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01-20-2011, 12:16 AM | #1 |
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How do you "come down" from a bad day?
I'm a substitute teacher, while completing my classes for my masters', and needless to say, it's very stressful. I have had near-fights break out in my classroom, trouble with classroom management (I wouldn't frighten a flea), and feeling like I'm not doing any one thing well, professionally and personally.
What I am asking is, how do you transition from work with all its stresses to home life, without breaking out the fudge ripple or snapping at your partner? I feel like I bring too much of work home with me, and then I'm in for a stressful evening with little time for myself. Then it's go to bed in dread of the next day. I need a change. How do you let work stay at work, and then get calmed down for bed? I don't have anyone, so that avenue is out . On the plus side, I do enjoy yoga and meditation to "warm up" in the morning. It's worth getting up earlier for that.
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01-20-2011, 12:27 AM | #2 |
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It's a proven fact that petting animals lowers one's blood pressure. So, pet your pet if you have one. Play with it and it give your attention and affection. Focusing on something joyful like tug-a-war or fetch with your pet is a great stress reliever. Besides that love and affection will be returned 100 times over! If you don't have one, you might want to consider getting one
Also, a movie or music can be relaxing too. Or, reading a really good novel. That's a great way to escape from your stresses. ~~~shark~~~~~~~
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Being a substitute is hard work; I commend you for trying. I know you don't get paid to do this, but try it if you're willing...
Get there about 45 minutes early so you have the day's plan down pat; that should keep you from feeling like you're winging it. And then stay as long as you need to get the report written up and everything organized. Don't rush out of there if you don't have to. Again, I know you don't get paid for that extra time; but I really believe it's important to take time in the morning to *know* the day's plan and then take time at the end of the day to put it all in order........and let it go. That's important; once you walk out of that room leave what happened in there *in there*. Maybe physically shut the door to symbolize shutting out the tension of the day??? Not sure how you feel about exercise, but I bet a 10-minute jog or 20-minute vigorous walk would do wonders for releasing a lot of that stress. I spent a lot of years in the classroom, and a lot of those years taking classes as well. I *know* how hard your days are. You definitely need to come up with some strategies to manage the stress and, most importantly, take care of *you*. Best wishes...
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What Thinker said about planning ahead is great advice
I also like to work out with a heavy bag and smack the crap out of it, it really helps release tension. I also do small things to pamper myself on my lunch like listen to great music, look at beautiful things on my computer or phone, have a short meditation I also use my time in the car as cool down and reset time, sometimes I scream in my car if it is really bad. By the time I get home usually the initial cranky ass part is diffused. Good luck
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I worked in health care/mental health for decades. When I took work home with me, it was either because something particularly hideous occurred or, there was something I felt I could have handled better. Either way, for the ride home, my listening pleasure was classical music if I needed to just mellow out, a comedy tape (yes we used tapes back then) if I needed to laugh, or something by Loretta LaRoche if I needed a kick in the butt. Once home, physical activity was a necessity.... a walk on the beach, bike ride, trip to the gym, raquetball game. The activity seemed to expel the excess energy and calm my mind enough for me to relax and be able to process what I needed to. A hot shower or bath as kind of a ritual washing away of the days crap helped. A hearty meal followed by a calming movie or good book helped as well.
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What works best for me is to take the time to be still and quiet - lets me clear my mind. Whether that means being outside listening to the soothing sounds of nature or at home in my favourite comfy chair. Either way it usually doesn't take long for me to come in for a landing.
Still there are times when my job can get pretty intense, leaving me feeling like my head is going to explode and I can't really talk to anyone about the details of the day because of attorney/client confidentiality. So if it's been particularly heinous day I will sit down, write it all out and then burn or bury the paper. Never tearing it - don't want to scatter that stuff back into my world. As always there is smudging, incense, candles and meditation. |
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There's a reason I call my home place "Peaceful Ridge".
I wind down by sometimes taking a nap. Also, watching the birds, piddling in the yard, watching the news to remind me others had a lot worse day than I did. I try to keep in mind that life is only 10% what happens to you it's 90% how you react to it. With this in mind, when I walk thru that turn stile at work I hang my work hat and attitude on the inside of the fence and put on my home hat. When I walk in the door at home I'm greeted by a frenzy of crazy puppy love by 3 adorable critters who adore their Daddy and typically all the stress of the workday fades away.
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Usually having a glass of wine while preparing an involving meal helps me relax a lot. If it's been a day from hell, going to the gym works wonders.
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Love this topic...
I work from home, so being able to switch gears is critical for my sanity. Some of my colleagues are firing off emails at 2 a.m. and working 7 days a week. They're also the ones we get the email about... "so and so is pursuing opportunities outside of *company*. Please join us in wishing them well." I multi-task all day long...bouncing between work, online play (like now), household and kid responsibilities...until it's time for work to end. I do that by the clock...and it's 5 p.m. unless I have a critical conference call. Then I will work until the end of that call, period. I will quickly jot down any tasks I'm responsible for or notes I need for the next morning, then I'm done. I never, ever, ever spend more time at work than a normal day...or I'll end up being one of those burned out colleagues. For me, longevity is the most important thing...and work is a marathon, not a sprint. So....when it's time to quit for the day...I flag any emails that haven't been resolved from the day, I add new tasks to my "to do" list, and then I shut down my computer and close the lid. I do not go back to that desk until the next morning. The "dividing" activity for me is always the same...dinner preparation. Whether I'm cooking or running to KFC, the act of getting dinner is the dividing line. Work stays on the other side, in it's own little mental compartment. I don't think about it, or generally talk about it, at all once dinner is underway. Once dinner is being prepared, it's all about home and kids and partner...whether that's helping with homework, watching TV, reading a book, whatever. I'm the same on vacations and weekends. If you talked to me while I'm on a weekend or a vacation...you wouldn't even think I had a job.
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Your post reminded me of my adventures in substitute teaching in New York. My first day involved an attempted stabbing by a third grader with safety scissors.
I have since moved on to different adventures. Now my stress comes from the men in my life. That is, being the only female working amongst 30 or so men. And, having to constantly convince men that yes, this little girl does know what she's talking about, and can drive a stick better than you! Long hot baths with a glass of wine and some reading material help with the cool down. But, I've found that doing my laundry helps me come down too! I hope you find something that sooths you! N
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