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08-21-2012, 05:42 PM | #1 |
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1st name basis at work
Do you address colleagues by their 1st name? For me, I address profs by "Prof/Dr. X" fellow students by 1st name.
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Dude, do you ever post in any threads, or just start them?
I am only joking around with you. I think that most of the threads that you have started have been interesting. I don't think you are going to get many takers on this one, though. I don't know how much discussion could come about on this topic.
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What I do is read folks posts, gives me a clue as to who they are. I'm differently abled and therefore have massive amounts of time to devote to reading, which I do every day. Start posting in some of the fluffy threads and you'll find out quite a bit about people. some of us have been around for years, some are newbies like yerself. We all start somewhere
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I teach in an elementary school. Amongst our teacher selves we go by first names. Usually I learn the last names first since I am often addressing others in front of students. But elementary school is a weird world... Mrs. Lines I notice your class is so quiet in the hall...
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when i was in college i addressed professors by their title and tas by their first name (mostly because we were in a lot of classes together as students). when i was in grad school i addressed everyone by their first name, though it took me some time to adjust. in every other job i've always addressed bosses and coworkers by their first name.
nowadays i work for myself and i address just about everyone by their first name. i'm a pretty informal person and i prefer to relate to people on a human level, without a lot of power plays, so i don't like it when people address me by titles either. i mean, i'm a southerner at heart and i ma'am and sir most folks older than me, but i can't think of any situations offhand now where i address people by titles anymore...i'm on a first name basis even with most of my doctors now. i grew up addressing people by their titles and it took several years of being in situations where it was normal to address everyone by their first name for me to start being okay with it. especially at church and places like that. |
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Well my reply is a slight digression, but I think perhaps it within the context of the OPs question...
90% of the time I refer to my colleagues by their first name, even supervisors, however, there are exceptions. When I am meeting with donors and discussing the university to which they are an alma mater of, I will always address the head of school as "Chancellor soandso" or "President soandso" or "Dean soandso". They may have been John and Bill and Lee to me, but in a professional capacity when discussing the upper echelon of university administration in the formal context of philanthropy, I use their titles. It legitimizes the leadership with the donor and it creates a sense of cache between the donor (alum) and the leadership. But on a one-on-one working basis, I almost always address someone by their first name. When I worked abroad, however, I was given a crash course in titles, particularly the importance of ceremonial titles... I learned to address people as: The Right Worshipful, The Lord Mayor of Lambeth The Very Reverend, The Dean of Christ Church as examples. It usually made me laugh to address a letter or email such, but it was expected in formal correspondence. Once, by accident, while formatting a letter to be sent to all of my donors (alumni of Christ Church College, Oxford), I slipped up and never caught an important edit between the mail merge autofill salutation and my drafted salutation -- I ended up sending over 500 letters to the upper echelon of alumni addressed with a double salutation of "Dear Dear": "Dear Dear Sir John" "Dear Dear the Worshipful the Mayor of xxx" "Dear Dear Mr Cromwell" "Dear Dear Sir William" etc........... Ironically, I raised more money from that appeal than any other letter campaign in my time at that company, and I had copious notes from the gentlemen saying how gracious and lovely I was. (because they perceived my double salutation "dear dear" as the height of obsequiousness). Titles are a funny thing.
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