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06-13-2010, 06:16 PM | #1 |
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When K and I started going out, we were across borders (Toronto and NYC). When I finally moved here, we lived together for nearly 3 years. She moved back out West (Los Angeles) to be closer to her family and find a job. I'll be moving out there at the end of August. I had forgotten how difficult it is to be apart from the one you love.
I'm reminded each night when I go to bed alone. I'm reminded each day by the silence (only broken by Bobcat who whines for K). There are a variety of little tricks that we use to stay in contact (e.g., online talking, phone date nights, etc.) I thought it might be useful for those who are just starting LDRs or have "forced" LDRs due to factors outside of the relationship to have a thread to discuss ideas, tricks, etc. at keeping things alive and avoiding the loneliness that sometimes come with it.
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I truly recommend Skype for anyone in a LDR, you can talk and see each other online! It helps that it's free to talk too.
Text messages too, I send text messages to My babygirl when I it's not easy for Me to get online, sometimes My phone doesn't like the weather here so it doesn't connect to the internet too well, so text messages are another way to simply send a message just saying "I love you" because sometimes even those three simple words can brighten the day of the one you love.
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Dude.
i so understand your frustration. Although i am no longer in a LDR, i was for 18 months. OMG it was seriously hard. So many ups and downs. Be happy you are making it work and august aint that far away. You have 3 years under your belt, its working it self out. Just keep doing what your doing and before you know it, it will be august. My ex and i broke up every month for something or another, but with deep communication we picked ourselves up and moved on. At this point after the breakup we are not even friends. i wish things were different, but LD is so hard. If i had to do it again, i would do things differently, serious note! Good Luck Linus, you got this in the bag |
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When Paphigleo and I started dating we had to seriously consider wich of the 2 evils we were willing to face-
Having a long distance relationship, or Doing the 2nd date UHual thing. We decided we would rather move to fast, and face the risks, than the expense and agony of the long distance. We planned an exit strategy for each of us, if moving him in didnt work. We planned a dating strategy too- that is still in effect. He moved here in January, and at this point I do think we made the right choice. My heart goes out to each of you who are working with the distance. It can be a rough one. |
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applied to LDR's....
...i think this is an appropriate quote:
Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky ~ Rainer Maria Rilke
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i have recently started a long distance relationship. we communicate in some form daily...but it is limited because we also have a 3 hour time difference. so when it is getting late or past my bedtime; she is in the early evening hours. i have sacrificed a few hours of sleep here and there so we can talk longer. it is definitely worth it. i hope for the day when we are in the same time zone. it sucks waking up alone.
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