Singles dating: online VS real world?

[Library_girl]

Hello singles,
I'm starting this thread just to see what everyone thinks about online dating vs. real-world dating. Any and all comments are welcome!


*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)
*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)
*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?
*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?


Any other comments on this subject would be great.....these are just questions off the top of my head.

THANKS!

[J. Mason]

*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)
*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)
*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?
*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?

Yes I have and I would go out with someone I met online!

NO blind dates, and no I would not go out with someone who has dated someone I know.

It's a toss up, I have done the online dating and the real life dating, so I do not see either one as better than the other!

[bigbutchmistie]

Originally Posted by Library_girl

Hello singles,
I'm starting this thread just to see what everyone thinks about online dating vs. real-world dating. Any and all comments are welcome!


*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)
*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)
*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?
*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?


Any other comments on this subject would be great.....these are just questions off the top of my head.

THANKS!

I would and have gone out with someone I met from dating sites, butch femme planet both long distance and locally

I have gone out on blind dates set up by my friends

I wouldnt date someone that dated someone I knew. Its just not right.

To me online first. Due to the fact that I am shy and cant just ask someone out initially. But if a femme asked me out in real time I wouldnt say no if I liked her too

[*Anya*]

Originally Posted by Library_girl

Hello singles,
I'm starting this thread just to see what everyone thinks about online dating vs. real-world dating. Any and all comments are welcome!


*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)
*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)
*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?
*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?

THANKS![/B]

*Yes, I would date someone I met online. I am not 25 and don't go out to clubs anymore. One must be careful of course-I am not talking about Craig's List! A lesbian dating site or the planet, yes I would. I think you can gain a sense of a person from how they how they put their thoughts, values and beliefs together in writing. I read posts and often think: "Great brains, love the writing, would like to know her better". Even when we try to put our best foot forward online, our real selves do shine through the words we put down.

*LDR is very hard for me. On one hand, the ability to put thoughts to paper (computer actually) fosters communication but it is still difficult to try to establish a true, trusting relationship long distance. I am talking thousands of miles, not just a few. It is a challenge to really, truly, with a whole heart; connect emotionally with someone that you can't even touch, hold or make love with. Yes, I have tried it. Additionally, the two people have to be in the same place emotionally. I am slow to love. My heart is a little crispy. I am shy and kind of an introvert. I don't just jump into anything quickly. It is difficult for me to communicate on a deeper level in a LDR. Hundreds of miles distance
would be easier for me, than thousands. I know people do it every day and I never say never.

*Blind date? Maybe. If it were a friend with very good judgment. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. A few hours of my time could wind up giving menthe greatest gift of all- love.

[Kobi]

I prefer real life/real time stuff. So, internet dating, LDR and such do not appeal to me. Relationships are hard enough without adding in distance and other obstacles.

Luckily, I live in an area where there are opportunities to meeting a variety of fine women.

Dont believe in blind dates.

Dont advocate dating someone who has seriously dated someone I know. That would be weird.

[Glenn]

After years of being in real relationships, I actually prefer online ones. I once dated, married, made love to, argued, and divorced a femme thousands of miles away for nearly three years all online. I did'nt speak more than a paragraph, or have to spend anything. or go anywhere. I did'nt have to do anything. In fact, it was the best relationship I ever had!

[Just_G]

Most of the women I meet are met online. I had a policy for years that if you lived within a 100 mile radius of me, I would not date you. I am leaning back towards that, but it is hard with the cost of travelling these days.

As far as blind dates go...hell to the NO! My friends always think that since I am gay and their friend is gay, that we would be the perfect couple! That makes me queasy just thinking about the ignorance behind that kind of thought process! My friends think that I would like the sporty/jock type of girl because that is how they see me....wrong again!! I am not sporty/jock...I am butch. I also don't care for the softball playing, typical androgenous lesbian. No offense to those of you that like them or are one...I just don't prefer to date them. So, back to the topic: No, absolutely NO BLIND DATES!! (unless of course it is set up by one of my BFP friends...they know exactly how I like 'em! )

Would I go out with someone that dated someone I knew? No. I have a hard time dating locals because the pond here is so small. I don't like the gossip that comes along with that whole package. "Did you hear what she did to so-and-so?" Nor do I like people knowing my business when I date someone, i.e. things that happen behind closed doors.

I think that both meeting people on line and meeting people in person have their advantages. Meeting them online, I tend to get to know them a little bit better and know more about them prior to meeting. Meeting them in person, I know right away if there is that physical chemistry and I can read their body language to know if they might be interested.

I was with a woman I met through a butch/femme singles site, she lived 3 hours away and we saw each other like every other weekend. It was the best relationship I have ever had. I had my space to work and do things in my hula hoop, and she had time to spend with her kids and take care of her hula hoop, then when we would get together, we didn't have to worry about anything but spending time together. It worked wonderfully for both of us!

[pajama]

I have gone out with lots of people I met through online dating sights. Some were nuts, most were not. Met one of the most wonderful people that way, my ex-wife. But I haven't ventured back into dating sights for over 8 years, just 'cause I do fine without them. And quite frankly, I don't sustain relationships worth a crap, so I'm not going to put the work into meeting someone through a sight that is required just to have it end a few months later.

I have never been on a blind date, but would be open to it. Might not meet a mate, but might meet a new friend. So sure, why not?

I would/have dated someone that dated someone I knew. Good lord, I have tons of friends. This would seriously curtail the posibilities if I didn't date someone who dated someone I KNEW. Now would I date an ex's ex, or a best friends ex. Possibly not.

For me, I prefer meeting people in person so I can work my magic.

[JAGG]

Originally Posted by popcorninthesofa

After years of being in real relationships, I actually prefer online ones. I once dated, married, made love to, argued, and divorced a femme thousands of miles away for nearly three years all online. I did'nt speak more than a paragraph, or have to spend anything. or go anywhere. I did'nt have to do anything. In fact, it was the best relationship I ever had!

Wait what???

[clay]

me, too...Jagg!

Originally Posted by JAGG

Wait what???

[Julie]

Originally Posted by popcorninthesofa

After years of being in real relationships, I actually prefer online ones. I once dated, married, made love to, argued, and divorced a femme thousands of miles away for nearly three years all online. I did'nt speak more than a paragraph, or have to spend anything. or go anywhere. I did'nt have to do anything. In fact, it was the best relationship I ever had!

How do you make love to someone online?
Serious?
Or are you just speaking phone, video, cyber?
And how do marry them?
Are you being sarcastic - because my head is spinning!!!

[Julie]

*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)
I am currently in a LDR with someone I met online. It has been almost 2 years!

*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)
I have been on one blind date and it lasted 7 years.

*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?
Someone I know or Someone who was in a relationship with them? YES to someone I know - MAYBE to someone who previously was with them. Depends on my relationship with the Someone. If it is a good friend, absolutely NOT!

*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?
I have had both and I cannot say one is better than the other. It really depends on the person you are dating.

I am also really quirky when it comes to online relationships. Dreamer and I have been seeing one another for almost two years. I just don't understand how people can say they are IN LOVE and in a relationship, when they have never met. How can you know, when you have never shared physical energy. I know love can be BIG for some people, but I am fairly literal in every sense. I do not consider phone sex to be sex, as the same way as sharing your physical body with another. It took me well over a year of admitting to myself and others, that I was even in a relationship. Even though, we had spent time together physically and I love this person. We are not together full time, and so it is hard for me to understand. Even though my relationship was committed. I hope that makes sense. I just have a hard time grasping the idea of online (I am in love with you and we have never met) relationships.

Julie

[ruffryder]

Originally Posted by popcorninthesofa

After years of being in real relationships, I actually prefer online ones. I once dated, married, made love to, argued, and divorced a femme thousands of miles away for nearly three years all online. I did'nt speak more than a paragraph, or have to spend anything. or go anywhere. I did'nt have to do anything. In fact, it was the best relationship I ever had!

I can get some of this, but the speaking not more than a paragraph in 3 years?? .. and argued?

Sounds like one of those sex sites or maybe second life.. oh hell yeah those types of relationships are bomb. Is this what you are referring to?

I thought you said the "best relationship I never had." :/ Please explain how this is possible if you don't mind or are you being silly?

[lettertodaddy]

Every partner I've met in the last 12 years or so has been through online dating. I don't know how to meet people in real life, it seems.

[JAGG]

Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both) I have so that would be a yes. But I really want something local .
*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers) never again.
*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know? No. Seems like a bad idea all the way around.

*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life? Hands down with out a doubt, meeting someone in real life.

[Julie]

Originally Posted by JAGG

Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both) I have so that would be a yes.
*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers) Once and never again.
*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know? No. Seems like a bad idea all the way around.

*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life? Hands down with out a doubt, meeting someone in real life.

So here is a question to all of you who would not date someone who dated someone you know...

Our community is fairly incestuous - be it online or real time. How can this be avoided? Seriously.

[JAGG]

Originally Posted by Julie

So here is a question to all of you who would not date someone who dated someone you know...

Our community is fairly incestuous - be it online or real time. How can this be avoided? Seriously.

It does limit your choices. But that's life. At least for me.

[Julie]

Originally Posted by JAGG

Well it's partly why I'm still single, not a whole lot of choices.

No, not a whole lot.
You could find a Virgin Bride.

[JAGG]

Originally Posted by Julie

No, not a whole lot.
You could find a Virgin Bride.

Virgin???? Heck no. I want someone who has been around the block. I like experience. Virgin has nothing to offer me. BORING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by JAGG

It does limit your choices. But that's life. At least for me.

Yep. It's a butch code thing for me, personally. No offense to the choices others make.