Singles

[MaggieBluIze]

Originally Posted by Human Devil

oh yeah I'll be having tons of fun this weekend between cleaning and paying bills online. Actually, as long as I don't have to go to work, that makes for the best day. Not that I don't like my job... I just love having the option to sleep in.

That's a very positive way to look at it, very good!
That's pretty much how I see my weekends too,
happy to not be at work and happy to be able to have some time w/my daughter if she's around (LOL She's 17).

Originally Posted by morningstar55

.....good morning Singles......

Morning!!!!!

who's ready for the holidays??? and what do some of you all do for the holidays??
how many of you have profiles on dating sights ??
I have on some that are mixed with str8 people dates.
and i have broken off from them sites.cuz ya know how they send you profiles of lets say the perfect match they found for you??
HA!!
right..... them sites will never have my matchs of any sort.
the profiles they always send me are profiles and pics of well .. Girls, ladies. femmes...
Remember Dom .. I sent you a example what they send me?? lol .. soo of course its up to me to do my own foot work in seeking single butchs.

Let's see ... I'm not ready for the holidays at all. This will actually be my first one single and that's rather depressing, but I'm thankful for my family and friends that I will be able to see. I know I'm blessed, just wish I had ... Well ... Y'all know.

At one time I was on every singles site in existence, but just like you, not once did they give me a "match" that truly was. They gave me women, women that looked just like me. I don't need a twin. I don't need someone to share clothes with (but I will admit, I love having my honey's T-shirts, hoodies, sweatshirts and things to wear around, makes me feel close to them), or to share makeup tips with. I want someone that balances me, not is me. Similarities are good, differences are good ... So yes, like you, I will be doing my own footwork.

I keep reading how it's hard for y'all to tell when we are out there, and I know this to be true. Of course it is. Do me a favor, please just take the time to look around you. We are the ones trying to catch your eye. We are the ones really looking at you. And if you notice us looking, then we are the ones blushing (or at least I do) and grinning at you. That's us. We are there. We see you. We notice you. We appreciate you. If you just look around, maybe you just might see that appreciation from one of us.

I've already figured out it's not very appealing or handy to carry around a 2x4, so will just have to stick with hoping you will look up, unfocus from what you are doing, look around you and see that I am looking at you, hoping you will see, really see me. (my 2 cents)

[JustLovelyJenn]

Good Morning Singles!!!!!

Coming to you LIVE, from my sick bed!

Gonna be here ALL day, so feel free to do anything to help it pass faster.

[MaggieBluIze]

((((Jenn)))) I'm so sorry to hear you aren't feeling well, but so glad you took the time to come in and visit us!!! *sending get well wishes your way*

I'm finally off, have the time and it's quiet in here. Well, that just figures. LOL

I hope this means everyone is busy having an amazing day and will come back with wonderful stories later.

[Gaige]

Originally Posted by MaggieBluIze

((((Jenn)))) I'm so sorry to hear you aren't feeling well, but so glad you took the time to come in and visit us!!! *sending get well wishes your way*

I'm finally off, have the time and it's quiet in here. Well, that just figures. LOL

I hope this means everyone is busy having an amazing day and will come back with wonderful stories later.

If I have a good dream, I'll tell ya about it tomorrow. Good Night eveyone

[MaggieBluIze]

Originally Posted by Human Devil

If I have a good dream, I'll tell ya about it tomorrow. Good Night everyone

Perfect!!!! Sweet dreams!!!

[JustLovelyJenn]

Originally Posted by MaggieBluIze

((((Jenn)))) I'm so sorry to hear you aren't feeling well, but so glad you took the time to come in and visit us!!! *sending get well wishes your way*

I'm finally off, have the time and it's quiet in here. Well, that just figures. LOL

I hope this means everyone is busy having an amazing day and will come back with wonderful stories later.

awwww. thank you so much hun!!!

[AtLast]

Afternoon all! Soon off to the dog park with my pooch. Poor guy, he is recovering from the other day, but off pain meds and..... he wants to go see his friends! me, too!

Hugs & kisses! Muzzle bumps, too!

[MaggieBluIze]

Yay!!! Gypsy LOVES puppy park time!!!

I'm so glad to hear he is up to it!!! Have too much fun, the both of you!!!

[JustLovelyJenn]

Originally Posted by AtLastHome

Afternoon all! Soon off to the dog park with my pooch. Poor guy, he is recovering from the other day, but off pain meds and..... he wants to go see his friends! me, too!

Hugs & kisses! Muzzle bumps, too!

See, I think that if I lived in a more populated area, I would have to get a dog... not only because I happen to LOVE dogs, but so we could go to the dog park and meet others.

[Zimmeh]

Good Evening Mountain,

I am not ready for the holidays...I haven't started Christmas shopping, and I am not sure when I will be able to...

I have a profile on Yahoo's dating site, but I haven't been on that in years.

How are you doing?

Zimmy

Originally Posted by morningstar55

.....good morning Singles......




who's ready for the holidays??? and what do some of you all do for the holidays??
how many of you have profiles on dating sights ??
I have on some that are mixed with str8 people dates.
and i have broken off from them sites.cuz ya know how they send you profiles of lets say the perfect match they found for you??
HA!!
right..... them sites will never have my matchs of any sort.
the profiles they always send me are profiles and pics of well .. Girls, ladies. femmes...
Remember Dom .. I sent you a example what they send me?? lol .. soo of course its up to me to do my own foot work in seeking single butchs.

[cuddlyfemme]

Like others of you, I've joined a few dating sites but always get matches that are Femme's, so I've stopped going to dating sites and will do the footwork on my own also.

[lipstixgal]

I'm on dating sites too but they send me femmes all the time only once did a soft butch contact me and to this day we have yet to meet. I reached out yesterday but she was in bed at like 8 pm so what the hell I give up!!

[AtLast]

Originally Posted by lipstixgal

I'm on dating sites too but they send me femmes all the time only once did a soft butch contact me and to this day we have yet to meet. I reached out yesterday but she was in bed at like 8 pm so what the hell I give up!!

Foe awhile, I was on some of these sites and like you, not much luck with just being butch that likes femmes. Not that some very nice women contacted me, but it soon was obvious, they didn't care for my honoring this dynamic and that it matters to me. No real B-F put downs, really, mostly they were truthful about their own attraction variables. rather have them just be up front, anyway.

LOL, I don't know.... I'm glad that I did begin to date after the time I needed after my last relationship, but, now I seem to be in another stage in which I really don't want to date just to be dating (no, there is nothing wrong with that- I needed to try my own wings out, myself). I enjoy dates, themselves and put a lot of energy into figuring out what might be enjoyable as a date with a femme. LOL.. and I do fuss with getting ready!

What I find the most difficult is that I don't fit in well with most of the B-F oriented population here in the Bay Area of CA. in terms of dating and possible coupling again. Many great people, just not many I have met that would be a good match for me. Then, again..... it just isn't all that easy to find who clicks, maybe, in general- for everyone. My age is part of this, I think. Although, I have friends from many age groupings.

I am looking forward to the Planet dating site. Who knows!!!

[JustLovelyJenn]

Originally Posted by AtLastHome

Foe awhile, I was on some of these sites and like you, not much luck with just being butch that likes femmes. Not that some very nice women contacted me, but it soon was obvious, they didn't care for my honoring this dynamic and that it matters to me. No real B-F put downs, really, mostly they were truthful about their own attraction variables. rather have them just be up front, anyway.

LOL, I don't know.... I'm glad that I did begin to date after the time I needed after my last relationship, but, now I seem to be in another stage in which I really don't want to date just to be dating (no, there is nothing wrong with that- I needed to try my own wings out, myself). I enjoy dates, themselves and put a lot of energy into figuring out what might be enjoyable as a date with a femme. LOL.. and I do fuss with getting ready!

What I find the most difficult is that I don't fit in well with most of the B-F oriented population here in the Bay Area of CA. in terms of dating and possible coupling again. Many great people, just not many I have met that would be a good match for me. Then, again..... it just isn't all that easy to find who clicks, maybe, in general- for everyone. My age is part of this, I think. Although, I have friends from many age groupings.

I am looking forward to the Planet dating site. Who knows!!!

I too have been on numerous dating sites, still am on a few actually. However, I too find them completely unhelpful. As a matter of fact, I am rarely contacted. Apparently there is something about me that is just... not what anyone wants... LOL!!

And where I live, there just are not BF folks... No matter what I am going to have to travel if I want to date. That being said, I have had it with long distance relationships and am currently trying to limit my potential interests to no more then 3 hours away!

[AtLast]

Originally Posted by JustLovelyJenn

See, I think that if I lived in a more populated area, I would have to get a dog... not only because I happen to LOVE dogs, but so we could go to the dog park and meet others.

YES!!! Really, I have met some great people at the dog park I go to (have for 10 years, almost every day). Ummm... I even met a femme there once that I dated a few times. We ended up realizing that we were not a match, but very good friend material. She's a very nice woman and her old hound dog is sort of like Frog Dog's Uncle.

For me, it is getting out for a walk (big park) for not only the pooch, but myself, too. There is a gay couple that have greyhounds that I have gotten to know and they always give Frog Dog new balls and treats. These guys have been together for about 30 years! Good dog Dad's, too!

LOL, my little pooch can be a "babe magnet," but what usually is going on is that these women don't get that I am female until I get closer and start talking if I am bundled up for the walk! Oh, well.... There are a lot of butches, some transguys, many andro-dykes that lean more toward just lesbian identity. Some femmes, but not as many as the others ( ..).

I like many of the dog park "regulars"- I know, weird, but I do consider the dog park as part of my social network.

[Sunny]

Originally Posted by lipstixgal

I'm on dating sites too but they send me femmes all the time only once did a soft butch contact me and to this day we have yet to meet. I reached out yesterday but she was in bed at like 8 pm so what the hell I give up!!

You would not believe what I have gotten on dating sites. Never mind the Femmes that want other Femmes, Butches that want other Butches and then there are the Men that put on wigs and call themselves women. Sometimes I am not sure if it is a masculine Butch with a girly wig on. It makes me wonder why a Butch like me who is a CATCH (as my friends tell me) has a problem finding a Femme to date??????? LOL
Anyhow, lets talk turkey. I hope I am going to one of my friends for Thanksgiving. If not I will be alone. I do have a Thanksgiving story.....
My girlfriends entire family was coming over for dinner. I told her I would cook. Why? I was young and took on any challenge. So I made dinner and everyone raved about my stuffing. They all wanted to know my secret receipe. I told them that is was no secret. I put the usual items in. Celery, onion, bread crumbs, and sausage. They said to me there was something else that was a certain flavor they loved. Then I remembered I put alot of white wine in the stuffing. I told my girlfriend the secret item. She said DO NOT TELL THEM. I asked why? She said that most of her family were recovering alcoholics. I had no idea and felt really bad about serving them the stuffing. Who knew?????
Well goodnight everyone. Sweet Dreams.

[bigbutchmistie]

Im on several dating sites. Its very rare I find someone Im not only attracted too but click with...

As far as Thanksgiving. Im doing my personal ritual every year. Im going to Boston Market the night before and getting my chicken and corn bread and then I make my own mac/cheese and open a can of green beans. Simon has his chicken and I have mine as we watch re runs of some crime show on t.v. I may go to my friends T and T and watch their dogs sometimes when they go out of town and my friend T usually throws in some kind of pie and green bean casserole for me since I spend it alone

[JustLovelyJenn]

This will be the first time I will ever spend thanksgiving alone... well, almost alone. My kids and I will be here, with my brother and his wife. Just the 5 of us. My parents are both leaving to visit relatives. My dad to Arkansas and my mom to Utah.

I did invite someone up for the holiday, but I don't think it will happen. I'm actually a little bothered by this. This holiday has always been about family for me. Spending time together playing games, watching movies... whatever it is, but always together. I don't even want to do it at all... but my mom is getting my kids all worked up about it with craft projects and talk of menus and such, which makes me feel worse.

[Gaige]

I'll be heading to my parents as I do every year. I do have to work but I'll be getting off at 8 am and I took a vacation day for Friday so I won't have to go in at midnight Thanksgiving night. I know 2 of my brothers will be there with their family. My other brother may show if he doesn't have to work but his wife and children will be there even if he doesn't show. Not sure about my sister and her family. She may be flying down to FL to spend the holiday with her in laws. I'm planning on heading to my parents early so I can lend my Mom a hand with dinner. We always eat early...around 2 pm. That's just my parents usual dinner time. Then we clear the table, have coffee and play Scrabble. Lots of talk and laughter throughout the day. I'm looking forward to it.

[katsarecool]

Originally Posted by JustLovelyJenn

This will be the first time I will ever spend thanksgiving alone... well, almost alone. My kids and I will be here, with my brother and his wife. Just the 5 of us. My parents are both leaving to visit relatives. My dad to Arkansas and my mom to Utah.

I did invite someone up for the holiday, but I don't think it will happen. I'm actually a little bothered by this. This holiday has always been about family for me. Spending time together playing games, watching movies... whatever it is, but always together. I don't even want to do it at all... but my mom is getting my kids all worked up about it with craft projects and talk of menus and such, which makes me feel worse.

Sometimes holidays are over rated. We are supposed to be totally enjoying them; afterall that is what we see on TV and in other media that we are supposed to have a wonderful freaking day. And sometimes we just don't feel like getting into it and try to live up to expectations.

Maybe ask your kids what they would like to do. Maybe they might come up with something that sounds like fun for everyone but without all the work and expectations.

A few months after my mother died; it was time to do Christmas for my kids who were between the ages of 16 and 9. I was dreading it. So I just asked them what they wanted to do. They came up with renting a cabin in the mountains; foregoing all the ususal stuff including a lot of gifts. Well we did it! And that holiday stands out in my mind more than most. We still had to do santa for the nine year old but my daughters both helped me pull it off for their first time doing santa and it was fun.