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I find that we pick people who are mirrors for ourselves. When a person can see that and chooses to learn from that, their experience deepens. One can see what one is bringing to the dynamic. Perhaps some reflection is in order. You chose to write some interesting words in a site full of femmes and people who love them. Perhaps this is what you seek. Last edited by Violette; 04-12-2014 at 09:35 AM. Reason: spell check |
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RE: Drama
In my experience I have found that broaching a subject as a calm, reasonable, adult has still resulted in me being accused of drama. Sometimes, the other person has simply not wanted to discuss the subject that I have broached. Pulling the "drama" accusation is an easy way to shut down the conversation, instead of being honest and simply saying, "I don't feel like talking about it now". Nobody wants to be a drama queen, so it's an easy way to silence someone.
I have to agree with kittygrrl...sometimes intense passion brings a little drama. But I would NEVER forego passion simply to avoid a little drama. Drama...heh...I can deal with it. Welcome to the planet, DJ. |
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Holy cow! You sweet little femmes might just have opened my eyes a little bit! Can it possibly be that I've lived this long without learning this? I think maybe this is why I'm drawn to you soft, cuddly teddy bears---you appear like you need us Butches, but maybe it's really us Butches who need you!
You have all given me lots to contemplate--am I looking in a mirror, am I really just shutting down the conversation, am I afraid to honestly see so I just call it "drama"? Very interesting indeed. Thanks everyone for your honesty and willingness to help this butch. |
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I knew when I saw that post it was going to offend and I found it offensive as well. I know people in the community AND outside it that cause drama on a regular basis.
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I do agree with one thing you said .... That it's us butches that need femmes! I crave that energy. The exchange between butch and femme is like no other energy.
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I saw the post equating femmes with drama-makers.
Let me add to my list of non-negotiables, sexism.
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Really? Answering with yet more of the same assumptions and sexist language doesn't really help yer cause mate. You'll find plenty of strong, capable, articulate femmes who will be telling you why such attitudes and language are unacceptable. Pin back yer ears! * handy hint alert May I suggest reading around the site. You'll learn lots if you remain open-minded and willing to learn. I've learned lots about my attitudes by being a member here and reading...lots. |
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Well said and I totally agree!
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thank you very much lamuymuyfem and others who have responded. This is all making me chuckle--and shake my head as well. I appreciate the way you disagreed with me but didn't do so in a critical way. Rather in a way that invited me to continue learning.
That is one thing this journey is all about, learning along our way. Others may not see things the way we do, we may not see they way we do, but if we can keep ourselves open to learning, maybe we can learn new and better ways along the way. I respect whatever you believe are your "deal breakers" all I ask is that you respect what I consider mine. By the same token, I want to grow as a person and if my "deal breakers" are holding me back from growing, then by all means I would want to hear about that, have an opportunity to reflect on that and then make my own decisions. Thanks all and may our energy continue to help each of us develop into stronger people. |
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Of course I always suspect we're getting played by a troll whenever it's as easy as shooting fish in a barrel.
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Yes, Yes, Yes! And Yes! The thought that this is a troll has crossed my mind several times. Especially after the second post. "Sweet little femmes..." Wow. |
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This thread has had a recent report which I wanted to acknowledge (thank you). We try to stay out of the thread if people are working things out directly with each other which seems to be the case right now. If someone is truly found to be a troll of course they will be banned but sometimes it takes some time to figure that out. Just an update that we are alerted and also that the reason there has been no administrative stepping in at this point is that people are speaking up on the thread themselves.
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This was my first thought too.
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I can assure you this person, DJ is not a troll. I know her, and in fact have dated her and introduced her to this site. I cringed when I read her posts, knowing she has a lot to learn about the butch femme dynamic and this site. I hesitated to even post, because we are no longer dating but she truly is a good person, just has a lot to learn, as do we all when we enter unfamiliar territory.
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Thanks! I had meant to ask you if it was the same one
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