuals! It's no wonder, given the over-simplistic view of life that was/is thrust at us early on that so many feel confused or distressed unless they are given suitable information or role models to help them understand that things aren't always simple!

There's a kind of symmetry to that