Singles dating: online VS real world?

JAGG · 09-14-2011, 07:56 PM

Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both) I have so that would be a yes. But I really want something local .
*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers) never again.
*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know? No. Seems like a bad idea all the way around.

*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life? Hands down with out a doubt, meeting someone in real life.

Julie · 09-14-2011, 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by JAGG

Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both) I have so that would be a yes.
*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers) Once and never again.
*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know? No. Seems like a bad idea all the way around.

*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life? Hands down with out a doubt, meeting someone in real life.

So here is a question to all of you who would not date someone who dated someone you know...

Our community is fairly incestuous - be it online or real time. How can this be avoided? Seriously.

JAGG · 09-14-2011, 08:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Julie

So here is a question to all of you who would not date someone who dated someone you know...

Our community is fairly incestuous - be it online or real time. How can this be avoided? Seriously.

It does limit your choices. But that's life. At least for me.

Julie · 09-14-2011, 08:06 PM

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Originally Posted by JAGG

Well it's partly why I'm still single, not a whole lot of choices.

No, not a whole lot.
You could find a Virgin Bride.

JAGG · 09-14-2011, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Julie

No, not a whole lot.
You could find a Virgin Bride.

Virgin???? Heck no. I want someone who has been around the block. I like experience. Virgin has nothing to offer me. BORING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SugarLips · 09-14-2011, 08:18 PM

lmaoooooo.... omg... you all have me dying in laughter over here!

Julie · 09-14-2011, 08:24 PM

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Originally Posted by JAGG

Virgin???? Heck no. I want someone who has been around the block. I like experience. Virgin has nothing to offer me. BORING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jagg...
Back to your original statement.
You will be single forever.

Virgin or Has Been Had.
The choice is yours.

(snort)

JAGG · 09-14-2011, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Julie

Jagg...
Back to your original statement.
You will be single forever.

Virgin or Has Been Had.
The choice is yours.

(snort)

oh no don't be jinxing me Julie.HAHAHA Are you saying I have to lower my standards? Single forever? Well guess I'll just play out the hand I was dealt then. Somehow I doubt I'll be single forever. It will work out for me, it always does.

WolfyOne · 09-15-2011, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Julie

Jagg...
Back to your original statement.
You will be single forever.

Virgin or Has Been Had.
The choice is yours.

(snort)

Julie, if JAGG don't want the virgin, I'll take her
I'm not afraid to explore the unexplored
I think teaching is a wonderful thing
Heck, who knows, I could learn something, too

DapperButch · 09-14-2011, 08:24 PM

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Originally Posted by JAGG

It does limit your choices. But that's life. At least for me.

Yep. It's a butch code thing for me, personally. No offense to the choices others make.

clay · 09-14-2011, 08:31 PM

Julie...good question....seriously! For me, I lived in Atlanta,GA for a few years...it was so huge as a community that anyone I did date, hadn't been with anyone in the "community". PLUS I tend to gravitate towards Nurses/Medical People....and that "pool" is not so much a "community". Then I was in a 5 yr and a 15 year relationship...pretty close together. Since being single the last 3 years...I have dated people I met from dating sites...and none were in the community, so to speak. Each person was either an hr. or up to 8 hrs. away...soooo..that kept me from being in the "community" where I lived. I have dated (IRL) 3 people from a site...online...and again, each was from a few states away...and I hadn't thought about your question, until you brought it up. So that is how I manage to stay away from the pool...I tend to steer clear of the "community" just for the "incest part". I was at a potluck a few months ago, in Jacksonville,FL. My first, and only foray into the "pool". The group I was conversing with began to talk about who all each had "slept with" at this particular function...one said "8", one said "5", and one said "almost all the femmes here". It startled me so...and I just thought to myself...I am NOT interested in anyone here. I think it is disrespectful to "kiss and tell" like that....and I didn't want to be a part of it. So, I come online and steer clear of that, if possible. This is just what works for me...and my own opinion...<smiles>

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Originally Posted by Julie

So here is a question to all of you who would not date someone who dated someone you know...

Our community is fairly incestuous - be it online or real time. How can this be avoided? Seriously.

Sachita · 01-27-2012, 04:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Julie

So here is a question to all of you who would not date someone who dated someone you know...

Our community is fairly incestuous - be it online or real time. How can this be avoided? Seriously.

This is very true. On one hand I say no but the truth is that if you have chemistry then everything else goes out the window. Someone is going to know someone, some where. If I had serious chemistry with someone that use to date someone I knew well then I would talk to my friend and ask them how they felt. I would discuss it first. If I knew of them, just someone I knew but we were not good friends I wouldn't really care.

Sachita · 01-27-2012, 04:38 PM

In our community we often don't have a choice then to network and pursue people online. I've always used this venue to meet people, however I won't engage in a relationship online. I might get to know someone but soon after I want to arrange a meeting. If someone is long distance I need to know they can afford the time and money to come visit me to pursue the relationship. I will do the same. If that goes well after a while I think we need to sit down and decide how we will merge.

ButchEire · 01-27-2012, 04:40 PM

Lol, I haven't ever dated anyone on this site and I have but a single ex living in this town or even within thousands of miles of here. It would be more probable that I would date someone who doesn't know anyone I know than it is the opposite.

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Originally Posted by Julie

So here is a question to all of you who would not date someone who dated someone you know...

Our community is fairly incestuous - be it online or real time. How can this be avoided? Seriously.

Rockinonahigh · 01-27-2012, 05:09 PM

I once dated one of my best friends ex partner and didnt know it,they were together when they both were way younger wich was ovr ten years before.Then we met (all 4 of us ) for dinner one night...OMFG! When they saw each other I thought I was gonna need the popo..but it works out ok,but u bet we didnt doubble date again.

clay · 01-27-2012, 05:16 PM

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Originally Posted by ButchEire

Lol, I haven't ever dated anyone on this site and I have but a single ex living in this town or even within thousands of miles of here. It would be more probable that I would date someone who doesn't know anyone I know than it is the opposite.

ditto, Butcheire

09-14-2011, 07:56 PM	#1
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Sachita Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Completely in love Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Virginia Posts: 3,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,564 Thanked 8,994 Times in 2,249 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	In our community we often don't have a choice then to network and pursue people online. I've always used this venue to meet people, however I won't engage in a relationship online. I might get to know someone but soon after I want to arrange a meeting. If someone is long distance I need to know they can afford the time and money to come visit me to pursue the relationship. I will do the same. If that goes well after a while I think we need to sit down and decide how we will merge. __________________ You either like me or you don't. It took me Twenty-something years to learn how to love myself, I don't have that kinda time to convince somebody else. ~ Daniel Franzese

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SugarLips Junior Member How Do You Identify?: jeans and t-shirt girl Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: United States Posts: 46 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 28 Thanked 69 Times in 27 Posts Rep Power: 1308198	lmaoooooo.... omg... you all have me dying in laughter over here!

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Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,937 Times in 3,936 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I once dated one of my best friends ex partner and didnt know it,they were together when they both were way younger wich was ovr ten years before.Then we met (all 4 of us ) for dinner one night...OMFG! When they saw each other I thought I was gonna need the popo..but it works out ok,but u bet we didnt doubble date again.