Regrets...Do You Have One or Some?

Soon · 11-21-2011, 11:37 PM

Sometimes, admitting what we regret may shine light on what we should do in the future, or put an event/feeling in the past in perspective and enlighten us on our future paths.

What are some of your major regrets in life?

One of mine is not spending enough time with my father before he passed. I was young, still resentful of their treatment of me when I was an adolescent, and shied away from him. I regret not going over more and visiting when I should have and fleeing the scene so to speak.

Just_G · 11-21-2011, 11:50 PM

I have very few regrets because I think that even if something happens that would usually trigger the feeling of regret, I have learned from those events and have applied it to how I live and love now.

The regrets I do have are as follows:

1. I regret losing my retainer when I was 13....and not getting another one.

2. I regret dropping out of playing sports because I was bullied and not really all that welcomed in the girls locker room because they thought I was such a "freak". I know I could have gotten a full ride scholarship for basketball somewhere.

3. I regret not going away to college and getting out from under the family.

All these years later though, I am making up for a couple of these things. I have gone back to college and will have my degree in March, and I am now playing tackle football for the Kansas City Tribe. I am making it up to myself for dropping out of sports and for not going to college. (both of which, were huge fears of mine all these years)

The whole retainer thing will come later once I get a great job with decent dental benefits.

Apocalipstic · 11-21-2011, 11:54 PM

Our lives make us who we are

But I regret most giving away my two beloved cats years ago because my new GF at the time was allergic.

I miss them.

Blade · 11-22-2011, 07:52 AM

Like HSIN and Just G many of my regrets stem from not making the effort to spend time with people who are now gone. Pa died the week before my 40th birthday and Nannie Nov 4th last year.

Like Just G I regret quitting playing sports I was good at, due to the same reasons.

Also regret not finishing college, and want to add how much I admire those of you who are able to go back and complete it. I can't do work and school at the same time, it keeps my mind so busy I can't sleep.

Although I should be proud of working at the same place for 25 yrs I regret not jumping out there and changing jobs about every 5 or 6 years, to give myself experience at other things.

CockyDude · 11-22-2011, 08:01 AM

I've always tried to replace feeling regret with learning something. Would I like to be able to change a few things along the way? Absolutely but in the end all of our experiences add up to equal the whole of who we are; regrets and all.

1QuirkyKiwi · 11-22-2011, 08:59 AM

I've made choices in my life based on how I felt, my experiences and resources at THAT time in my life - they haven't always been the best of choices, yet, my life has been an adventure with the ups and downs. I've walked my own path in life - not always so sure of the way.

It's not a regret as such; more a desire that I hoped to achieve after my studies finished in London in the early 90s. I'd planned on doing a Masters degree in Textile conservation and working as a Curator of Textile restoration and preservation.

"Bumps, bruises, joy and laughter. What a wonderful Tapestry it makes in life!"

girl_dee · 03-11-2012, 04:47 PM

Relationships ~ no regrets for getting into them or leaving them when i did

i regret spending too much time on people who didn't make me a priority and putting my own well being aside, letting my own dreams pale in the shadows of trying to please others

Rockinonahigh · 11-21-2011, 11:52 PM

The one thing I wish I could change that would hopefully have been better for my family at the time,was not to help a friend of my eldest son when she was in a bad fix with going to juvi hall because of some issues.This so called girl who I had no clue to who she was needed a safe place to stay insted of going to juvi hall till her grandparrents got to shreveport to pick her up in two days.It ws a disaster for my family,all I was doing was to help a child in need.This kid was like an thng from another world a sneeky theiveing B*^%h
No grand parrents came so I told the cps to come gether cause I couldnt handle what was going on in my house,I tryed to do the right thing but then the popo didnt even help when she ,her friends and my eldest striped my house bare and then disapeired for three years.I thought my son woth get tired of that kind of life but It took him ten years to finaly divorce her.
There are other things I wish I hadnt done but seamed right at the time,but this was the biggie.

bigbutchmistie · 11-22-2011, 01:30 PM

Regret.... Hmmm I have a few... One is that I never stopped being angry with my mom when she was alive for giving my brother and I up for adoption.

I regret that I never told her that I forgave her, and never really used my time that I had with her. I wished she would have died knowing I forgave her.

The same thing in regards to my grandmother. She died not long after I met her, and she knew I held her responsible for not taking care of my brother and I when the state offered us to them. She died before I could ever tell her I forgave her.

betenoire · 11-22-2011, 01:48 PM

I regret not going to University. I wanted to teach highschool English.

Queerasfck · 11-22-2011, 01:52 PM

Once an ex stole my George Foreman grill when we broke up. It had only been used once and was one of those cool outdoor ones that ran on propane. I regret that I let her drive away with it in her car and I didn't stop her.

On a more serious note, I stayed with another ex way longer than I should have trying to make it work when the love wasn't there. DUMB.

girl_dee · 03-10-2018, 06:15 AM

at this point, yes i do.

It’s a very tricky task going through life hoping you won’t do things, (or not do things) that will cause regret later on.

The thing about regret is it’s all hindsight.

clay · 03-10-2018, 07:00 AM

Of course, I do. I believe that is just the nature of being a human.

Sometimes decisions are made and I may not be thinking clearly. But regardless, I made them, so I own them & stand by them.

As dee says, it is usually in hindsight one realizes that a decision made might not have been a wise one...but made anyway.

I learn this way...as I am a mere human....wrought with frailities.

TL1 · 03-10-2018, 01:02 PM

Yes quite a few...........

Some of them I have learned from

Some I was clearly out of my mind!

But I choose not to dwell on them and aim to not have them (or as few as possible) in the future.

Bad_boi · 03-11-2012, 02:43 PM

I have made my fair share of mistakes. I admit that.

No regrets, just lessons learned.

macele · 03-11-2012, 03:52 PM

i think of regrets as things i could have controlled and didn't. and i am sorry. we can forgive ourselves, but we can't forget. the regrets will always be there (i haven't forgot them yet).

i've really junked some things up in my life. like others have said, i've learned from many. i have more satisfaction and gratitude than regrets. living mistakes are fixable, ... surely most are. but i still wish i hadn't done. i'd take them back if i could.

most of the time, we have time to think before we act. that would be great if i did, ... most of the time lol.

11-21-2011, 11:37 PM	#1
Soon Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Relationship Status: attached Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: . Posts: 6,896 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,046 Thanked 13,118 Times in 3,391 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Regrets...Do You Have One or Some? Sometimes, admitting what we regret may shine light on what we should do in the future, or put an event/feeling in the past in perspective and enlighten us on our future paths. What are some of your major regrets in life? One of mine is not spending enough time with my father before he passed. I was young, still resentful of their treatment of me when I was an adolescent, and shied away from him. I regret not going over more and visiting when I should have and fleeing the scene so to speak.

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Just_G Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, Switch, Comedian...G...whichever. Preferred Pronoun?: He....with an e! Relationship Status: I'll take kinky & twisted for $200, Alex!! Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the middle Posts: 2,281 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 874 Thanked 6,165 Times in 1,450 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I have very few regrets because I think that even if something happens that would usually trigger the feeling of regret, I have learned from those events and have applied it to how I live and love now. The regrets I do have are as follows: 1. I regret losing my retainer when I was 13....and not getting another one. 2. I regret dropping out of playing sports because I was bullied and not really all that welcomed in the girls locker room because they thought I was such a "freak". I know I could have gotten a full ride scholarship for basketball somewhere. 3. I regret not going away to college and getting out from under the family. All these years later though, I am making up for a couple of these things. I have gone back to college and will have my degree in March, and I am now playing tackle football for the Kansas City Tribe. I am making it up to myself for dropping out of sports and for not going to college. (both of which, were huge fears of mine all these years) The whole retainer thing will come later once I get a great job with decent dental benefits. __________________ Happy are those who dream and are ready to pay the price to make them come true!

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Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,383 Times in 2,840 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Our lives make us who we are But I regret most giving away my two beloved cats years ago because my new GF at the time was allergic. I miss them. __________________

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Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,492 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,850 Thanked 14,400 Times in 4,049 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Like HSIN and Just G many of my regrets stem from not making the effort to spend time with people who are now gone. Pa died the week before my 40th birthday and Nannie Nov 4th last year. Like Just G I regret quitting playing sports I was good at, due to the same reasons. Also regret not finishing college, and want to add how much I admire those of you who are able to go back and complete it. I can't do work and school at the same time, it keeps my mind so busy I can't sleep. Although I should be proud of working at the same place for 25 yrs I regret not jumping out there and changing jobs about every 5 or 6 years, to give myself experience at other things. __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

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CockyDude Timed Out How Do You Identify?: FTM-man Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him Relationship Status: What is today? Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Midwest Posts: 239 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 151 Thanked 420 Times in 141 Posts Rep Power: 0	Pretty much says it all... I've always tried to replace feeling regret with learning something. Would I like to be able to change a few things along the way? Absolutely but in the end all of our experiences add up to equal the whole of who we are; regrets and all.

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Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,937 Times in 3,936 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	The one thing I wish I could change that would hopefully have been better for my family at the time,was not to help a friend of my eldest son when she was in a bad fix with going to juvi hall because of some issues.This so called girl who I had no clue to who she was needed a safe place to stay insted of going to juvi hall till her grandparrents got to shreveport to pick her up in two days.It ws a disaster for my family,all I was doing was to help a child in need.This kid was like an thng from another world a sneeky theiveing B*^%h No grand parrents came so I told the cps to come gether cause I couldnt handle what was going on in my house,I tryed to do the right thing but then the popo didnt even help when she ,her friends and my eldest striped my house bare and then disapeired for three years.I thought my son woth get tired of that kind of life but It took him ten years to finaly divorce her. There are other things I wish I hadnt done but seamed right at the time,but this was the biggie.

11-22-2011, 01:30 PM	#9
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Queerasfck Senior Member How Do You Identify?: still ballin' Relationship Status: Triple X Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: west side Posts: 2,544 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,716 Thanked 6,497 Times in 1,639 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Once an ex stole my George Foreman grill when we broke up. It had only been used once and was one of those cool outdoor ones that ran on propane. I regret that I let her drive away with it in her car and I didn't stop her. On a more serious note, I stayed with another ex way longer than I should have trying to make it work when the love wasn't there. DUMB. __________________ http://www.advertisingarchives.co.uk...28750fb328.jpg

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clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,098 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 96,045 Thanked 31,688 Times in 7,716 Posts Rep Power: 21474862	Of course, I do. I believe that is just the nature of being a human. Sometimes decisions are made and I may not be thinking clearly. But regardless, I made them, so I own them & stand by them. As dee says, it is usually in hindsight one realizes that a decision made might not have been a wise one...but made anyway. I learn this way...as I am a mere human....wrought with frailities. __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

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TL1 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch of stone Preferred Pronoun?: The guy kind Join Date: Dec 2015 Location: NC Posts: 2,891 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,107 Thanked 3,460 Times in 1,006 Posts Rep Power: 21474847	Yes quite a few........... Some of them I have learned from Some I was clearly out of my mind! But I choose not to dwell on them and aim to not have them (or as few as possible) in the future. __________________ "Our bodies were printed as blank pages to be filled with the ink of our hearts”

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macele Member How Do You Identify?: a bold-assed maximus Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: mississippi Posts: 1,066 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,178 Thanked 3,239 Times in 849 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	i think of regrets as things i could have controlled and didn't. and i am sorry. we can forgive ourselves, but we can't forget. the regrets will always be there (i haven't forgot them yet). i've really junked some things up in my life. like others have said, i've learned from many. i have more satisfaction and gratitude than regrets. living mistakes are fixable, ... surely most are. but i still wish i hadn't done. i'd take them back if i could. most of the time, we have time to think before we act. that would be great if i did, ... most of the time lol.