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View Poll Results: How do we date/partner/be single? | |||
Single, not dating, not having casual sex | 28 | 29.17% | |
Single, casual dating/casual sex | 8 | 8.33% | |
Single, dating one person, no commitments | 12 | 12.50% | |
Seeing someone/partnered/married - closed relationship - monogamy or polyfidelity | 36 | 37.50% | |
Seeing people/someone, partnered or married - open relationships- nonmonogamy/polyamory ect | 12 | 12.50% | |
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10-14-2014, 08:45 PM | #41 | |
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Oh I'm fine with monogamous dating when I have known the person a while. I have done monogamy and I don't have an issue with it. I often decide to not bother with dating others - on my own- without discussion and the other person, I don't mind if they date others, casually. I usually like to have that discussion outwards though, about how they'd like to proceed at the six month mark. But that's not monogamy from the first date. And the expectation *without* the talk of monogamy I would find a big fat red flag about communication problems. I just get very baffled when I meet someone who monogamously dates, and expects monogamous dating from the first date(to me that isn't dating. That's courting - you have serious intentions and you are actively perusing something. And to court someone you don't know seems... I don't understand. I would find that frightening). I have only run into it a rare few times. Once in the UK and a few times from American butches in the Midwest. I can't pretend to understand, but it's a foreign concept to me. And I know they view me in an... "Unfavourable" light lol. I've been told in no uncertain terms what a girl "doesn't do" if she isn't an "unfeeling she-wolf" I think the term was lol. And also a few other odd things. But I'm chalking it up to just regional cultural differences for now, and background. but I'm still interested in the reasons. Thanks G. And yes tinker belly, just those who are monogamous from the first date. I "get" monogamous dating after lengthy dating. Last edited by imperfect_cupcake; 10-14-2014 at 08:48 PM. |
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10-15-2014, 11:04 AM | #42 |
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single no casual sex tried the casual sex one didnt suite me but for now i'm staying single unless i magicaly find someone when i drive to and from work lol
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10-15-2014, 12:20 PM | #43 |
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I wish I could re-write that option... That slash means casual dating/ casual sex like monogamy/polyfidelity in the other options means you are monogamous OR polyfidelitous...
That option means you are: casually dating more than one person (talking to, getting to know, hanging out with) OR are you having causal sex OR both. I apologize for the flaw in not making that clear for people. |
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10-15-2014, 03:06 PM | #44 |
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Partnered/Married... for all intents and purposes (now that it's basically legal it's really hard to find a day to go down to the clerk's office together!)
It's been about 4 years and this is the first time I've ever lived with a partner and... oddly enough the first relationship that wasn't casual, or started that way. Apparently, we were in it to win it. Jackpot!
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10-18-2014, 10:47 AM | #45 |
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10-19-2014, 04:53 PM | #46 |
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Been single for the last 2 + yrs but now Partnered/committed monogamous. And almost married In Nov
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10-22-2014, 09:34 PM | #48 |
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Right now, if multiple people asked me out, I would go out with each of them, if they were nice. After we get to know each other, then we can decide what type of relationship that we want. I am not unopposed to poly, but I do know that I will have to do a lot of emotional work, in order to be able to deal with it.
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10-22-2014, 10:02 PM | #49 |
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If multiple people asked me out, I would get to know the people that interested me, expecting them to do the same until I naturally gravitated to someone who I clicked with and felt had the same values and goals.
Hopefully, they would find me to be similarly of interest. If not, then I would keep talking, hanging out and getting to know people of interest. What I learned is dating. Courting, to me, is an entirely different thing. That's after there is a conscious choice of wanting to pursue something deemed very suitable and desired. Once you actually know someone. Well. Obviously, this isn't a commonly held idea. But it's what I personally go by. |
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closed poly triad/polyfidelity/committed.
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