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Old 06-11-2012, 01:37 AM   #61
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I've learned

...to never give my all to someone who only gives part of themself.
...to learn that the most important relationship I can have with a human being, is the one I have with myself.
...to let go and let God.
...that sometimes my all is not enough.
...that love, not returned, will slowly fade and die.
...that if I have to change who I am, in order to please the one I love, then I am not loving the right one.
...that if the person I love has to change herself to please me, then I am with the wrong one and so is she.
...that if I have to "tiptoe" through life in order to "not rock the boat" I am paddling a sinking canoe.
...that words can be empty and actions speak louder than words.
...that my lie detector is broke.
...that no one can make me happy besides myself and happiness is often fleeting.
...that giving your all to someone who only knows how to take, will drain you dry.

Finally, I've learned that each and every person who touches my life, no matter good or bad, changes who I am and influences who I will become. We never stop learning, never stop growing and there is always room for improvement. I am learning to always remember that I am worthy to be loved as deeply and as intensely as I love. I will never again, settle for anything less.
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I've learned that I'm still in love no matter what. No amount of hurt or betrayal can take it away. And that sometimes, no matter how hard you think you're trying, nothing you do will matter if you're not communicating.
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I've learned that RuPaul is right, you really do have to love yourself first.
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I've learned that just because something looks good on paper, does not mean it will work in real life.

Kind of like Communism.
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Not to get into one !
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The list is MUCH too long to even begin

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No matter how long ago, no matter how far apart, no matter how big the divide, there is something to be said about being kind to one another then and now.

Well, almost always.
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That it is worth the risk leaving a comfortable, long term relationship to go after what you truly need and want (even if it does take more than 10 years to find it)

That it is far better to be single than to be in a bad relationship.

Spending that time being single gives you the opportunity to focus on yourself and gain confidence that you really are not desperate and you will wait for the right relationship to come along and if it doesn't you will be just fine.

That all the mistakes and stumbles along the way do help prepare you for the right relationship and helps you appreciate it even more.
I couldn't have said it any better. That's where I am right now except I'm still waiting to meet the one I need and want. Right now I'm happy to just be me and really figure out what and who that is.
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Old 06-25-2012, 09:21 PM   #69
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I have learned that apparently, I haven"t learned.
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not to believe all i see on the surface. and not to believe anything that she says, forever after i will have to be shown.
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That it is worth the risk leaving a comfortable, long term relationship to go after what you truly need and want (even if it does take more than 10 years to find it)

That it is far better to be single than to be in a bad relationship.

Spending that time being single gives you the opportunity to focus on yourself and gain confidence that you really are not desperate and you will wait for the right relationship to come along and if it doesn't you will be just fine.

That all the mistakes and stumbles along the way do help prepare you for the right relationship and helps you appreciate it even more.
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if your gut tells you something ain't right.... turn around and walk away...
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wow I've learned a whole lot. The most important is I learned who I am and what I don't want in a relationship. My friends and family tell me to just go for it, go meet someone, etc etc. But I already know what I'm looking for and in 10 minutes of conversation I'll pick up on that.

I've learned to be good to myself and not expect others to give me what I need. It's been a hard road coming to terms with the ending of a relationship dream and the truth is I might not ever get over it.

I've learned that its pointless to enrage in a power struggle. If the connection doesnt flow naturally then its best to walk away.
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If the connection doesnt flow naturally then its best to walk away.
I struggle with this or some version of it. I try and try and try probably far longer than I should because relationships take work. I guess there needs to be some balance but I don't know exactly what that is.
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I've learned that you should not wait for her to break up with you.. it can take a very long time.
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Don't forget to remain your own person and still do your own thing. Don't get lost in somebody else, because you'll be really lost when it's over.
I love that you said this.
I have two sisters in long term marriages and I have to say I never
want a long term relationship of mine to resemble what they have.
They are both completely dependant on their husbands for everything.
The only thing they do "without" their husbands is go to work
or the store.
No outside friends , no outside activities ever feels so smothering to me.
A car ride to visit me "alone" (45 min drive) is way too scarey for either of them to even consider, let alone attempt.

It's like they have had their sense of adventure completely sucked out
of them. I really dont get it.
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Like Sachita said I've learned a lot and know more about what I don't want.
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I have learned NOT to trust the words I Love You. Don't SAY it, SHOW me.
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theres the upside of all this as well, u learn form what u liked and still do , u now know urself..better ~~ the great memories that u want and should hold on too !~~ funny thing about life ~ it;s for living ~~
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when its over, its over move on
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