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Originally Posted by anaisninja

The insinuation that, because I participate in the local sex positive culture, it somehow impairs my judgment when it comes to dating, is in my opinion, part of the problem with the patriarchy and not part of the solution.

Okay, since it's forbidden to post quotes from private messages or other threads, then I'm not really in a position to prove that what you're trying to do here is absolute bullshit. I am however going to make sure that one of the mods reads my message to you AND your response. Just saying.

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[nycfem]

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From this point forward, please no more references to private messages or posts from other threads, and any 1:1 personal conflict should not be played out on the thread. Please also review and reflect on the "Intolerance" section of the TOS before posting.

[imperfect_cupcake]

You aren't getting what I'm saying. I know about the cspc. I know of many different BDSM community learning and play spaces for women and gender queer. I volunteered for some.
I'm going to stop because I don't thing you are going to get what my intension or information is. One day you will.

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by anaisninja

Also, I'm not in the habit of blurting out personal details about my love life in my day-to-day life. My real-world friends know me as a low key, friendly, nurturing, no-drama, easy-going person. I joined this site *specifically* so that I could be completely open in a safe space about the confusing life transition I find myself undergoing. I intend to continue doing so, whether or not others approve.

I get the idea of wanting to write things here that you may not share with others IRL.

There isn't anything I have written on BFP/other sites that I wouldn't share with a friend or two, but I don't want to lose control over who does know about my personal life, if I can help it. I have managed this by not posting my picture -EVER- in the 18 or so years I have been on forums such as these.

My suggestion to you is that you remove your pictures so that you can remain as anonymous as possible.

The last couple of years I have toyed with the idea of putting up my picture, since I have gotten to know people better and I want them to "see" who I am, so to speak. I feel almost guilty for not having it up, while others share freely their happy smiles (or the moody, dark look the masculine folks try to pull off...ha!)

Anyway, if you are serious about remaining separate from your "real life", then I would suggest taking them down. If someone sees your picture and then has your screen name, they can read all your posts.