What have you learned? - Page 20

kittygrrl · 03-31-2017, 10:30 AM

“Trust, Like The Soul, Never Returns Once It Is Gone” (anon)

Chad · 03-31-2017, 11:44 AM

I agree with kittygrrl on the point that once trust is gone then it is gone forever to me.

I am always headed forward.

girl_dee · 03-31-2017, 04:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DapperButch

I think I am at my best when I am alone.

I agree, only i am better when i LIVE alone.

An occasional sleepover is just fine but i am never giving up my space again.

Gayandgray · 04-05-2017, 12:43 PM

That a positive attitude goes a long way!!!!!! Life ain't that bad, seriously. Sometimes we tend to complicate things way too much. We make it hard when it doesn't have to be. I'm learning to go with the flow....

introverted1 · 04-10-2017, 06:00 PM

Instead of immediately judging somebody who is being rude or brusque with me, I wonder what they might be going through personally to cause them to be that way.

If we are stressed, we might not always be on our best behavior.

JDeere · 04-15-2017, 11:09 AM

I have learned that it takes awhile for me to truly get over a heartbreak.

Kätzchen · 04-21-2017, 02:28 PM

I'm an avid crossword puzzle solver type of woman....I've been solving puzzles since I was ten years of age, maybe??

Anyhooo.... I've just learned, in a round about way, or rather it came to me while thinking about annoying pet peeves about puzzles, that most all editions of puzzle books seem to be authored by politically minded conservatives. It dawned on me that this must be the reason why I sometimes see hidden clues to the author's inner biases that seem hardly noticed by the casual puzzle solver, but this epiphany came to me while saying to myself the other day: "WTF is wrong with this person's thinking process?" , when the clue given to solve for the term used was most often a conflation of the term-proper, but also reveals rather toxic types of personal beliefs that go strictly against the grain, as far reaching as women's rights or unclever, well hidden views toward the LGBTQ, or even straight out, laugh in your face -- 'haha, I support the fucker elected to national office."

Now that I see this issue more clearly, I have resolved to never buy a puzzle book that has even one whiff of biased conservatism.

I'm guessing there is a niché market for puzzle books that do not favor biased political process?

JDeere · 05-02-2017, 08:38 PM

That being couth doesn't always work in my favor.

cathexis · 05-02-2017, 11:55 PM

To be more mindful of the depth of my relationship with my Partner, and how seemingly simple actions or words effect Her self confidence or frame of mind.

My actions and words become deeply integrated in Her view of life and Her determination.

How deeply I effect Her life and Her mine, how deep our connection is.

cathexis · 05-02-2017, 11:59 PM

That sometimes I need to step up, being assertive, to defend my own and other's issues no matter how uncomfortable it may feel.

girl_dee · 05-03-2017, 03:10 AM

that its ok to have healthy boundaries. Everyone should have them

Greco · 05-26-2017, 07:46 PM

I learned several years ago the difference
between being liked and admired
and being valued and appreciated
in any form of relationship...family,
friends, patrons, clients, colleagues.

It was quite a learning.

Greco

Kätzchen · 05-29-2017, 12:54 PM

......That Steel Magnolia's is simply a timeless, classic movie.

kittygrrl · 05-29-2017, 01:10 PM

i've learned every day is a treasure-don't waste it

akiza · 06-02-2017, 01:08 PM

i have learned that blood doesn't always make people family surprise!

kittygrrl · 06-02-2017, 01:43 PM

same sh*t, different day-always applies. Period

Gayandgray · 06-03-2017, 09:32 AM

I have learned that at this point in my life I really, really need to simplify things. I'm gonna be 48 in a few weeks and I have to do what is best for me and my butch. We are not getting any younger, and her health is declining, and it's up to me to take care of things. Well meaning family/friends can voice their opinions all they want, but they are not doing the work and they are not offering any help either.

Chad · 06-03-2017, 10:03 AM

Eat when you are hungry and sleep when you are tired.
Otherwise, run as fast as you can and slam into life.

Make everyday a happy day.

girl_dee · 06-08-2017, 04:06 AM

that life is too short to hold on to anything but good stuff.

CherryWine · 06-26-2017, 09:39 PM

Holding a constant grudge against anyone is an incredible waste of your own energy and happiness. Let that shit go.

03-31-2017, 10:30 AM	#381
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: je ne sais quoi Preferred Pronoun?: baby grrl Relationship Status: a few laughs Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the real Posts: 8,802 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,381 Thanked 21,371 Times in 6,721 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	learned - “Trust, Like The Soul, Never Returns Once It Is Gone” (anon) __________________ "All cruelty springs from weakness" Seneca

03-31-2017, 11:44 AM	#382
Chad Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Loved Caregiver Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 6,164 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,746 Thanked 20,325 Times in 5,678 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Agree I agree with kittygrrl on the point that once trust is gone then it is gone forever to me. I am always headed forward.

04-05-2017, 12:43 PM	#384
Gayandgray Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme-ish, tomboy lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Together a really long time Join Date: Jan 2016 Location: In my mind? On a tropical island Posts: 4,857 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,579 Thanked 12,912 Times in 3,079 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	That a positive attitude goes a long way!!!!!! Life ain't that bad, seriously. Sometimes we tend to complicate things way too much. We make it hard when it doesn't have to be. I'm learning to go with the flow.... __________________

04-21-2017, 02:28 PM	#387
Kätzchen Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Monogamously Attached to my boyfriend and future husband. Join Date: May 2010 Location: He’s usually with me unless I am with Him. Posts: 15,084 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 36,003 Thanked 31,991 Times in 9,939 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	I'm an avid crossword puzzle solver type of woman....I've been solving puzzles since I was ten years of age, maybe?? Anyhooo.... I've just learned, in a round about way, or rather it came to me while thinking about annoying pet peeves about puzzles, that most all editions of puzzle books seem to be authored by politically minded conservatives. It dawned on me that this must be the reason why I sometimes see hidden clues to the author's inner biases that seem hardly noticed by the casual puzzle solver, but this epiphany came to me while saying to myself the other day: "WTF is wrong with this person's thinking process?" , when the clue given to solve for the term used was most often a conflation of the term-proper, but also reveals rather toxic types of personal beliefs that go strictly against the grain, as far reaching as women's rights or unclever, well hidden views toward the LGBTQ, or even straight out, laugh in your face -- 'haha, I support the fucker elected to national office." Now that I see this issue more clearly, I have resolved to never buy a puzzle book that has even one whiff of biased conservatism. I'm guessing there is a niché market for puzzle books that do not favor biased political process? __________________ Kätzchen _____ ______

05-02-2017, 11:55 PM	#389
cathexis Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Trotskyist, Anarcho-syndicalist Preferred Pronoun?: They, Them, Their, Sir Bitch Relationship Status: open Join Date: Sep 2016 Location: Great White North! Posts: 4,332 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,812 Thanked 4,710 Times in 1,603 Posts Rep Power: 21474848	To be more mindful of the depth of my relationship with my Partner, and how seemingly simple actions or words effect Her self confidence or frame of mind. My actions and words become deeply integrated in Her view of life and Her determination. How deeply I effect Her life and Her mine, how deep our connection is. __________________ Insurrection is an art, and like all arts has its own laws. -----Leon Trotsky

04-10-2017, 06:00 PM	#385
introverted1 Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Join Date: Jun 2016 Location: introville Posts: 250 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 422 Thanked 741 Times in 212 Posts Rep Power: 7058200	Instead of immediately judging somebody who is being rude or brusque with me, I wonder what they might be going through personally to cause them to be that way. If we are stressed, we might not always be on our best behavior.

04-15-2017, 11:09 AM	#386
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,871 Times in 9,718 Posts Rep Power: 21474863	I have learned that it takes awhile for me to truly get over a heartbreak.

05-02-2017, 08:38 PM	#388
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,871 Times in 9,718 Posts Rep Power: 21474863	That being couth doesn't always work in my favor.

05-02-2017, 11:59 PM	#390
cathexis Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Trotskyist, Anarcho-syndicalist Preferred Pronoun?: They, Them, Their, Sir Bitch Relationship Status: open Join Date: Sep 2016 Location: Great White North! Posts: 4,332 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,812 Thanked 4,710 Times in 1,603 Posts Rep Power: 21474848	That sometimes I need to step up, being assertive, to defend my own and other's issues no matter how uncomfortable it may feel. __________________ Insurrection is an art, and like all arts has its own laws. -----Leon Trotsky

05-03-2017, 03:10 AM	#391
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,956 Times in 13,922 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	that its ok to have healthy boundaries. Everyone should have them

05-26-2017, 07:46 PM	#392
Greco Senior Member How Do You Identify?: GNC, not Trans, REAL. TIME. ONLY. Preferred Pronoun?: REAL. TIME. ONLY. Relationship Status: REAL. TIME. ONLY. Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: In a good life. Posts: 3,194 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,149 Thanked 6,639 Times in 2,288 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	v & a I learned several years ago the difference between being liked and admired and being valued and appreciated in any form of relationship...family, friends, patrons, clients, colleagues. It was quite a learning. Greco __________________ "If you are losing faith in human nature go out and watch a marathon." Kathrine Switzer *"Me gusta andar, pero no sigo el camino pues lo seguro no tiene misterio." Facundo Cabral*

05-29-2017, 12:54 PM	#393
Kätzchen Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Monogamously Attached to my boyfriend and future husband. Join Date: May 2010 Location: He’s usually with me unless I am with Him. Posts: 15,084 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 36,003 Thanked 31,991 Times in 9,939 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	......That Steel Magnolia's is simply a timeless, classic movie. __________________ Kätzchen _____ ______

05-29-2017, 01:10 PM	#394
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: je ne sais quoi Preferred Pronoun?: baby grrl Relationship Status: a few laughs Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the real Posts: 8,802 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,381 Thanked 21,371 Times in 6,721 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	i've learned every day is a treasure-don't waste it __________________ "All cruelty springs from weakness" Seneca

06-02-2017, 01:08 PM	#395
akiza Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: khaleessi lol ^-^ just go with aki,ana,kit or princess Relationship Status: single Join Date: May 2017 Location: Congo-brazzaville Posts: 774 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 318 Thanked 622 Times in 284 Posts Rep Power: 0	i have learned that blood doesn't always make people family surprise!

06-02-2017, 01:43 PM	#396
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: je ne sais quoi Preferred Pronoun?: baby grrl Relationship Status: a few laughs Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the real Posts: 8,802 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,381 Thanked 21,371 Times in 6,721 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	i've learned- same sht, different day-always applies. Period* __________________ "All cruelty springs from weakness" Seneca

06-03-2017, 09:32 AM	#397
Gayandgray Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme-ish, tomboy lesbian Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Together a really long time Join Date: Jan 2016 Location: In my mind? On a tropical island Posts: 4,857 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,579 Thanked 12,912 Times in 3,079 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	I have learned that at this point in my life I really, really need to simplify things. I'm gonna be 48 in a few weeks and I have to do what is best for me and my butch. We are not getting any younger, and her health is declining, and it's up to me to take care of things. Well meaning family/friends can voice their opinions all they want, but they are not doing the work and they are not offering any help either. __________________

06-03-2017, 10:03 AM	#398
Chad Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Loved Caregiver Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 6,164 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,746 Thanked 20,325 Times in 5,678 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Learned Eat when you are hungry and sleep when you are tired. Otherwise, run as fast as you can and slam into life. Make everyday a happy day.

06-08-2017, 04:06 AM	#399
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,956 Times in 13,922 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	that life is too short to hold on to anything but good stuff.

06-26-2017, 09:39 PM	#400
CherryWine Senior Member How Do You Identify?: lesbian femme Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: The Deep South Posts: 2,491 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,060 Thanked 10,084 Times in 2,186 Posts Rep Power: 21474847	Learned a while back... Holding a constant grudge against anyone is an incredible waste of your own energy and happiness. Let that shit go.