What have you learned? - Page 17

MsTinkerbelly · 07-18-2016, 02:07 PM

Grocery shopping can be a huge chore, especially if you have health issues. In the cart, out of the cart, in the car, out of the car, put it all away....collapse!

The part that tires me the most is taking it all out of the cart and putting it on the belt; bend, reach, pile...over and over! I have 3 cats and a dog, and just their food is 56 cans/containers from the depths of the cart up to the belt for an every other week shopping trip!

So.....I grab a big cart and 3 shopping baskets, lining my cart with the baskets inside and up top. I then load everything into the 3 baskets and the underside of the cart for larger items like tp, kibble, etc....

When I get to checkout I put the 3 baskets and misc. on the belt, and let the cashier do the unloading.

I wish I had thought of it years ago!

Kenna · 07-18-2016, 05:59 PM

That dogs will be dogs and dump the water bucket as soon as you fill it up, so they can play with the bucket.

homoe · 07-18-2016, 07:45 PM

To never ever put all your eggs in one basket

clay · 07-18-2016, 08:33 PM

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Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

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When I get to checkout I put the 3 baskets and misc. on the belt, and let the cashier do the unloading.

I wish I had thought of it years ago!

This past weekend, I put my items in my personal grocery bags, & at checkout I set them on belt....I have a nice freezer bag I use & a heavy duty square one...I just always do this when I am shopping alone...makes it so much easier.

Well, a very rude & obnoxious woman behind me started running off at the mouth...."you need to get up & unload your bags, it is not her job to do so for you. I have worked as a cashier for 32 years & have never in my life seen any such a thing happen. And besides if you didn't "lay on the couch & eat bags of chips & cartons of ice cream all day, you wouldn't need to use a cart"...OH NO, she did NOT go there. Oh yes she did. It startled me so much & I got up, politely unloaded my bags then sat back down, & I turned to her with a LOT OF RESERVE and said..."you need to mind your own business & wherever you work, I sure hope to never patronize that store..." & left the store.

MsTinkerbelly · 07-18-2016, 09:24 PM

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Originally Posted by clay

This past weekend, I put my items in my personal grocery bags, & at checkout I set them on belt....I have a nice freezer bag I use & a heavy duty square one...I just always do this when I am shopping alone...makes it so much easier.

Well, a very rude & obnoxious woman behind me started running off at the mouth...."you need to get up & unload your bags, it is not her job to do so for you. I have worked as a cashier for 32 years & have never in my life seen any such a thing happen. And besides if you didn't "lay on the couch & eat bags of chips & cartons of ice cream all day, you wouldn't need to use a cart"...OH NO, she did NOT go there. Oh yes she did. It startled me so much & I got up, politely unloaded my bags then sat back down, & I turned to her with a LOT OF RESERVE and said..."you need to mind your own business & wherever you work, I sure hope to never patronize that store..." & left the store.

Well...the difference between your experience and my experience boils down to one thing; I am not a nice person, and i have a heck of a bitchy resting face. I would have got in her face and told her to shove it up her ***, and I would have felt zero remorse.

Not to rag on you, but by doing what she wanted you to do (unloading your bags) you reinforced her bad behavior.

kittygrrl · 07-18-2016, 10:36 PM

even after all these years, people continue to surprise me

clay · 07-19-2016, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

Well...the difference between your experience and my experience boils down to one thing; I am not a nice person, and i have a heck of a bitchy resting face. I would have got in her face and told her to shove it up her ***, and I would have felt zero remorse.

Not to rag on you, but by doing what she wanted you to do (unloading your bags) you reinforced her bad behavior.

I don't think I did. I choose what "battles" to have. Obviously, for me, to engage someone with that kind of behavior would only escalate hers.

I can hold my own if it is necessary, so I would rather act like someone with some control and not feed into her behavior. That is just my own preference....

Bèsame* · 07-19-2016, 10:08 AM

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Originally Posted by clay

I don't think I did. I choose what "battles" to have. Obviously, for me, to engage someone with that kind of behavior would only escalate hers.

I can hold my own if it is necessary, so I would rather act like someone with some control and not feed into her behavior. That is just my own preference....

I work in customer service, ALL. DAY. LONG.

Your best bet is to pick your battles. Why stoop to someone else's level? Be the better person, kill them with kindness. Sure, it won't make them see things different, it's in their mindset to stir the pot. Let it not be yours.

....oh, and when someone is mad, you might be the first level to feel their anger, try not to take it personal.

The public is a interesting group! The things this group has taught me!

MsTinkerbelly · 07-19-2016, 10:32 AM

I have learned.....

That when I don't sleep properly, I nap all day long.

Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

BullDog · 08-26-2016, 08:29 PM

That I know who I am, what my intentions are, what my values are, what my flaws, weaknesses and limitations are, and what I have to offer others. I am always trying to improve, but basically I'm gonna stick with what I know to be true about myself and what others think isn't going to change that.

JDeere · 08-26-2016, 08:34 PM

To always check your bank account before you go out shopping or to the club!

Gayandgray · 08-29-2016, 06:48 PM

Well I'm starting to learn that I need to be a little less harsh, a little less cold, that everyone deserves another chance.

Blade · 08-31-2016, 06:35 PM

I've learned that just because the Dr releases you doesn't mean you are healed/well

homoe · 09-15-2016, 08:52 AM

never count your chicken before your eggs hatch

clay · 09-15-2016, 11:23 AM

That I DO want to love again. That my heart is full & loving...

anotherbutch · 09-15-2016, 11:49 AM

That one human being cannot "fix" another human being.

Jesse · 09-15-2016, 12:14 PM

I forget.

Kätzchen · 09-15-2016, 05:26 PM

That,

Less is more.
You've only got one life, so make it count.
Slow is so much better than fast, and so much more enjoyable.

Bèsame* · 09-15-2016, 06:11 PM

Gayandgray · 09-15-2016, 08:18 PM

That some people are just plain mean.

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MsTinkerbelly Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: ... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 6,573 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,737 Thanked 22,958 Times in 5,020 Posts Rep Power: 0	Grocery shopping trick! Grocery shopping can be a huge chore, especially if you have health issues. In the cart, out of the cart, in the car, out of the car, put it all away....collapse! The part that tires me the most is taking it all out of the cart and putting it on the belt; bend, reach, pile...over and over! I have 3 cats and a dog, and just their food is 56 cans/containers from the depths of the cart up to the belt for an every other week shopping trip! So.....I grab a big cart and 3 shopping baskets, lining my cart with the baskets inside and up top. I then load everything into the 3 baskets and the underside of the cart for larger items like tp, kibble, etc.... When I get to checkout I put the 3 baskets and misc. on the belt, and let the cashier do the unloading. I wish I had thought of it years ago!

07-18-2016, 05:59 PM	#322
Kenna Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Fiery, Sassy, Tough As Nails, Femme Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: I am your favorite hello and hardest goodbye. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NC & CO Posts: 4,784 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,613 Thanked 12,095 Times in 3,755 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	That dogs will be dogs and dump the water bucket as soon as you fill it up, so they can play with the bucket. __________________ **************************** She has been through hell, so believe me when I say, fear her when she looks into a fire and smiles. ~E.Corona~

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07-19-2016, 10:32 AM	#329
MsTinkerbelly Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: ... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 6,573 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,737 Thanked 22,958 Times in 5,020 Posts Rep Power: 0	I have learned..... That when I don't sleep properly, I nap all day long. Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

08-29-2016, 06:48 PM	#332
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08-31-2016, 06:35 PM	#333
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