Your Death and Post-Death Preferences

Nat · 10-23-2011, 02:14 PM

I know it sounds morbid, but we are all facing eventual death. Sometimes we know it's coming and sometimes we don't. It's the one area where we have little control over when or where or how.

Today, it's on my mind. I'm not sure why, and I am. It's not coming from a morbid place. It's just that it's been on my mind lately. Maybe it was beautiful sweetcalico's clothes at the femme clothing swap and the feeling she is still with us, that her memory lives on among us. Due to a long break from the community, I wasn't aware she was sick. But she was one of my favorite posters on the dash site, and it was saddening to know she had passed over. But the clothing swap was beautiful and part of the reason for that was the passing on of her clothes to her sister femmes and the honoring of her spirit in that sweaty half-naked, warm frenzy.

And I've been thinking about the funerals and other memorials I've attended. I love cemeteries - especially the older ones.

So I guess this thread is a chance to think about what you'd like to leave behind, how you'd like your death handled, what you want to happen with your body, how you'd like to be remembered. Of course these ideas are like to change over the years. So, I will post my own thoughts later. Hopefully death is a long long way away for most of us, but I don't think it would be ad to have an idea in mind for the time when it comes. For those facing death at closer range, I assume you may have begun to think about these things more than those of us may have.

Turtle · 10-23-2011, 02:44 PM

I spend a lot of time in the midst of death and grief and I am very aware if it...

I try to live my life being with other people as best I can...

When people hear of my passing, my preference would be for people to just smile and think how nice it was to know me. But it's not that simple, I can't run other people's feelings or their grief, but I'd rather they weren't in pain...so I'd rather just evaporate over time from people's consciousness and that they never hear of my death...just be glad to have known me...

atomiczombie · 10-23-2011, 02:54 PM

I know enough about what funeral parlors do to bodies to know that I want to be cremated.

stargazingboi · 10-23-2011, 03:19 PM

I know it’s a painful thought for many to think about losing the person they love, a friend, a lover, a sister, a brother, etc.

As for the actual funeral the arrangements they have been all set up and placed in writing…everything is selected so that no one has to sit and wonder what to do during such a time. My hope is that if there is anything left worth using to save another, that they take it…then send me off for the services and then cremation. I update it often…music lists change, I grow each year and tweak the message I want to sent to those I leave behind.

I am aware of my mortality, as I have faced death several times, and know that in the future one day I will not be able to escape my fate. I live each day grateful for being able to spend one more day with those I love, and I pray they know just how much love I hold for them.

Much like Turtle, I would like people to smile when they think me, to know that I impacted them in a positive way…remember me fondly and gently, remember my strength and desires to live a love filled life. However, yet again Turtle points out a fact that remains…I cannot control their response. So, I sit and I pray that the love I gave will be enough to last through the years they remain.

Ebon · 10-23-2011, 03:27 PM

I would like for my body to be buried in a biodegradable bag so that my body can provide nutrients for the earth and the living plants around it. I don't care where. Everybody can party and have a good time around the burial sight. I would prefer for people to celebrate my life and not mourn my death. And no one is allowed to wear black.

Jett · 10-23-2011, 03:40 PM

I want to be rolled and smoked... but since I can't have that I supposed cremation will do, kind of the same thing I guess..

As to what I want to leave ppl with, just that I am remembered fondly... my possessions are to my gal and family.

Words · 10-23-2011, 03:54 PM

I want a traditional Muslim burial. Ideally, it should take place within 24 hours of my passing although I appreciate that for practical reasons, that's unlikely to happen so I've made it clear that even if I have to spend a few days 'on hold' elsewhere, I want to spend the night before the burial at home. (I used to work in a hospital and often had cause to visit the mortuary...the impersonal nature, the sterile environment, are probably why I want this.)

A bit strange, I know, but it's important to me.

Words

Daywalker · 10-23-2011, 04:08 PM

When I pass ~

I've heard that there are a couple of
questions folks have just before they pass.

Was I loved, and did I love well.
I can honestly say that I can say yes to both of these.

I am of the Philosophy that when we are born, we begin to die.
From that moment on, it is the inevitable and we should all act accordingly.

Take the physical being I reside in and sift through the ashes when I'm gone.
You will not find me there, I will be in the same place I always have been.
In the hearts of those who shared My life with me.

Mrs Day would like to wear an amulet with my ashes in it.
I told her to feel free to have mah ashes added to ink.
She tiled her head...and I said...for a tattoo.

I probably didn't answer the questions,
but I'm not high yet so there that is.

Hack · 10-24-2011, 09:30 PM

I read an article several months ago about the "green" funeral movement. If you think about it, when we bury the dead in a cemetery, we put a lot of stuff in the ground that is not good -- heavy metals, chemicals, treated wood products, etc.

I tried to find a link to the article (it was in Audubon Magazine), but I can't locate it. Here is a good link, though, to an organization that espouses "green" funerals. http://www.greenburialcouncil.org/

As for me, personally, I have to admit I haven't given much thought to it. I am a very much a "day at a time" type of person. I do know I'm not big on a church thing. I'd just rather it be some sort of non-denominational memorial type thing with a nice party afterward.

tapu · 10-25-2011, 04:30 AM

columbarium?

always2late · 10-25-2011, 04:38 AM

Donate whatever can be donated, and then cremation.

tapu · 10-25-2011, 04:42 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Hack

I read an article several months ago about the "green" funeral movement. If you think about it, when we bury the dead in a cemetery, we put a lot of stuff in the ground that is not good -- heavy metals, chemicals, treated wood products, etc.

I tried to find a link to the article (it was in Audubon Magazine), but I can't locate it. Here is a good link, though, to an organization that espouses "green" funerals. http://www.greenburialcouncil.org/

As for me, personally, I have to admit I haven't given much thought to it. I am a very much a "day at a time" type of person. I do know I'm not big on a church thing. I'd just rather it be some sort of non-denominational memorial type thing with a nice party afterward.

Six Feet Under had a few episodes about green burials. There were some pretty visceral details, but seemed good to me. (I think I read that the land might be a problem--is it that it shouldn't get into the water table or something?) I don't know, but it's an interesting topic to research.

JAGG · 10-28-2011, 01:32 PM

I have a will and all my loved ones already know this. Just in case here is my desires. Take all the parts you want , cremate the rest. But here is the most important part. Instead of a wake and a funeral, I want a huge party! Catered in a huge place with a big dance floorand lots of tables and chairs. Free open bar. With a champagne fountain. I want a band or a real good DJ. They can request any song or music they want. But they must play these 2 songs, and when they do everyone must get on the dance floor and dance. Even if you are in a wheelchair. The Hokey Pokey, and the chicken dance. Because you can't dance to those songs without laughing or at least smile. I promise if I can be there somehow come back for a few minutes to be with you for those two songs I will. Then at the end of the evening after everyone has eaten well , drank their fill and danced, they will go outside for one awesome fireworks show. And those who know me, know if I can be there with you for that, I wouldn't miss it.

Gina · 11-08-2011, 12:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JAGG

I have a will and all my loved ones already know this. Just in case here is my desires. Take all the parts you want , cremate the rest. But here is the most important part. Instead of a wake and a funeral, I want a huge party! Catered in a huge place with a big dance floorand lots of tables and chairs. Free open bar. With a champagne fountain. I want a band or a real good DJ. They can request any song or music they want. But they must play these 2 songs, and when they do everyone must get on the dance floor and dance. Even if you are in a wheelchair. The Hokey Pokey, and the chicken dance. Because you can't dance to those songs without laughing or at least smile. I promise if I can be there somehow come back for a few minutes to be with you for those two songs I will. Then at the end of the evening after everyone has eaten well , drank their fill and danced, they will go outside for one awesome fireworks show. And those who know me, know if I can be there with you for that, I wouldn't miss it.

I am with you on the party Jagg!!! And there will be one...

Gina (too busy to stay here)..

Glenn · 11-08-2011, 04:47 PM

My parents as well as my teachers from India, have tried to teach me to remain even-minded through all the vicissitudes of life. If I saw a movie that made me cry I was told to stop, it is only a movie. If someone was sick or dying, I was expected to sustain positive vibes or be scolded. When I saw my parents dying I cried, and was told to leave the room. Death and suffering were hardly talked about in my house or among my family unless, it was to give medicine and sympathy in soothing whispers, or practice opposition positivity. At funerals and such, there was no partying or crying. I was to give honor and respect. So when it is time for me to kick off this frame, I want to do it quietly and disappear. The way I am living now. No drama or I miss you.

theoddz · 11-09-2011, 03:12 PM

I am a United States Marine and I've always been very proud of that fact and of the bond I share with my brothers and sisters who also wear that title proudly. Some of the most special moments of my life have been spent in the company of my fellow Marines and when I die, I'd like to rest in their company for all time. I can think of no higher honor and no finer place to rest in peace. So, with that in mind, here are my final wishes.

I am an organ donor, so I'd like whatever I might have left and useable to be donated to help another live or have a higher quality of life, if possible. After that, I want to be cremated and have my ashes interred at the Beaufort National Cemetery, outside the gates of Marine Corps Recruit Depot at Parris Island, South Carolina. I'd like a military funeral with a small detachment of Marines present to present the flag to my family members present. Also, Beaufort, SC, is only 35 miles from my home town of Savannah, GA., so that will mean that I am finally home.

Theo

...via Blackberry.

chai~ · 11-09-2011, 03:28 PM

I will bookmark myself here, and come back with my take on my "wrap party"!

What I DO know is this, donate everything that can help someone else out, eyes, heart, liver, etc.

As a non smoker, non drug user and non drinker, I have some pretty good spare parts for someone else to use!! If I do say so myself!!

Cremate the rest. I don't want $ wasted on a fancy wooden box, with a chunk of carved marble.

Sprinkle me in the sea, then I can travel the world and be everywhere!

If family and friends are worried about not having a grave site to go visit me at, then I suggest to them, light a delicious candle for me in their living room, and take a moment to just talk to me. If they wish they could take flowers to my grave, then please, buy the biggest bouquet, and enjoy them beside the candle. In your own home, share them with me, so they can enjoy them also.

I don't have a lot of "things" to leave behind. But let me think about it some more!

Tuff Stuff · 08-05-2015, 09:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nat

I know it sounds morbid, but we are all facing eventual death. Sometimes we know it's coming and sometimes we don't. It's the one area where we have little control over when or where or how.

Today, it's on my mind. I'm not sure why, and I am. It's not coming from a morbid place. It's just that it's been on my mind lately. Maybe it was beautiful sweetcalico's clothes at the femme clothing swap and the feeling she is still with us, that her memory lives on among us. Due to a long break from the community, I wasn't aware she was sick. But she was one of my favorite posters on the dash site, and it was saddening to know she had passed over. But the clothing swap was beautiful and part of the reason for that was the passing on of her clothes to her sister femmes and the honoring of her spirit in that sweaty half-naked, warm frenzy.

And I've been thinking about the funerals and other memorials I've attended. I love cemeteries - especially the older ones.

So I guess this thread is a chance to think about what you'd like to leave behind, how you'd like your death handled, what you want to happen with your body, how you'd like to be remembered. Of course these ideas are like to change over the years. So, I will post my own thoughts later. Hopefully death is a long long way away for most of us, but I don't think it would be ad to have an idea in mind for the time when it comes. For those facing death at closer range, I assume you may have begun to think about these things more than those of us may have.

No matter what you think of death,its morbid just thinking about it.Yeah,it's there at times,somewhere in the back of my mind...of course right now its up front and center.
My lady worries more about it than me.My job sometimes requires I leave home and hit the roads around 1-3 am in the morning.The roads here are dark and winding and I have escaped a few catastrophes where I had to literally breath a loud sign of relieve that I had escaped death once again.

I have been up close and personal with death.I have seen people die right before my eyes.It doesn't scare me when i'm out there in the world.

Death will frighten me only when i'm like laying in bed at night and my mind is relaxed and I start thinking about people,friends,loved ones who have passed on and I start to let my mind wander about life and death.And its like, when I die that's it,life will be over...and I wonder if it will hurt to die..I mean,you stop breathing and that starts to scare me and I think of something else real quick.

Some tell me death is like birth,like the baby doesn't want to leave its mothers womb,its like people don't want to leave our mother earths womb.I mean what is really on the other side?..anywhere,that's probably another thread.

It's in my Will that I want to be cremated and taken to the family cemetery.That cemetery dates back to the late 1800's and I suppose i'll have plenty of family kin to hang around with...see I don't know..what happens after...and don't tell me it doesn't matter what happens after you are dead,because it dose..you leave behind family,some that will miss you.Btw,i'm not saying that to anyone here in particular.

My death,your death dose matter...I think i would not want to leave any heartbreaks and sorrows behind me..no funeral,plz.
If they must,write an obituary and put it in the paper..and talk about the good stuff,not so much of my passing.

10-23-2011, 02:14 PM	#1
Nat Senior Member How Do You Identify?: bigender Preferred Pronoun?: whatevs Relationship Status: in a relationship Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Tx Posts: 3,535 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,042 Thanked 13,992 Times in 2,594 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Your Death and Post-Death Preferences I know it sounds morbid, but we are all facing eventual death. Sometimes we know it's coming and sometimes we don't. It's the one area where we have little control over when or where or how. Today, it's on my mind. I'm not sure why, and I am. It's not coming from a morbid place. It's just that it's been on my mind lately. Maybe it was beautiful sweetcalico's clothes at the femme clothing swap and the feeling she is still with us, that her memory lives on among us. Due to a long break from the community, I wasn't aware she was sick. But she was one of my favorite posters on the dash site, and it was saddening to know she had passed over. But the clothing swap was beautiful and part of the reason for that was the passing on of her clothes to her sister femmes and the honoring of her spirit in that sweaty half-naked, warm frenzy. And I've been thinking about the funerals and other memorials I've attended. I love cemeteries - especially the older ones. So I guess this thread is a chance to think about what you'd like to leave behind, how you'd like your death handled, what you want to happen with your body, how you'd like to be remembered. Of course these ideas are like to change over the years. So, I will post my own thoughts later. Hopefully death is a long long way away for most of us, but I don't think it would be ad to have an idea in mind for the time when it comes. For those facing death at closer range, I assume you may have begun to think about these things more than those of us may have. __________________ I'm a fountain of blood. In the shape of a girl. - Bjork What is to give light must endure burning. -Viktor Frankl

10-23-2011, 02:44 PM	#2
Turtle Senior Member How Do You Identify?: A mixity Preferred Pronoun?: whatever Relationship Status: chillin Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: in a really really cute little place Posts: 2,144 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,442 Thanked 4,531 Times in 1,222 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Hey Nat... I spend a lot of time in the midst of death and grief and I am very aware if it... I try to live my life being with other people as best I can... When people hear of my passing, my preference would be for people to just smile and think how nice it was to know me. But it's not that simple, I can't run other people's feelings or their grief, but I'd rather they weren't in pain...so I'd rather just evaporate over time from people's consciousness and that they never hear of my death...just be glad to have known me...

10-23-2011, 02:54 PM	#3
atomiczombie Member How Do You Identify?: Femmesensual Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him, His Relationship Status: Dating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Rio Vista, CA Posts: 1,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,949 Thanked 3,221 Times in 757 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I know enough about what funeral parlors do to bodies to know that I want to be cremated. __________________ http://i277.photobucket.com/albums/k...orums_2000.gif Russian Unicorn http://occupiedmedia.us/

10-23-2011, 03:27 PM	#5
Ebon Senior Member How Do You Identify?: With my souls eyes. Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: lol Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Here Posts: 3,476 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,524 Thanked 11,144 Times in 2,755 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I would like for my body to be buried in a biodegradable bag so that my body can provide nutrients for the earth and the living plants around it. I don't care where. Everybody can party and have a good time around the burial sight. I would prefer for people to celebrate my life and not mourn my death. And no one is allowed to wear black. __________________ In Lak'ech Ala K'in I'm a Soul Rebel http://wannabereverend.wordpress.com/ Spirituality is not a belief system or ideology, it is the surrender of one's ego to the infinite wisdom and knowledge that is the universe.

10-23-2011, 03:40 PM	#6
Jett Member How Do You Identify?: Hardcore bullheaded grown-ass Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: she loves my shaggy hair Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The backroom of a night cafe plotting world domination Posts: 1,028 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,054 Thanked 3,299 Times in 568 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I want to be rolled and smoked... but since I can't have that I supposed cremation will do, kind of the same thing I guess.. As to what I want to leave ppl with, just that I am remembered fondly... my possessions are to my gal and family. __________________ .......... In the depth of winter I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer. ~Albert Camus

10-23-2011, 03:19 PM	#4
stargazingboi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: ~ Preferred Pronoun?: ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ~ Posts: 1,954 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,392 Thanked 8,321 Times in 1,626 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I know it’s a painful thought for many to think about losing the person they love, a friend, a lover, a sister, a brother, etc. As for the actual funeral the arrangements they have been all set up and placed in writing…everything is selected so that no one has to sit and wonder what to do during such a time. My hope is that if there is anything left worth using to save another, that they take it…then send me off for the services and then cremation. I update it often…music lists change, I grow each year and tweak the message I want to sent to those I leave behind. I am aware of my mortality, as I have faced death several times, and know that in the future one day I will not be able to escape my fate. I live each day grateful for being able to spend one more day with those I love, and I pray they know just how much love I hold for them. Much like Turtle, I would like people to smile when they think me, to know that I impacted them in a positive way…remember me fondly and gently, remember my strength and desires to live a love filled life. However, yet again Turtle points out a fact that remains…I cannot control their response. So, I sit and I pray that the love I gave will be enough to last through the years they remain.

10-23-2011, 03:54 PM	#7
Words Member How Do You Identify?: Queer femme submissive Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: UK Posts: 969 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,449 Thanked 4,261 Times in 677 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I want a traditional Muslim burial. Ideally, it should take place within 24 hours of my passing although I appreciate that for practical reasons, that's unlikely to happen so I've made it clear that even if I have to spend a few days 'on hold' elsewhere, I want to spend the night before the burial at home. (I used to work in a hospital and often had cause to visit the mortuary...the impersonal nature, the sterile environment, are probably why I want this.) A bit strange, I know, but it's important to me. Words

10-23-2011, 04:08 PM	#8
Daywalker Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Hippy Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: * Posts: 3,750 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,499 Thanked 11,917 Times in 2,700 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	When I pass ~ I've heard that there are a couple of questions folks have just before they pass. Was I loved, and did I love well. I can honestly say that I can say yes to both of these. I am of the Philosophy that when we are born, we begin to die. From that moment on, it is the inevitable and we should all act accordingly. Take the physical being I reside in and sift through the ashes when I'm gone. You will not find me there, I will be in the same place I always have been. In the hearts of those who shared My life with me. Mrs Day would like to wear an amulet with my ashes in it. I told her to feel free to have mah ashes added to ink. She tiled her head...and I said...for a tattoo. I probably didn't answer the questions, but I'm not high yet so there that is. __________________ www.SirDaywalker.com

10-24-2011, 09:30 PM	#9
Hack Just a guy. How Do You Identify?: Just a guy Preferred Pronoun?: male Relationship Status: Sparkle's consort Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: MA Posts: 1,458 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 807 Thanked 3,783 Times in 960 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I read an article several months ago about the "green" funeral movement. If you think about it, when we bury the dead in a cemetery, we put a lot of stuff in the ground that is not good -- heavy metals, chemicals, treated wood products, etc. I tried to find a link to the article (it was in Audubon Magazine), but I can't locate it. Here is a good link, though, to an organization that espouses "green" funerals. http://www.greenburialcouncil.org/ As for me, personally, I have to admit I haven't given much thought to it. I am a very much a "day at a time" type of person. I do know I'm not big on a church thing. I'd just rather it be some sort of non-denominational memorial type thing with a nice party afterward.

10-25-2011, 04:30 AM	#10
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10-25-2011, 04:38 AM	#11
always2late Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: m'lady Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NJ Posts: 2,000 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,834 Thanked 6,231 Times in 1,462 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Donate whatever can be donated, and then cremation. __________________ Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there ~ Rumi

10-28-2011, 01:32 PM	#13
JAGG Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: JAGG Relationship Status: =) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tulsa (cat free zone) Posts: 6,093 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,651 Thanked 17,543 Times in 4,141 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I have a will and all my loved ones already know this. Just in case here is my desires. Take all the parts you want , cremate the rest. But here is the most important part. Instead of a wake and a funeral, I want a huge party! Catered in a huge place with a big dance floorand lots of tables and chairs. Free open bar. With a champagne fountain. I want a band or a real good DJ. They can request any song or music they want. But they must play these 2 songs, and when they do everyone must get on the dance floor and dance. Even if you are in a wheelchair. The Hokey Pokey, and the chicken dance. Because you can't dance to those songs without laughing or at least smile. I promise if I can be there somehow come back for a few minutes to be with you for those two songs I will. Then at the end of the evening after everyone has eaten well , drank their fill and danced, they will go outside for one awesome fireworks show. And those who know me, know if I can be there with you for that, I wouldn't miss it. __________________ I don't want to spend my life with someone I can live with, I want to spend my life with someone I can't live without.

11-08-2011, 04:47 PM	#15
Glenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Ol Butch Bones Preferred Pronoun?: Old Thing Relationship Status: Too old to play. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: :eyeroll: Posts: 1,546 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,597 Thanked 3,732 Times in 1,096 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	My parents as well as my teachers from India, have tried to teach me to remain even-minded through all the vicissitudes of life. If I saw a movie that made me cry I was told to stop, it is only a movie. If someone was sick or dying, I was expected to sustain positive vibes or be scolded. When I saw my parents dying I cried, and was told to leave the room. Death and suffering were hardly talked about in my house or among my family unless, it was to give medicine and sympathy in soothing whispers, or practice opposition positivity. At funerals and such, there was no partying or crying. I was to give honor and respect. So when it is time for me to kick off this frame, I want to do it quietly and disappear. The way I am living now. No drama or I miss you.

11-09-2011, 03:12 PM	#16
theoddz Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Old Poop Preferred Pronoun?: Mr. Beast Relationship Status: Happily Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Texas Posts: 3,506 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,833 Thanked 9,879 Times in 2,477 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I am a United States Marine and I've always been very proud of that fact and of the bond I share with my brothers and sisters who also wear that title proudly. Some of the most special moments of my life have been spent in the company of my fellow Marines and when I die, I'd like to rest in their company for all time. I can think of no higher honor and no finer place to rest in peace. So, with that in mind, here are my final wishes. I am an organ donor, so I'd like whatever I might have left and useable to be donated to help another live or have a higher quality of life, if possible. After that, I want to be cremated and have my ashes interred at the Beaufort National Cemetery, outside the gates of Marine Corps Recruit Depot at Parris Island, South Carolina. I'd like a military funeral with a small detachment of Marines present to present the flag to my family members present. Also, Beaufort, SC, is only 35 miles from my home town of Savannah, GA., so that will mean that I am finally home. Theo ...via Blackberry. __________________ *"All that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost."* -- J. R. R. Tolkien

11-09-2011, 03:28 PM	#17
chai~ Member How Do You Identify?: Self possessed Aquarian Preferred Pronoun?: Don't call me baby~ Relationship Status: Deliciously single and loving it. Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: lotus land Posts: 1,173 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,937 Thanked 3,383 Times in 864 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I will bookmark myself here, and come back with my take on my "wrap party"! What I DO know is this, donate everything that can help someone else out, eyes, heart, liver, etc. As a non smoker, non drug user and non drinker, I have some pretty good spare parts for someone else to use!! If I do say so myself!! Cremate the rest. I don't want $ wasted on a fancy wooden box, with a chunk of carved marble. Sprinkle me in the sea, then I can travel the world and be everywhere! If family and friends are worried about not having a grave site to go visit me at, then I suggest to them, light a delicious candle for me in their living room, and take a moment to just talk to me. If they wish they could take flowers to my grave, then please, buy the biggest bouquet, and enjoy them beside the candle. In your own home, share them with me, so they can enjoy them also. I don't have a lot of "things" to leave behind. But let me think about it some more!