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09-15-2016, 08:37 PM | #342 |
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09-19-2016, 02:12 PM | #343 |
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09-19-2016, 05:18 PM | #344 |
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I've learned that facing your fears is never an easy thing to do. However, when you find the courage to face them, and then you win....well, that's truly one of the best feelings in the world.
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09-19-2016, 05:34 PM | #345 |
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09-19-2016, 06:09 PM | #346 |
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Just about the time I think I'm ready to jump out there and start dating again, I see someone (or several someone's, as the case may be) do some dishonorable, self-serving shit to someone they supposedly love and it baffles the hell out of me. I've learned that apparently my views on dating and relationships are too old-fashioned for today's dating game. What ever happened to protecting the people you love and defending their honor, especially in their absence?
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12-17-2016, 01:02 PM | #347 |
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12-17-2016, 02:58 PM | #348 |
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12-17-2016, 06:38 PM | #349 |
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I’ve learned people looking for perfection in a partner, rarely make good partners themselves. I’ve learned those who blame child abuse for mistakes they continue to make as adults really need to grow up. I’ve learned the more I avoid abusive people the less often I find myself having to ask myself – Am I forgiving enough? |
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12-18-2016, 10:10 AM | #350 |
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Never turn your back on a chicken. Believe me this does require thinking harder and not being complacent with the idea that chickens are "bird brains" lol
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12-18-2016, 07:46 PM | #351 |
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I have learned that a banana and Nutella is YUM!
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12-18-2016, 11:22 PM | #353 |
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01-06-2017, 12:30 PM | #355 |
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01-14-2017, 12:54 AM | #356 |
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I ran across an article today that really got me thinking. I have learned that romantic love and passion are beautiful and necessary for a good relationship but that liking and respecting the person you are with is just as important as being madly in love and passionate. Passion and romance are important but not sufficient. I did already know that but have learned along the way some important lessons regarding this. I used to think communication was the key, but actually respect is even more important. And of course true commitment.
I've had what I thought was great communication with past partners only to realize later that they totally don't get me at all. I am always exactly myself, so if someone doesn't get me and what my intentions and love for them is after a lot of communication and spending time with me where that person and our relationship is my top priority at all times and I am doing everything I can for them, then I don't get that. I've also had relationships where the communication wasn't good, and that definitely doesn't work either. All I know is it is better to find someone who really likes as well as loves me for the person I really am and not some idealized version. The person respects that I have to work and do many other practical things as part of my every day routine and I am still thinking of her every single second that I am doing that and it is out of love as well as necessity. Life is not all hearts and roses and sometimes I express my love for someone in "practical" ways as well as "romantic" ways. It really helps to have a partner who understands this. This article is awesome: https://qz.com/884448/every-successf...exact-reasons/ Like the article says, you really want to be with someone where you both genuinely enjoy being with one another and respect one another. It's something I think that is easy to agree with and feel you do know, but sometimes you have to go through some things to really see and understand this on a practical as well as romantic level. "True love—that is, deep, abiding love that is impervious to emotional whims or fancy—is a choice. It’s a constant commitment to a person regardless of the present circumstances."
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That my youngest son is willing to divorce himself from one of his really bad habits (Alcohol Addiction). I think that half his battle in addressing his addictions was his inability to see how his choices were harming his life. He's ready to divorce himself from alcohol. I couldn't be happier for him.
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This is not new I learned this in the 70's I just ponder it sometimes. I know that I have been replaced in jobs and other life situations. It is interesting to ponder this because as humans we think we are unique but we are not. It is not a sad or a feeling thing it is just reality. |
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