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Old 11-11-2009, 03:01 AM   #1
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If You've had a cruddy day, what do You do to 'shake it off'? Meditate? Listen to music? Read? Walk?

What do You do to center Yourself...to bring peace to Your soul?



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Right now, sleep would give me peace.

I'll revisit this thread much later, when I'm more alert and give my view(s).

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Old 11-11-2009, 07:13 AM   #3
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Take a nice, long bath.

Listen to music and read upstairs while the guys watch TV downstairs (I'm not big on TV).

Masturbate.

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Sometimes just being in the presents of friends - not talking but being together
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- a good cigar
- a quiet moment just listening to the world whiz by
- going for a long (8 hours+) bike ride and getting lost in the country with not a soul around
- playing WoW
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~ Music........always the music.........<smile>

~Talking to my daughter

~Talking to The Berry

~Standing on my terrace, listening to the crunching of leaves in the woods, knowing that the deer are there.....

~Having a houseful of people, all talking and laughing....I could stand off to the side and listen to them for forever.....all that noise? Yes....it gives me peace! Go figure!

~A cup of coffee and quiet conversation in The Quiet Room


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What brings me peace every single day is this little fellow. I adore him more than words could ever express. He takes good care of his Daddy

He is a long hair chihuahua and his name is Murray Oliver


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My pug Vinnie. He is the calmest, sweetest boy. Not so much the boxer puppy, until she is sweetly sleeping next to me.

Building something or fixing something.

Certain songs.

Sitting by a river, near a campfire, or laying in my camper at night.

A hug from my mom.

Looking at pictures of good times spent with friends...I can just feel the love when I relive those moments in my mind.
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A good workout is a great way for me to shake off the blahs. Spin class lets me zone out.

But the best thing is the world is being with my dogs.

My favorite is when I'm not feeling so great and I'm laying in the bed watching tv, Cooper will crawl up and lay on my belly with his little face resting on my chest. He just lays there and looks at me and falls asleep.

Magoo is a big snuggler and he actually likes to spoon!

I love how sweet and intuitive my little pooches are.
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Spending the days and nights with my sweet girl, the dogs playing in the livingroom, the snow falling quietly outside...I am Buddha blessed...
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My arms around her. The feel of her next to me knowing she is safe, and the feel of her skin as her clothes....wait that's another Feeling thread.
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My daughters. The sound of my love's voice and knowing that I am a priority in her life. Shanti's gift of yoga and breath. A glass of red wine and a lavender bath.
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Drown my stress with music....

Get to water...which lately is just a hot epsom salt bath...but usually a lake or river is nice to let your stress, worries, and problems drift from you even for just that moment

Do something with my hands....bowl, toss my rifle or sabre, paint...

Or go for a drive...
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Graphics... Creating something pretty, at times I can lose myself in it for hours. I created the one in my signature line, but it's not one of my best, just one that would fit well.. lol

*edit for clarification* I do not draw the women, I just put them all together add some special effects, etc... In the one in my sig line, the woman on the left side was drawn just for me by the artist Ismael Rac. It's for sale in the site where he sells his graphics for public use, but I got to commission her for being member of the month at his forum. The full one is so cool, she's in leather corset, panties, garter, and has stockings, and she's holding a riding crop. He made a separate version that is only mine, that no one else can even buy where she has red streaks in her hair, and has leather studded collar and bracelets.
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The thought of a small white cottage with lacy curtains blowing in the wind....all white inside and out, with sky blue ceilings and a porch swing......a place to write.....and it sits on a cliff, overlooking the Pacific Ocean.....

I don't know if such a place exists....but the thought of it gives me peace just the same.


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Watching the waves
Smoking a really good cigar
A nice gentle breeze
Drinking a really good cup of coffee or a mixed drink
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I was having a bad day yesterday. I recently had a procedure that has had me trapped in the house for the past week.... I felt like I was going to bust outta my skin yesterday. Sooooo, I had someone come pick me up and take me to their place for a while. Sometimes just doing something entirely different helps me a LOT. Other times, complete silence is my soothing medicine. I can sit in silence all by myself for a good long time and come out of it greatly calmed down and with a new attitude. Then of course there's always critter love. Who can stay in a funk with fur babies lovin on them? I know I can't
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The sight, sound, and smell of the ocean
My son's laughter
Hearing a voice that I miss
The smell of autumn
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A good long bath with almond oil
Good music
Drumming
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After reading all of the replies, I can identify with most of them !

I love classical music, and that in an otherwise quiet house, is cathartic for me. Dont know why, but it is.

I love a trail run, especially if its misty or sprinkling outside. I find my stride and let the zen of an easy rhythm just take over.

I love watching a sunset on Puget Sound. The Ferry's traveling across the bay and the seagulls finding their places for the night is calming.

But the MOST wonderful way to peace and groundedness is the end of a day with my girlfriend. There is such calm and a feeling of protectiveness hearing her soft breath in the middle of the night. And that puts my heart at peace.
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