Big Butch Love

[asphaltcowboi]

Originally Posted by MasterfulButch

Okay. I've been pondering...

What would the femmes of this thread think to a big butch strip show? I'm thinking along the lines of The Full Monty - authentic and brave - rather than some glitzy Vegas style polished version.

Any takers?

Dude? can we keep our boots on?

[MasterfulButch]

Originally Posted by Sweet Bliss

Omg.... have you just been teasing us?!?!?!

There's NO Big Butch review?!?!?

Well, I will admit to being a tease in certain circumstances, mainly those where the element of anticipation will enhance the end result. Still, that's a conversation for another thread.

As for this particular scenario, I think the big butch appreciators may need to make a little more noise to encourage some of our shyer big butches to step forward...

[MasterfulButch]

Originally Posted by asphaltcowboi

Dude? can we keep our boots on?

Absolutely. Boots and cowboi hats perhaps? The latter could be useful near the end.

[Sweet Bliss]

Originally Posted by asphaltcowboi

Dude? can we keep our boots on?

Yes! I insist.... *snickering

[Sweet Bliss]

Who do I bribe, I mean pay off, uh, ,......

How do I acquire back stage V.I.P.Pass?

[Butcher]

I wouldn't consider myself overweight, but I also know I am not small, or fit, or thin. I have been calling myself fat for years, and it wasn't until very recently that I decided to stop that, and to instead refer to myself as husky. I'm making an effort to embrace my size, and instead of focusing on my gut or the wideness of my hips, I'm looking at the wideness of my shoulders and the sheer power of my size when I stand proud.

I'm big enough to scoop up my femme, big enough to carry the heavy stuff, big enough to scare away assholes. If I was smaller, I wouldn't appear as powerful or strong. I've worked out and dieted enough times to say to myself...no, this is okay. You're a husky butch, and that's great. Now eat that fucking burger because you want to.

[fever]

Now, a Big Butch review would definitely be worth that plane ticket to the Reunion next year! Gee Butch has done some amazing reviews. This femme slipping right off the chair kind of reviews. Whew!!

[SleepyButch]

As I sit here resting my coffee cup on my gut, I'm not sure what I'll write but I'll just let it come out....

I'm a bigger Butch. My weight fluctuates, when I'm happy I gain weight. When I'm not, I lose it. My most recent break up left me 20 lbs lighter but it's coming back as it always does. I like to eat. What can I say?

I'm almost 5'9" and just shy of 200lbs at this point. I tend to struggle with my own weight issues more than I get them from others. What if I gain weight, will so and so not like me anymore? That's a hard one to work through when you are in a relationship or not in a relationship. Thankfully, none of my past gfs have ever judged me for my weight and have never left me because I gained or lost for that matter. No one has ever said, C, do you really want to eat all of those chocolate chip cookies? My answer would have been, not unless you want to share them with me.


99% of my pics are selfies because I'm too shy or embarrassed to ask someone to take a full length picture of me. So because my face is thinner, it may (or may not) look like I'm thinner than I am. I always make it a point to tell anyone I'm seriously going to date that I am by no means thin because I don't like surprises. (I always cringe a little not knowing what their reaction will be.) If I show up and am not what you expect, what a waste of time for you and definitely for me!


I remember way back in the stone ages, when there were no online forums such as these. I would pick up the local gay paper and look at the personal ads. (anyone else remember these?) I would read post after post of how they did NOT want Butches or fatties. It was so depressing because what if you were both? I never answered any of them anyway but still. What's wrong with being Butch and what is wrong with being large? People are cruel.
Right?

So fast forward to more recent. Holy hell, there are women called femmes that want Butches? Wow! Then, holy hell, there are women who are femmes that don't care about your weight and even like bigger guys?! Wow! Really Wow!

With that in mind, I want to thank all of you who love us for who we are, no matter our size because you can see the beauty that we are. Speaking for myself now, without you, I know I would be a pretty lonely guy and that is not the way I want to live my life. I want to be loved and appreciated for me and so many of you know exactly what that means and how to make me/us feel special.

I'm a Bigger Butch. I can be handsome, sexy and yes even beautiful because you help me see those things in me.

So thank you again from the bottom of my heart. You too are appreciated!

[JustLovelyJenn]

Thought I might come back around here again... hi folks...

[randrum]

This is a great thread. To read everyone's, both butch and femme alike, responses is enlightening.

I've never thought of myself as big until the last couple of years. Technically speaking, based on BMI and height-weight charts, I have always been overweight. Even in peak physical condition in high school and college (I was a swimmer).

I have naturally big shoulders, that are a source of pride really. I like how they look. And I have always been muscular. But over the last few years I've developed a gut. It's a sore spot for me.

I workout regularly. Lift weights, run, yoga, etc. I try to eat right, though I'm a sucker for pizza, burgers, and beer. Lol.

Life would be easier if I just accepted that I have the gut. If I was just happy with the body I'm in, because really there is nothing wrong with it. But even if I accepted it, it doesn't mean other people would.

My dad always comments about my size. My mom tells me every time she sees me that I need to "lose the gut". Or will give me a look when I'm eating something she doesn't approve of.

So that leads me to a bad place. If my parents can't accept my size, how am I going to find a woman to love me in spite of it? Honestly, it's why I haven't even put myself out there to find a gf. I figured I didn't stand a chance.

[imperfect_cupcake]

You shouldn't be finding someone who loves you Despite how you look. Someone will love you because of how you look. If you are attracted to a femme, in spite of her size, that is going to be felt. I'd hate that.
I find people hot because of how they think, how they move, how they handle their own bodies. I like a sense of confidence in movement. It's shows a sense of grace. That's hot. I've been with butches from size 8 to size 28. Literally. They were all very, very sexy in their bodies because of how they moved and held themselves. My physical attractions are about sense of self in body, movement, gesture, confidence, owning their space in a variety of ways that people do. That and being a bit cocky, playfully sarcastic, dark humoured and smart. Open about their desires. The willingness to experiment.
Hot. Very hot.

[LilyCat]

Some femmes actually prefer a big butch to cuddle up to and love. I am one of those femmes. So I say go out there and find your beautiful femme, she is probably looking for you too.

[clay]

I enjoy this thread! Bumping..for great posts to re-read......

[Daisy Chain]

Originally Posted by clay

I enjoy this thread! Bumping..for great posts to re-read......

In that case I shall answer your call Clay !!

OK, As this thread is entitled Big Butch Love I will state that yes bigger butches are indeed easy on the eye....that said so are thinner butches too ! OK that sounds like I am sitting on the fence right ?! The thing is I really do love peoples uniqueness, and I find beauty/attractiveness in all those little details. It can be an accent, the way they laugh, the way their hair falls...no hair, skinned off even, a walk, swagger...hands, how they rest them on their thighs palms down, hook a thumb in a pocket....all the little details. And their energy. The most beautiful thing about any butch is how they make you feel when you are around them, make me feel relaxed and at ease and you have my attention. And frankly all of these things can come in any/many types of packages......you can be tall, short, slender, burly...do like that word...burly..yes indeed.

I can say the love of my life is a couple of inches shorter than me and I wouldnt say heavy by any means though she would say she needs to loose a few pounds, though working nights in the medical profession throws her eating habits out a lot.

All that said though if I was pressed I would say ideally I would be more likely to be drawn to a heavier butch.....also be greying,,,,have those wrinkly crinkly sparkly eyes too......older than me....and top it all off with the gentlest smile !

So yes, Big Butch Love abounds from Daisy.....{that took me long enough to get to the point eh !! }

Daisy

[Tuff Stuff]

Let's talk about what it's like to be heavy, overweight or however you would like to refer to it.

Does it affect your self-esteem?
When I was younger my size did affect my self-esteem.I have always been a big girl.My body is built like a guys,wide shoulders,no ass.
Does it prevent you from getting dates?
Actually the opposite.Some ladies are quite intrigued once they know i'm a woman.
Do you feel unattractive to femmes?
When I stand next to anything femme,the sight alone is magnificent if not threatening to some...*shrugs*
Do you attract women to date?
Yes
Are you doing anything to lose weight?
I'm around 195-200lbs.I feel healthy and strong so no.
Are you satisfied with how you look?
Yes
Do you have weight goals or not?
My doctor has goals,but he's an asshole.
Are you happy and in love without weight ever being a factor?
I like "meat" on my bones,I like "meat" on my partners bones.
Does your partner want you to lose weight or not?
I haven't heard any complaints.
Do others see you as lovable and sexy just as you are?
I don't care what others see me as,i'm comfortable in my own skin.

Well,that was fun...moving on..

[Shystonefem]

Originally Posted by randrum

This is a great thread. To read everyone's, both butch and femme alike, responses is enlightening.

I've never thought of myself as big until the last couple of years. Technically speaking, based on BMI and height-weight charts, I have always been overweight. Even in peak physical condition in high school and college (I was a swimmer).

I have naturally big shoulders, that are a source of pride really. I like how they look. And I have always been muscular. But over the last few years I've developed a gut. It's a sore spot for me.

I workout regularly. Lift weights, run, yoga, etc. I try to eat right, though I'm a sucker for pizza, burgers, and beer. Lol.

Life would be easier if I just accepted that I have the gut. If I was just happy with the body I'm in, because really there is nothing wrong with it. But even if I accepted it, it doesn't mean other people would.

My dad always comments about my size. My mom tells me every time she sees me that I need to "lose the gut". Or will give me a look when I'm eating something she doesn't approve of.

So that leads me to a bad place. If my parents can't accept my size, how am I going to find a woman to love me in spite of it? Honestly, it's why I haven't even put myself out there to find a gf. I figured I didn't stand a chance.

I never have seen it that way. People tell me that I am small but I don't feel that way. I actually don't like being called small.....

My mother told me, every single day, how fat I was (at the time, I was a size 7).... She was thin (a size 3). What I am trying to say is that what one person appears to see is not what the rest of the world sees.

So what if you have a beer belly? You are still the same person.... just sayin.

[Mel C.]

*bumping for the big butches and their fans*

[JustLovelyJenn]

I'm still loving... from afar... at the moment.

[JDeere]

Can us big trans guys be included? Just wondering! I don't want to start a new thread if us Trans guys can be included here.

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by JDeere

Can us big trans guys be included? Just wondering! I don't want to start a new thread if us Trans guys can be included here.

Hey, JDeere.

So, this is just my opinion, but I suspect that there is a number of people (butch, femme, and trans), who would prefer it be a separate thread.

Although both are masculine identities, for some there is no cross over, what so ever.

I have no investment in there being separate threads (because I wouldn't post on either), but I suspect that it would be hard for someone who does have an investment to come in here and say it.

Just my thoughts, bro.