What have you learned?

[MissItalianDiva]

If I threw all my problems in a pile with everyone else's I surely would be willing to take mine back

[sara-bera]

The expression, "you never really know what you have till it's gone," isn't really true. We always knew what we had. We just never expected it to leave.

[sylvie]

i have learned (just this week) -

- that they may be my parents, but they aren't positive influencs in my life, and they definitey do not like the positive changes i am making and the fact i am building strength and self-confidence.. But i'm growing okay with that, and determined to keep moving forward, because what matters is how the changes are making *me* feel..

- that i *can* be easy on myself - and for the first time in my life, today, made a decision that allowed me to feel like a load was lifted off my shoulders rather then obsess and be hard on myself for it and set myself unrealistic expectations that would set me up and *know & wait* for the downspiral to happen.. i was able to choose what was a priority to do, set some things aside, and get rid of the rest that was unnecessary to task myself with... Wow, now that is real progress for me..

- that the teenage girl is definitely playing her part in trying to turn her mother gray.. And if she succeeds, i'll accept every one of those gray hairs - as i'll have earned them with worry, pacing floors and sometimes frustration, but *still* believe that parenting is the best decision i've made in life.. While our days can be full of challenges lately - i'm blessed to be a mother of two teenagers, and having such morals and always parenting with such love...i DO love the beings they are becoming, (even if they don't see it themselves yet) Momma does..♥..& is proud.

[~ocean]

i learned along time ago .when to walk away ..this is me walking away ...>

[Okiebug61]

Sometimes you just want to go off!

Hey! If any of you are looking for any last-minute gift ideas for me, I have one. I'd like (Deleted by Mod), my boss, right here tonight. I want him brought from his happy holiday slumber over there on (Deleted by Mod) Lane with all the other rich people and I want him brought right here, with a big ribbon on his head, and I want to look him straight in the eye and I want to tell him what a cheap, lying, no-good, rotten, four-flushing, low-life, snake-licking, dirt-eating, inbred, overstuffed, ignorant, blood-sucking, dog-kissing, brainless, dickless, hopeless, heartless, (Deleted by Mod), bug-eyed, stiff-legged, spotty-lipped, worm-headed sack of monkey shit he is! Hallelujah! Holy shit! Where's the Tylenol?

[boobookitty]

Originally Posted by kittygrrl

what is a true friend? Plenty of people think they have tons of people who truly love them and will stand by them..if they do they are blessed..to me a true friend is someone who's knows you inside and out and still loves you no matter what..who will face death with you and count themselves lucky to have been a part of your life..i haven't been lucky like that yet, every "friend" i've ever had has in one way or another betrayed me (this maybe karma) but I digress. I let very few people in my life close to me, but if I consider you a friend, yes i will face death with you and if i have to give up mine to save yours..that's friendship (at least the only kind that counts)

I have learned that I have two "true" friends in my life,

... and that people who lack the maturity to have adult conversations are an endless source of amusement.

[sylvie]

i have learned:

- there will always be mean-spirited people, and the best way to respond to that is to kill them with kindness..
- that the outdoors, & enjoying nature is my prescription to a positive day!
- that being a gentle being, doesn't mean i lay down and take it.. i'm strong and independent, even if i walk in a gentle way on this planet , and THIS planet too, lol..
- that Daddy, ALWAYS has my back..

[Ginger]

I learn and forget and painfully relearn the same message over and over: I am no one's priority. But I am my own priority. I am the one who must put things in place to ensure I will be taken care of it in my later years. This doesn't have to be a bad thing or a sad thing. This can be an exciting and liberating thing. I have a lot of resources and choices at my fingertips, and I can make something beautiful out of it to look forward to.

I am looking for a financial planner to consult with. I am fantasizing about my long-term peace and happiness.

[Lady_Di]

Love is.

Love can never die.

Love is Eternal.

[NorCalStud]

Even if you know they will anyway? Give consent ever for troopers to search your vehicle. Your resistance to "the man's" pressure will be video taped and while your shit or money will be taken; your case in court will be dismissed or reduced. Police are currently breaking probable cause laws and regularly violating our fourth ammendment rights. Check out vipr units supposedly used by tsa who has been hired to find terrorists on our interstate hiways and oh yeah might as well do drug interdiction too. I leave you with this statistic...10 x's more often the troopers cars are pointed toward east traffic going west...why? That money is coming home and they want that shit. Vipr units or "icecream trucks" xraying us all the time. Every state but four or five has em.

[pajama]

I have learned that I can be my own worst enemy. My ass-umtions cost me 5 years. But now, I'm going to be me and not ass-u-me she is a certain way or has a certain preference. Maybe I was enough all along. *face palm*

[nycfem]

MODERATING

Hey there, Okie,
Your post was reported for giving a name and street (TMRI- too much real information). I've changed this below and will run on over and do so in your original post.
Sometimes when we want to "go off" to this extent it might be better to do so with a few close friends, instead of a public website.
Thanks,
Jennifer

Originally Posted by Okiebug61

Sometimes you just want to go off!

Hey! If any of you are looking for any last-minute gift ideas for me, I have one. I'd like ABC, my boss, right here tonight. I want him brought from his happy holiday slumber over there on ABC Lane with all the other rich people and I want him brought right here, with a big ribbon on his head, and I want to look him straight in the eye and I want to tell him what a cheap, lying, no-good, rotten, four-flushing, low-life, snake-licking, dirt-eating, inbred, overstuffed, ignorant, blood-sucking, dog-kissing, brainless, dickless, hopeless, heartless, fat-ass, bug-eyed, stiff-legged, spotty-lipped, worm-headed sack of monkey shit he is! Hallelujah! Holy shit! Where's the Tylenol?

[girl_dee]

that life is so precious and possibly short
that resentment is a waste of precious time
that everything happens for a reason, but sometimes i don't understand what the reason could possibly be.

[kittygrrl]

don't take a bite of fruitcake expecting it to taste different..fruitcake (by it's nature) isn't going to change although hopefully, (at some point) your taste for it will..

[girl_dee]

that i changed my mind, i do not believe that everything happens for a reason.

i've learned that only i can stop feeling so badly about things that i had no control over, reaching out does not help find answers, maybe because there is no answer


i've learned that carrying the heavy load for the actions of others is no way to live and that it is time to move on

i've learned to let myself be loved and to trust again

[girl_dee]

Originally Posted by IslandScout

I learn and forget and painfully relearn the same message over and over: I am no one's priority. But I am my own priority. I am the one who must put things in place to ensure I will be taken care of it in my later years. This doesn't have to be a bad thing or a sad thing. This can be an exciting and liberating thing. I have a lot of resources and choices at my fingertips, and I can make something beautiful out of it to look forward to.

I am looking for a financial planner to consult with. I am fantasizing about my long-term peace and happiness.

Not being a priority is very hurtful indeed. i am so glad you are in control, because i've learned that sometimes you have to do what you have to do for YOU.

i learn that it feels better to read words of someone who has felt exactly as i have, that's pretty awesome

[femmsational]

I've learned that this is where everybody disappeared to.

LOL!!!

[kittygrrl]

the three greatest preachers in this world are:

i. Time
ii. Experience
iii. Consequences

[Jess]

Originally Posted by kittygrrl

don't take a bite of fruitcake expecting it to taste different..fruitcake (by it's nature) isn't going to change although hopefully, (at some point) your taste for it will..

I've learned also that not all fruitcakes are equal. They are not all the same. They may look alike, smell alike, even have the same apparent texture, but may be vastly different upon the lips.

Another good fruitcake lesson... is not to take the fruitcake when you really want creme brulee...

[~ocean]

LOl Jess very well said !! .. never settle