How do you feel about "PDA"?

kittygrrl · 12-19-2014, 09:10 PM

I go back and forth on this question. How much is too much, where and at what point in a relationship?

SleepyButch · 12-19-2014, 09:30 PM

I'm all for public displays of affection. Meaning that I like to hold hands while walking or sitting together... have her arm in mine... my arm around her or my hand on the small of her back. I don't mind a kiss here and there.

I like to touch and be touched but in saying that, I probably am not going to be found making out with someone in public.

I always ask the person I'm with how they feel about PDA as well because I don't want to make the other person uncomfortable.

imperfect_cupcake · 12-19-2014, 10:43 PM

Depends where I am, really (what country, what part).

Generally I enjoy holding hands, or my hand through their arm. Head on their shoulder on the bus or train. Hand on lap at the pub.

Public style kisses, unless it's late night somewhere, after a few drinks, and it's a queer to club, rave or an event or a dark doorway.

I'm not going to play tonsil hockey on the train at 7pm.

But I have made out pretty heavily after midnight in the pub at a table during a queer event. Maybe even did kissing rounds at the table....

Gotten rather frisky at a pride picnic before when some young butch wanted to try kissing the girls that were in our circle... We passed her around for a proper snog each.

Generally, I'm pretty reserved unless the special occasion calls for a bit of fun.

starryeyes · 12-19-2014, 11:12 PM

I love it. Just sayin!! :-D

MysticOceansFL · 12-20-2014, 04:09 AM

I'm all for it! Walking hand and hand or my arm around her waist or while driving I lay my hand on her thigh and her touching me also and telling each other " I love you's " in public also and sharing food off each other plates but I'm not into showing sexually how I deeply feel about my partner in public that should be at home you know that's private! But anything else I'm all for!

CherryWine · 12-20-2014, 09:07 AM

I am pretty much in agreement with what others have posted. Holding hands, quick pecks on the cheek or forehead, maybe a little back rub here and there. Where I live, this is mostly limited to gay bars and gay-friendly events in order to avoid rude comments or stares.

I don't care to watch someone straddling their partner and sucking face in public, so you won't find me doing it either. Get a room for all of that. Lol.

grenade · 12-20-2014, 09:31 AM

It depends on where we are. I'm a toucher. I will touch anywhere. If I'm not touching my partner then I'm holding hands with my 13 year old daughter.

TruTexan · 12-20-2014, 11:13 AM

I"m pretty much like sleepy on PDA. I enjoy being with a partner and touching them. I love to be touched in return. But I'm not about to play tonsil hockey as HB put it public or straddle my partner , that's for getting a room somewhere and not in public in MHO( I don't like seeing it either, either gay or straight.)

Logicaly · 01-03-2015, 12:20 AM

I like some PDA for sure. Walking down the street holding her hand. Or if we are standing at a street corner waiting to cross I will take the opportunity to have my arms around her, or to steal a kiss. If we are driving, and just pulled into a parking spot, I am more likely to get a longer kiss before we get out of the car.

I think there is a point it does become too much, but simple things, instead of full on make-out sessions are good.

CherylNYC · 01-03-2015, 11:52 AM

Yes to PDA. I like holding hands and being held or touched.

Bèsame* · 01-03-2015, 01:22 PM

I didnt like it. But I know I wasn't with the right person. Oh, how things change

Love it when he is slightly agressive in public. Ahuh. Yes please!

Blaze · 01-03-2015, 11:41 PM

I'm not affraid to show my affection, I am respectful if children are around... But I have a Girl that is extremly exciting and beautiful and I get so wrapped up into her that everything around me is a blur and she is all that I see and desire..

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flapdoodle · 01-03-2015, 11:57 PM

but, always a lady, in public

rkim33 · 01-07-2015, 08:54 PM

I wouldnt mind holding hands, having my arm around her waist or shoulder. Probably wouldnt kiss her unless I find her to be irresistibly sexy at the moment! Who the hell knows? Its all depending on the situation.

Keep Smilin · 01-07-2015, 09:53 PM

I think PDA is ok and I like it... If it's tasteful and respectful of those around...also I must agree... Always a lady in public.

JDeere · 05-15-2015, 12:29 AM

I am all for PDA but I won't do it around children or people who I just met and might not feel comfortable about seeing it.

My partner has 3 children and I don't show PDA around them, just yet, we are still starting to get to know each other and I respect their mom's wishes for no PDA when they are around. Until my partner makes it "official" with me.

Cole610 · 05-16-2015, 09:41 PM

Would like some

gotoseagrl · 05-16-2015, 10:13 PM

It makes me very proud of who i'm with, but would avoid over doing it. "Discrete" PDA is fun too, just saying.

Mormegil · 05-16-2015, 10:17 PM

I like to hold hands . but my ex gf was afraid to because her fear of retaliation or harassment from the bible thumpers and rednecks here.so i respected her wishes. i seriously doubt anything would happen here if we had...but then again i never EVER see lesbian or gay men holding hands here unless its gay pride downtown or memorial day at the beach.. and ive lived here my whole life not even once have i seen pda in public unless it was a staight couple. but yeah...id hold hands , hug or whatever not makeout or anything

TruTexan · 05-16-2015, 10:59 PM

I don't think there's anything wrong with appropriate PDA. I'm not into getting all over someone ......that's just too much for me and I don't like seeing it either........from any couple. Get a Room for that. LOL

12-19-2014, 09:10 PM	#1
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: je ne sais quoi Preferred Pronoun?: baby grrl Relationship Status: a few laughs Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the real Posts: 8,802 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,381 Thanked 21,371 Times in 6,721 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	How do you feel about "PDA"? I go back and forth on this question. How much is too much, where and at what point in a relationship? __________________ "All cruelty springs from weakness" Seneca

12-19-2014, 09:30 PM	#2
SleepyButch Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Dude Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him Relationship Status: Taken Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Hidden Valley Ranch Posts: 3,510 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,220 Thanked 11,244 Times in 2,753 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I'm all for public displays of affection. Meaning that I like to hold hands while walking or sitting together... have her arm in mine... my arm around her or my hand on the small of her back. I don't mind a kiss here and there. I like to touch and be touched but in saying that, I probably am not going to be found making out with someone in public. I always ask the person I'm with how they feel about PDA as well because I don't want to make the other person uncomfortable. __________________ . You cannot embrace those things that will not embrace you back.

12-19-2014, 11:12 PM	#4
starryeyes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: a round peg in a square hole Preferred Pronoun?: Guess... Relationship Status: Seat taken Join Date: May 2011 Location: Rocky Mountain High Posts: 2,491 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,199 Thanked 10,057 Times in 2,078 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I love it. Just sayin!! :-D __________________ "It's ok to make mistakes. It's ok to fall down. Get up! Look sickening....and make them eat it!" - Latrice Royale Starry

12-20-2014, 04:09 AM	#5
MysticOceansFL Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, Preferred Pronoun?: People call me by my nic name. Relationship Status: Not Single, Not Desperate. Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Florida Posts: 3,833 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,645 Thanked 4,035 Times in 1,720 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I'm all for it! Walking hand and hand or my arm around her waist or while driving I lay my hand on her thigh and her touching me also and telling each other " I love you's " in public also and sharing food off each other plates but I'm not into showing sexually how I deeply feel about my partner in public that should be at home you know that's private! But anything else I'm all for! __________________ Faith is not belief without proof, but trust without reservation. It is said, " Some lives are linked across time..... Connected by an ancient calling that echoes through the ages "......

12-20-2014, 11:13 AM	#8
TruTexan Senior Member How Do You Identify?: lesbian butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: in a one horse town in a large state, in the U.S. Posts: 3,952 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,112 Thanked 5,268 Times in 1,633 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I"m pretty much like sleepy on PDA. I enjoy being with a partner and touching them. I love to be touched in return. But I'm not about to play tonsil hockey as HB put it public or straddle my partner , that's for getting a room somewhere and not in public in MHO( I don't like seeing it either, either gay or straight.) __________________

12-19-2014, 10:43 PM	#3
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,727 Times in 1,613 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Depends where I am, really (what country, what part). Generally I enjoy holding hands, or my hand through their arm. Head on their shoulder on the bus or train. Hand on lap at the pub. Public style kisses, unless it's late night somewhere, after a few drinks, and it's a queer to club, rave or an event or a dark doorway. I'm not going to play tonsil hockey on the train at 7pm. But I have made out pretty heavily after midnight in the pub at a table during a queer event. Maybe even did kissing rounds at the table.... Gotten rather frisky at a pride picnic before when some young butch wanted to try kissing the girls that were in our circle... We passed her around for a proper snog each. Generally, I'm pretty reserved unless the special occasion calls for a bit of fun.

12-20-2014, 09:07 AM	#6
CherryWine Senior Member How Do You Identify?: lesbian femme Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: The Deep South Posts: 2,491 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,060 Thanked 10,084 Times in 2,186 Posts Rep Power: 21474847	I am pretty much in agreement with what others have posted. Holding hands, quick pecks on the cheek or forehead, maybe a little back rub here and there. Where I live, this is mostly limited to gay bars and gay-friendly events in order to avoid rude comments or stares. I don't care to watch someone straddling their partner and sucking face in public, so you won't find me doing it either. Get a room for all of that. Lol.

12-20-2014, 09:31 AM	#7
grenade Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Full Flavor Femme Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Midwest Posts: 2,929 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,925 Thanked 8,062 Times in 2,121 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	It depends on where we are. I'm a toucher. I will touch anywhere. If I'm not touching my partner then I'm holding hands with my 13 year old daughter.

01-03-2015, 12:20 AM	#9
Logicaly Member How Do You Identify?: Transgender Male Preferred Pronoun?: Male Relationship Status: She is the gamer girl to my gamer boy Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: California, Bay Area Posts: 683 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 395 Thanked 1,744 Times in 513 Posts Rep Power: 8641137	I like some PDA for sure. Walking down the street holding her hand. Or if we are standing at a street corner waiting to cross I will take the opportunity to have my arms around her, or to steal a kiss. If we are driving, and just pulled into a parking spot, I am more likely to get a longer kiss before we get out of the car. I think there is a point it does become too much, but simple things, instead of full on make-out sessions are good. __________________ ~Logicaly~ Geeky guy extraordinaire Always and Forever

01-03-2015, 11:52 AM	#10
CherylNYC Member How Do You Identify?: Stonefemme lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: I'm a woman. Behave accordingly. Relationship Status: Single, not looking. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: NYC Posts: 1,467 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,474 Thanked 7,150 Times in 1,206 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Yes to PDA. I like holding hands and being held or touched. __________________ Cheryl

01-03-2015, 01:22 PM	#11
Bèsame* Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femm Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: ☀️☀️☀️ Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Closer to the waves Posts: 14,772 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 28,402 Thanked 39,529 Times in 10,206 Posts Rep Power: 21474862	I didnt like it. But I know I wasn't with the right person. Oh, how things change Love it when he is slightly agressive in public. Ahuh. Yes please! __________________ kisses A kiss is a whisper in your mouth. Can I borrow a kiss? I promise to give it back.

01-03-2015, 11:41 PM	#12
Blaze Senior Member How Do You Identify?: With my drivers Lic. Preferred Pronoun?: Gentleman.. Depends on the Situation. Relationship Status: Last Rodeo, what a ride, many sunrises & sunsets to be had... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: where a realtor had me sign the dotted line Posts: 1,901 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,466 Thanked 5,470 Times in 1,450 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I'm not affraid to show my affection, I am respectful if children are around... But I have a Girl that is extremly exciting and beautiful and I get so wrapped up into her that everything around me is a blur and she is all that I see and desire.. .

01-03-2015, 11:57 PM	#13
flapdoodle Junior Member How Do You Identify?: I'm the Mrs. Preferred Pronoun?: reflexive Relationship Status: Married in 2013 Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: sing it Frankie baby Posts: 81 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8 Thanked 245 Times in 59 Posts Rep Power: 1073756	love it but, always a lady, in public

01-07-2015, 08:54 PM	#14
rkim33 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Stud Preferred Pronoun?: You...Her... She....I Relationship Status: Single and dry for over a year now.."sob" Join Date: Jan 2015 Location: New York City Posts: 7 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 0 Thanked 25 Times in 6 Posts Rep Power: 0	I wouldnt mind holding hands, having my arm around her waist or shoulder. Probably wouldnt kiss her unless I find her to be irresistibly sexy at the moment! Who the hell knows? Its all depending on the situation.

01-07-2015, 09:53 PM	#15
Keep Smilin Member How Do You Identify?: Fabulously happy Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: Content with myself :-) Join Date: Jan 2015 Location: Happily in my own Pollyanna world :-) Posts: 109 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,171 Thanked 433 Times in 101 Posts Rep Power: 5181089	I think PDA is ok and I like it... If it's tasteful and respectful of those around...also I must agree... Always a lady in public. __________________ ~KS~ Life is too short to live unhappy. Seek peace, joy and love for you will recieve that which you seek. -Anonymous

05-15-2015, 12:29 AM	#16
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,871 Times in 9,718 Posts Rep Power: 21474863	I am all for PDA but I won't do it around children or people who I just met and might not feel comfortable about seeing it. My partner has 3 children and I don't show PDA around them, just yet, we are still starting to get to know each other and I respect their mom's wishes for no PDA when they are around. Until my partner makes it "official" with me. __________________ Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. Albert Einstein

05-16-2015, 09:41 PM	#17
Cole610 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Hey You, Dude Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: New Westminster BC Canada Posts: 57 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 514 Thanked 197 Times in 44 Posts Rep Power: 2362244	Would like some

05-16-2015, 10:13 PM	#18
gotoseagrl Senior Member How Do You Identify?: old-fashioned queer stone submissive girl Preferred Pronoun?: mermaid, very lucky babygirl Relationship Status: Saltwater mermaid ♡ Join Date: May 2010 Location: CA Posts: 2,209 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,192 Thanked 6,116 Times in 1,726 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	It makes me very proud of who i'm with, but would avoid over doing it. "Discrete" PDA is fun too, just saying. __________________ Be still when you have nothing to say; when genuine passion moves you, say what you've got to say, and say it hot. D. H. Lawrence

05-16-2015, 10:17 PM	#19
Mormegil Junior Member How Do You Identify?: just myself Preferred Pronoun?: meh Relationship Status: single Join Date: May 2014 Location: pensacola , FL Posts: 64 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31 Thanked 184 Times in 50 Posts Rep Power: 1853352	I like to hold hands . but my ex gf was afraid to because her fear of retaliation or harassment from the bible thumpers and rednecks here.so i respected her wishes. i seriously doubt anything would happen here if we had...but then again i never EVER see lesbian or gay men holding hands here unless its gay pride downtown or memorial day at the beach.. and ive lived here my whole life not even once have i seen pda in public unless it was a staight couple. but yeah...id hold hands , hug or whatever not makeout or anything __________________ "All is full of love"

05-16-2015, 10:59 PM	#20
TruTexan Senior Member How Do You Identify?: lesbian butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: in a one horse town in a large state, in the U.S. Posts: 3,952 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,112 Thanked 5,268 Times in 1,633 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I don't think there's anything wrong with appropriate PDA. I'm not into getting all over someone ......that's just too much for me and I don't like seeing it either........from any couple. Get a Room for that. LOL __________________