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How do you feel about "PDA"?
I go back and forth on this question. How much is too much, where and at what point in a relationship?
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I'm all for public displays of affection. Meaning that I like to hold hands while walking or sitting together... have her arm in mine... my arm around her or my hand on the small of her back. I don't mind a kiss here and there.
I like to touch and be touched but in saying that, I probably am not going to be found making out with someone in public. I always ask the person I'm with how they feel about PDA as well because I don't want to make the other person uncomfortable.
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Depends where I am, really (what country, what part).
Generally I enjoy holding hands, or my hand through their arm. Head on their shoulder on the bus or train. Hand on lap at the pub. Public style kisses, unless it's late night somewhere, after a few drinks, and it's a queer to club, rave or an event or a dark doorway. I'm not going to play tonsil hockey on the train at 7pm. But I have made out pretty heavily after midnight in the pub at a table during a queer event. Maybe even did kissing rounds at the table.... Gotten rather frisky at a pride picnic before when some young butch wanted to try kissing the girls that were in our circle... We passed her around for a proper snog each. Generally, I'm pretty reserved unless the special occasion calls for a bit of fun. |
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I love it. Just sayin!! :-D
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I'm all for it! Walking hand and hand or my arm around her waist or while driving I lay my hand on her thigh and her touching me also and telling each other " I love you's " in public also and sharing food off each other plates but I'm not into showing sexually how I deeply feel about my partner in public that should be at home you know that's private! But anything else I'm all for!
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I am pretty much in agreement with what others have posted. Holding hands, quick pecks on the cheek or forehead, maybe a little back rub here and there. Where I live, this is mostly limited to gay bars and gay-friendly events in order to avoid rude comments or stares.
I don't care to watch someone straddling their partner and sucking face in public, so you won't find me doing it either. Get a room for all of that. Lol. |
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It depends on where we are. I'm a toucher. I will touch anywhere. If I'm not touching my partner then I'm holding hands with my 13 year old daughter.
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I"m pretty much like sleepy on PDA. I enjoy being with a partner and touching them. I love to be touched in return. But I'm not about to play tonsil hockey as HB put it public or straddle my partner , that's for getting a room somewhere and not in public in MHO( I don't like seeing it either, either gay or straight.)
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I like some PDA for sure. Walking down the street holding her hand. Or if we are standing at a street corner waiting to cross I will take the opportunity to have my arms around her, or to steal a kiss. If we are driving, and just pulled into a parking spot, I am more likely to get a longer kiss before we get out of the car.
I think there is a point it does become too much, but simple things, instead of full on make-out sessions are good.
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Yes to PDA. I like holding hands and being held or touched.
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I didnt like it. But I know I wasn't with the right person. Oh, how things change
Love it when he is slightly agressive in public. Ahuh. Yes please!
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I'm not affraid to show my affection, I am respectful if children are around... But I have a Girl that is extremly exciting and beautiful and I get so wrapped up into her that everything around me is a blur and she is all that I see and desire.. .
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love it
but, always a lady, in public
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I wouldnt mind holding hands, having my arm around her waist or shoulder. Probably wouldnt kiss her unless I find her to be irresistibly sexy at the moment! Who the hell knows? Its all depending on the situation.
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I think PDA is ok and I like it... If it's tasteful and respectful of those around...also I must agree... Always a lady in public.
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I am all for PDA but I won't do it around children or people who I just met and might not feel comfortable about seeing it.
My partner has 3 children and I don't show PDA around them, just yet, we are still starting to get to know each other and I respect their mom's wishes for no PDA when they are around. Until my partner makes it "official" with me.
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It makes me very proud of who i'm with, but would avoid over doing it. "Discrete" PDA is fun too, just saying.
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I like to hold hands . but my ex gf was afraid to because her fear of retaliation or harassment from the bible thumpers and rednecks here.so i respected her wishes. i seriously doubt anything would happen here if we had...but then again i never EVER see lesbian or gay men holding hands here unless its gay pride downtown or memorial day at the beach.. and ive lived here my whole life not even once have i seen pda in public unless it was a staight couple. but yeah...id hold hands , hug or whatever not makeout or anything
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I don't think there's anything wrong with appropriate PDA. I'm not into getting all over someone ......that's just too much for me and I don't like seeing it either........from any couple. Get a Room for that. LOL
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