Carried over the threshold

stephfromMIT · 08-16-2012, 08:23 PM

Have you ever carried someone/been carried over the threshold? I've already carried Mandy once (when we moved into our aprtment). Will carry her at least twice more (wedding night in Cambridge, 1st night in Paris) Can't wait!

Nadeest · 08-18-2012, 09:46 AM

Honestly, I don't remember if I did that or not, in my first major relationship. It certainly never happened in the other major relationships, however.

The_Lady_Snow · 08-18-2012, 11:11 AM

Sometimes when I'm feeling a lil perky I like throwing him over my shoulder before going in the house..

weatherboi · 08-18-2012, 11:29 AM

There was this one time She had me hogtied and i was carried over a threshold...does that count?

Ms is not fond of cradle like positions ever.

Corkey · 08-18-2012, 04:57 PM

I was 50, with a bad back etc, Oh Hell no. We walk side by side.

thedivahrrrself · 08-18-2012, 05:09 PM

OMG you must be incredibly young or Amanda must be tiny... LOL no, I don't think being carried is in my future ever, unless it's by an EMT!

stephfromMIT · 08-18-2012, 05:15 PM

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Originally Posted by thedivahrrrself

OMG you must be incredibly young or Amanda must be tiny... LOL no, I don't think being carried is in my future ever, unless it's by an EMT!

We'll be 25 when we marry. Mandy is 5'4, 140, runner's build. (I'm 6'1 225, built like a Mack truck)

Corkey · 08-18-2012, 05:42 PM

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Originally Posted by stephfromMIT

We'll be 25 when we marry. Mandy is 5'4, 140, runner's build. (I'm 6'1 225, built like a Mack truck)

Just be careful if you two decide it's for you. No one should end up an invalid on their honeymoon, unless of course it's negotiated.

Ginger · 08-18-2012, 05:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Corkey

Just be careful if you two decide it's for you. No one should end up an invalid on their honeymoon, unless of course it's negotiated.

I guess everything's negotiable!!

Funny one.

rustedrims · 08-24-2012, 09:41 AM

Sure i will pick her up when that occasion arrives.
As long as the wrists and back are cooperating that day.
Always liked that idea.

Novelafemme · 08-24-2012, 09:48 AM

The thought never really crossed our minds, to be honest.

We walked side by side.

But, whatever floats your boat!

Ginger · 08-24-2012, 11:07 AM

I think the unspoken side of this issue is, what if the femme (and so far, everyone has followed that paradym of butch-carrying-femme, following the groom-following-bride model), is a BBW, and it is uncomfortable for her butch to carry her?

I'm not large but I keep thinking about those women and wondering if they are seeing this thread every time they log on, and if it makes them feel somehow in comparison with women who are small enough to be physically carried by someone else.

Am I over-thinking?

Am I being neurotic?

Worse, am I being a party pooper?

I really don't mean to step on anyone's toes. It's awkward, I wasn't sure how to phrase this or even if I should—perhaps since no BBW has responded in this way, it isn't an issue with them.

But what if it is, and they have internalized so much cultural disapproval of their size, they don't want to be the one to bring it up?

So I decided to risk it.

Glenn · 08-24-2012, 11:26 AM

Well, I'll never forget our threshold scene. There was a blizzard going on the night of our reception, and by the time we came to our "honeymoon cottage", there was over a foot of snow on the ground. Then, we dropped the keys somewhere in the snow, and by the time we dug around and found them, we were both frozen. However, being a Gentlemyn, I waited for her to go in first

Corkey · 08-24-2012, 04:33 PM

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Originally Posted by IslandScout

I think the unspoken side of this issue is, what if the femme (and so far, everyone has followed that paradym of butch-carrying-femme, following the groom-following-bride model), is a BBW, and it is uncomfortable for her butch to carry her?

I'm not large but I keep thinking about those women and wondering if they are seeing this thread every time they log on, and if it makes them feel somehow in comparison with women who are small enough to be physically carried by someone else.

Am I over-thinking?

Am I being neurotic?

Worse, am I being a party pooper?

I really don't mean to step on anyone's toes. It's awkward, I wasn't sure how to phrase this or even if I should—perhaps since no BBW has responded in this way, it isn't an issue with them.

But what if it is, and they have internalized so much cultural disapproval of their size, they don't want to be the one to bring it up?

So I decided to risk it.

I think you have a valid point. But I will not speak for another.

aishah · 08-24-2012, 04:53 PM

i appreciate islandscout's post, and that of others who've pointed out the health/ability issues involved in this!

i think the idea of carrying someone over the threshold is rather romantic, but i'm 5'4" and 220 lbs. me and my partners are all pretty fit, but none of us are small and none of us are able-bodied

i don't have a complex about not being carried over the threshold, though. like many traditional romantical-y marriage-y things, i think it's a sweet idea in theory but it would just never work for me/us in reality.

part of the thing that makes me uncomfortable about the idea is that i think it feeds into this ideal of women and femmes being small and cute and dainty...and many of us are anything but (which is something that should be celebrated! imho). i do like when a partner makes me feel small and cute and dainty, and my butch can do that just with his personality and presence, even though he's slightly shorter than me.

but i do have some discomfort around the cultural expectations and issues that arise, especially having felt for much of my life that i am too big, too loud, take up too much space, etc. for what it's worth, i really like my size and my body and personally i have come to terms with the fact that i'll never meet that expectation (and i don't necessarily want to anymore). but i do think it's something that's reinforced constantly, at least in u.s. culture/society.

Gráinne · 08-24-2012, 05:11 PM

I'm really glad you pointed this out, Island

. I don't have giant objections to it, if that's what the couple wants. But anyone who tries that with me better be a linebacker for the New York Giants. I'm anything but small.

stephfromMIT · 08-24-2012, 05:22 PM

guihong-Don't worry, I'm a linewoman for the Militia.

The_Lady_Snow · 08-24-2012, 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by stephfromMIT

guihong-Don't worry, I'm a linewoman for the Militia.

No shit! what particular group? Do you have a "Don't Thread on Me" Flag?

stephfromMIT · 08-24-2012, 05:31 PM

Snow-I meant the football team.

The_Lady_Snow · 08-24-2012, 05:32 PM

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Originally Posted by stephfromMIT

Snow-I meant the football team.

OH

Here I got all excited and thought a gun derail was gonna happen..

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