06-05-2013, 10:36 PM | #1 |
Member
How Do You Identify?:
Transman (male) Preferred Pronoun?:
He, Him, His ect. Relationship Status:
Handsome bastard. Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: May 2010
Location: Seattle
Posts: 727
Thanks: 122
Thanked 1,824 Times in 499 Posts
Rep Power: 0 |
A space for positive trans posts
The rules of this thread are simple. Post something positive relating to being trans. It could be anything, something that made you smile, a positive change, hope for the future. Anything that is uplifting.
*HUGS* For all! |
The Following 26 Users Say Thank You to Bad_boi For This Useful Post: |
06-05-2013, 11:08 PM | #2 |
Member
How Do You Identify?:
Transman - HRT / No Surgery Preferred Pronoun?:
Male Relationship Status:
Single, but enjoying the journey.... Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: North Carolina (NE)
Posts: 366
Thanks: 525
Thanked 1,210 Times in 310 Posts
Rep Power: 21474848 |
Curse to Blessing
When I finally acknowledged I was a transman, I thought I was cursed. My first injection, I'd like to tell y'all that I was stoic, strong, all excited and happy and rarin' to go. Nu uh. I was married even-- but I cried, thought no one could love me "this way". I can handle injections well, but the emotional side of it caused me to almost rip the arms off a stuffed animal I was hugging just to have something in my hands and arms.
Over time though, the shame and fear turned to pride. I've had experiences and perspectives that others just do not "get" because of being a trans. I can easily see both sides of the coin when others are struggling to make sense of things. It truly is a blessing, not a curse. And I remember that when people try to belittle me for being this way. Sling your arrows elsewhere. I KNOW who and what I am. I'm damn proud of the man I became and continue to become each day. One day, I'll find a woman who loves me "scars and all". After all, scars are tattoos for the bold. ~Nicholas
__________________
"There never was any heart truly great and generous,
that was not also tender and compassionate." Robert Frost |
The Following 28 Users Say Thank You to s0litude For This Useful Post: |
06-06-2013, 08:33 AM | #3 |
The Planet's Technical Bubba
How Do You Identify?:
FTM Preferred Pronoun?:
He/Him/Geek Relationship Status:
Married to my forever! Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Redondo Beach, CA
Posts: 5,440
Thanks: 2,929
Thanked 10,743 Times in 3,176 Posts
Rep Power: 21474856 |
Being accepted as who I am without question. I consider myself lucky in that I have a supportive work and personal life. For me, it's the fact that so many of my closest friends are male friends who treat me as one of the guys without making it awkward or anything weird.
__________________
|
The Following 22 Users Say Thank You to Linus For This Useful Post: | ahk, Bad_boi, BestButchBoy, deb0670, Gemme, GraffitiBoi, Greyson, Heavenleahangel, Jesse, Kelt, Kent, LoyalWolfsBlade, Nadeest, nycfem, o'queery, PaPa, s0litude, sis, stargazingboi, tara_kerrie, tndoc, Tommi |
06-10-2013, 01:28 AM | #4 |
Member
How Do You Identify?:
Transman (male) Preferred Pronoun?:
He, Him, His ect. Relationship Status:
Handsome bastard. Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: May 2010
Location: Seattle
Posts: 727
Thanks: 122
Thanked 1,824 Times in 499 Posts
Rep Power: 0 |
About a year ago a friend of mine had a medical emergency at his house. I had to call 911. He did not give me his address so I had to go thru a lot of red tape to get his info. I was on the phone for 3 hours with the sheriff and a bunch of different operators. I gave my name as it is legally, which is a male name. The operators/police never asked for my gender. In the morning a person from the hospital called me and when they heard my morning voice (I wasn't on T at that time) they told me they were looking for a male. I simply told them that I was a transgender male. They were cool about it. What really amazed me is that the sheriff assumed I was male and didn't think twice about it. I am really glad that my friend was ok.
|
The Following 18 Users Say Thank You to Bad_boi For This Useful Post: |
06-10-2013, 10:36 AM | #5 |
Member
How Do You Identify?:
as myself Preferred Pronoun?:
She Relationship Status:
Single Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Leesburg, FL
Posts: 595
Thanks: 2,876
Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts
Rep Power: 17077996 |
One of the nice things about transitioning is that you get to see things from the opposite side of the fence, that you had been on, previously. It gets interesting, at times.
|
The Following 20 Users Say Thank You to Nadeest For This Useful Post: | agape, ahk, alexri, Bad_boi, Bèsame*, DapperButch, deb0670, GraffitiBoi, Greyson, Heavenleahangel, Jesse, Kent, LoyalWolfsBlade, nycfem, o'queery, PaPa, s0litude, sis, stargazingboi, tndoc |
06-11-2013, 09:35 AM | #6 |
Member
How Do You Identify?:
Queer, trans guy, butch Preferred Pronoun?:
Male pronouns Relationship Status:
Relationship Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: Canada
Posts: 1,329
Thanks: 4,090
Thanked 3,903 Times in 1,030 Posts
Rep Power: 21474852 |
I feel like when I feel happy now (vs before) I tend to be able to feel happy in a lot more complete way. The feeling of joy post-top surgery...I'm not sure how to describe that feeling of completely misery to complete joy. Now even when I'm upset or depressed there's still that sense of joy left over...even depression is a little happier now lol
|
The Following 19 Users Say Thank You to EnderD_503 For This Useful Post: |
06-13-2013, 06:37 AM | #7 |
Member
How Do You Identify?:
as myself Preferred Pronoun?:
She Relationship Status:
Single Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Leesburg, FL
Posts: 595
Thanks: 2,876
Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts
Rep Power: 17077996 |
Every milestone that we reach, things get a little bit better for us, I think. For example, going to the lady's room was extremely difficult and scary, for me, at first. Now, it is just a part of my everyday experience, and I don't really think about it.
|
The Following 18 Users Say Thank You to Nadeest For This Useful Post: |
06-15-2013, 02:20 AM | #8 | |
Member
How Do You Identify?:
Transman (male) Preferred Pronoun?:
He, Him, His ect. Relationship Status:
Handsome bastard. Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: May 2010
Location: Seattle
Posts: 727
Thanks: 122
Thanked 1,824 Times in 499 Posts
Rep Power: 0 |
Quote:
I got over it by just going in and washing my hands. Then by using less populated bathrooms like ones at parks and now I am pretty much used to using the men's. Having someone in there with you can also make you feel safer. |
|
The Following 13 Users Say Thank You to Bad_boi For This Useful Post: |
06-16-2013, 06:38 PM | #9 |
Member
How Do You Identify?:
as myself Preferred Pronoun?:
She Relationship Status:
Single Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Leesburg, FL
Posts: 595
Thanks: 2,876
Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts
Rep Power: 17077996 |
A friend of mine used to push herself into doing things that terrified her, during transition, by telling herself: "I need to do this. I have a right to do this. I will feel a lot better, after I have done this." It worked, for her, and I occasionally used it, to push myself into doing things, as well.
|
The Following 16 Users Say Thank You to Nadeest For This Useful Post: |
06-16-2013, 07:01 PM | #10 |
Member
How Do You Identify?:
Male Relationship Status:
Single Tournaments Won: 2 Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: TX
Posts: 1,079
Thanks: 3,564
Thanked 2,058 Times in 720 Posts
Rep Power: 19241325 |
A space for positive trans posts
Great Thread!
I was mowing my overgrown yard Thursday, June 13, 2013, and I accidentally got whacked in the forehead with a piece of very large heavy gauge steel fencing after I had been mowing for over an hour and forty minutes. I felt of my forehead and there was not any blood, so I finished mowing for another 20 minutes. I went in the house took a shower and cooled down. Then, I called an old friend and we talked for two hours about anything and everything. To make a long story short, I was not feeling so well about three hours after I had been whacked in the head. It felt like someone was hitting me in the forehead with a sledgehammer and in the back of my head with another sledgehammer. The two excedrins I had taken did nothing to even phase the pain so, I decided to go to the ER to check it out. I figured I had a concussion and just wanted to make sure that's all it was. Once the doctor saw me, I told her what happened along with me being transgender and that I was not a woman. She understood and was fine with the information. A little while later, I told my nurse that I was not now nor have I ever been a woman, girl, lady or any feminine type of person. She understood too. She even stayed in my little ER room and talked to me for about 20 minutes before her shift was about to be over. We talked and laughed. I shared stories about my life with her and she shared a very personal story of her own about her son and her ex husband. A little while later, I had a shot of morphine and thirty minutes after that I was given a CT scan. The CT scan made my head hurt worse than when I first went into the hospital. My nurse was attending to a man they had just put in my room and I called her name. She answered me by pulling back the little curtain and saying, "Yes, sir." That made my day. She got it and she understood.
__________________
Kent |
The Following 24 Users Say Thank You to Kent For This Useful Post: | *Anya*, agape, ahk, alexri, Bad_boi, batennisboy, Blade, Corkey, deb0670, EnderD_503, Gemme, GraffitiBoi, Greyson, Heavenleahangel, Jesse, Kelt, LoyalWolfsBlade, Nadeest, o'queery, PaPa, rocky 781, Soon, stargazingboi, tndoc |
07-07-2013, 12:52 PM | #11 |
Senior Member
How Do You Identify?:
Male ID Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: Los Angeles
Posts: 3,925
Thanks: 406
Thanked 5,459 Times in 2,038 Posts
Rep Power: 21474854 |
BUMPING...
... for More positivity!
|
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to BestButchBoy For This Useful Post: |
07-10-2013, 02:44 PM | #12 |
Member
How Do You Identify?:
as myself Preferred Pronoun?:
She Relationship Status:
Single Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Leesburg, FL
Posts: 595
Thanks: 2,876
Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts
Rep Power: 17077996 |
I'm pretty positive that I am transgender. :P
|
The Following 12 Users Say Thank You to Nadeest For This Useful Post: |
07-13-2013, 06:25 AM | #13 |
Member
How Do You Identify?:
Transman (male) Preferred Pronoun?:
He, Him, His ect. Relationship Status:
Handsome bastard. Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: May 2010
Location: Seattle
Posts: 727
Thanks: 122
Thanked 1,824 Times in 499 Posts
Rep Power: 0 |
One of my friends that hasn't seen me in a long time was very amused with my happy trail and tried to tickle my belly lol.
|
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to Bad_boi For This Useful Post: |
07-15-2013, 06:51 PM | #14 |
Member
How Do You Identify?:
as myself Preferred Pronoun?:
She Relationship Status:
Single Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Leesburg, FL
Posts: 595
Thanks: 2,876
Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts
Rep Power: 17077996 |
I've been going to a temp labor place for work, until I find a job, and I met a butch there, that had never met a transwoman before. She has started learning about transfolk, thru me, and seems to have had some illusions dispelled, that she had thought about us.
|
The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to Nadeest For This Useful Post: |
07-15-2013, 09:11 PM | #15 |
Senior Member
How Do You Identify?:
Pre-Op FtM, Preferred Pronoun?:
Masculine ones plz Relationship Status:
Single but haven't given up on finding the One Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: I gaze upon the same moon as you do
Posts: 3,827
Thanks: 13,214
Thanked 9,646 Times in 3,123 Posts
Rep Power: 21474852 |
It seems fitting that I found this thread today. After 46 years I am finally getting my prescription for T on Wed. Thanks to three wonderful women, my doctor, my therapist and WingsOnFire as well as many brothers on here I have the courage to face a fear. Giving myself shots. I had to laugh though when my therapist was reading the DSV-TR requirements for G.I.D. When she got to the requirement of presenting as a man she busted out laughing. The good laugh and I joined in with her. She wrote her first T letter for me and didn't even have to.
WingsOnFire has been nothing but loving and supportive and God forbid anyone give me crap for my decision around her. My doctor is little bucket of energy and is almost as excited as I am. She even put little notes on my baseline tests.
__________________
Life should never be stagnant hence my quest for new knowledge will continue until my last breath. Wolf
|
The Following 9 Users Say Thank You to LoyalWolfsBlade For This Useful Post: |
07-15-2013, 09:35 PM | #16 | |
Senior Member
How Do You Identify?:
Queer..femme.. .babygirl...girl Preferred Pronoun?:
Female Ones... Relationship Status:
Enjoying life but ready to meet someone Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Portland Oregon
Posts: 3,945
Thanks: 12,015
Thanked 12,476 Times in 3,357 Posts
Rep Power: 21474854 |
Quote:
I am so very proud of you and your progress in becoming the person you know you were meant to be. I am so very thankful for open minded people and doctors in Oregon. I fell in love with my doctor when I met her and I was so very proud that she was extremely willing to help you with your journey. I know for myself when I began my journey into unchartered waters 5 years ago with my first FTM partner it was not easy. I overcame fears and stigmas that are attached by people who either refuse to understand or are afraid of what they dont understand. In searching out answers for my questions I have become a huge advocate of FTMs and MTFs alike. It is their journey and no one elses. So lets cheer them on instead of tearing them down. I will stand up and cheer for you any day when it comes to your transition. When you psychiatrist, therapist and PCP all agree that this is the right thing for you then no one else should question or judge you for it. It is perfectly ok to have questions, to disagree, to not accept. It is not ok to put someone down because they dont understand or accept or agree. I am honored to have helped you fight your battle and win. WingsOnFire...
__________________
Previously known as MidnightBlueEyes ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ http://gailsforum.files.wordpress.co...-psd340941.png |
|
The Following 12 Users Say Thank You to WingsOnFire For This Useful Post: |
07-16-2013, 05:30 PM | #17 |
Member
How Do You Identify?:
as myself Preferred Pronoun?:
She Relationship Status:
Single Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Leesburg, FL
Posts: 595
Thanks: 2,876
Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts
Rep Power: 17077996 |
Congrats on starting T.
|
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Nadeest For This Useful Post: |
07-17-2013, 12:21 AM | #18 |
Senior Member
How Do You Identify?:
Pre-Op FtM, Preferred Pronoun?:
Masculine ones plz Relationship Status:
Single but haven't given up on finding the One Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: I gaze upon the same moon as you do
Posts: 3,827
Thanks: 13,214
Thanked 9,646 Times in 3,123 Posts
Rep Power: 21474852 |
There is nothing like being around a group of transmen and FtM guys. The laughter and similar stories is refreshing. I love Tuesday nights
__________________
Life should never be stagnant hence my quest for new knowledge will continue until my last breath. Wolf
|
The Following 6 Users Say Thank You to LoyalWolfsBlade For This Useful Post: |
07-17-2013, 09:20 AM | #19 |
Member
How Do You Identify?:
as myself Preferred Pronoun?:
She Relationship Status:
Single Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Leesburg, FL
Posts: 595
Thanks: 2,876
Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts
Rep Power: 17077996 |
That can be fun, I know. Mind you, I am on the other side of the path, but I do know that it is good to be around others that understand what you are going thru. You can also get advice from them, a lot of the time.
|
The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to Nadeest For This Useful Post: |
07-27-2013, 04:35 AM | #20 |
Member
How Do You Identify?:
Transman (male) Preferred Pronoun?:
He, Him, His ect. Relationship Status:
Handsome bastard. Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: May 2010
Location: Seattle
Posts: 727
Thanks: 122
Thanked 1,824 Times in 499 Posts
Rep Power: 0 |
Met another T guy tonight. Its nice to be able to hang with other guys who understand and accept me. It is freedom to just be who I am and not worry about anything at all.
|
The Following 7 Users Say Thank You to Bad_boi For This Useful Post: |
Tags |
ftm, genderqueer, mtf, positive, trans |
|
|