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The Things You Wish You Had Not Done
Are there things you did in your 20's that you wish you had not done now that you are older?
For me, I wish I had not wasted both money and time "experimenting" with drugs and alcohol. I wish I had not wasted so much of my time here on earth without taking the time to really know me. I wish I had not had a closed mind, thinking I knew more than I really did. |
I wish I had spent a lot less time listening to others tell me how to live my life.
I wish I had taken the time to realize that I wasted many years not listening to my gut feelings about so many things rather than giving others the benefit of doubt. I wish that I had been less generous in my life. Now that I am living on limited income and those folks are no longer around nor did they appreciate it; I could sure use that cash!!! I wish I had spent more time with my mother. Other than this I have no more real regrets. This is a great thread! |
I wish I had listened more and talked less.
I wish I had spent less on crazie ideas. I wish I had taken better care of my health,now im paying for it. I wish I had bought more land and less horses...would have worked out better. I wish I had stoped trying to prove something cause I didnt need to,I was fine the way I was. So much more ,but later. |
I wish I wasn't sitting at that red light when the truck behind me plowed into me.
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I don't regret anything when I was young. It was good a time.
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I wish I hadn't grown up. The 20's were an awesome time!
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I wished I hadn't tried for so many years to make others proud of me when I know now I'm all that matters.
I wished I'd NEVER said I do, when I knew from the beginning I really didn't want to. I wish I had not stopped in town the evening Cindy died. Sure I wish I hadn't wasted some of the money I've spent over the years. All in all I've learned much from my mistakes in my life and there are only a few things I can honestly say I wish I had not done. |
I wish I had not done a lot of things....marry to get out of an abusive home....spend money wastefully....make poor decisions regarding trust....as I am sure that I could get to where I am now without many of them. I'd be much better off, I dare say.
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There was only one time I ignored warning signs; it damn near cost me my life.
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Buried My Mother
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I started this thread because I feel that it's important to know what our regrets are, so that we understand better where we are and why, and what, if anything, we want to change about it.
I truly appreciate everyone's honesty. Sometimes I can see myself clearer through others and their experiences. For this reason, I am truly thankful for each and everyone one of your replies. Jesse |
I wish I had been bolder, experimented more, fooled around more, been braver about trying new things.
I wish I hadn't always worried about being a good girl, and that I had done more that was dangerous and a little risky. I wish I taken a cross country road trip, and that I had slept with more unsuitable butches, and drunk more tequila. |
i wish i hadn't spent some of my money the way i did
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I wished I hadn’t believed that time was running out and always rushed to find out what was behind every corner. Though I’m grateful that I have experienced more than many because of it, I often wonder if I missed making the most of what was around me because I was always too busy packing and planning for the next leg of my journey.
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I rarely have regrets. I have learned that every action has shaped who I am as a person, and I like who I am today.
In my 20's I wish I hadnt taken a bath in Lysol because I thought I had chiggers and read on the internet it was a home remedy. :seeingstars: |
BUMP........
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I wish I hadnt believed the lies I suspected were lies
I wish I hadnt stopped working on my credentials. I wish I hadnt been sitting at that red light where that semi hit me in the front and then in the back (nodding to the Guy in Florida) I wish I hadnt used that damn hand held gas powered fence auger by myself that almost tore off my right arm I wish I hadnt fallen off my horse and broke my tailbone, broke ribs, suffered a head concussion, detached retinas, and lost my hearing for two weeks I wish I hadnt been such a piss poor mother to my child when I was drinking. I am so glad I am a much better mother now. |
I wish I hadn't fallen into the "do what's expected of you" trap that involved the marriage (to an abusive deadbeat loser) and the (falling down) white picket fence. I wasted so much time by trying to hide the "real" me...
I wish I had gone on to college instead of working 3 jobs to support the deadbeat, the deadbeat's juvenile delinquent teenage sister, and the deadbeat's drug-addicted homeless uncle. My son and I would be much better off right now if I had finished all my schooling early. I wish I had taken better safeguards with my finances, instead of getting completely hijinxed and railroaded from the identity theft by both the deadbeat and deadbeat's sister. (I'm still finding out about credit cards from 10 years ago that I never knew existed...) I wish I had never believed the old saying drummed into me by my family, of "you've made your bed now lie in it..." |
...wish I would have listened to my best friend and not have paid for a particular ticket.... she's very wise and knew I was wasting my money because there was no guarantee and it was sold "as/is".
....wish I wouldn't have left the Logistics field....I'd be an Operations Manager by now. ....wish I would not have wasted (spent so fast) the lump sum of money that I got last fall from my "retirement refund". Even if most of it went to bills and rent, I should have rolled it over into a Roth IRA (especially since I have no retirement fund after struggling as a single parent) and/or spent some to purchase my COBRA insurance. Yeah, I wish I woulda kept my insurance. ....after having insurance for 8 years, I wish I would not have waited so long to see a specialist about my Lupus...or left PA without talking to either of my doctors. (dinner's almost ready, catch up with ya later...) |
I wish I had gone straight to college after high school..
but then again, if I did that, then I would have been on the wrong coast to get pregnant with my son... hmmmm... No... Every mistake I made, every regret I might have has led me to where I am and who I am now... |
I've released myself from looking back...I can not turn back time...
it is counterproductive (for me) to live looking over my shoulder when I want to be moving forward with clarity of vision and strength of purpose... I am not always able to achieve this goal, but I try...I wish to put my energy into meeting these goals rather than being sidetracked by hindsight and hindered by regrets... |
THE DAMN CIGGIES:mohawk:
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there has brought me here...
"There is nothing for you to go back and live over, or fix, or feel regret about now. Every part of your life has unfolded just right. And so - now - knowing all that you know from where you now stand, now what do you want? The answers are now coming forth to you. Go forth in joy, and get on with it."
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There is nothing I did that has not brought me here.
There are a whole lot of things that happened that I wish hadn't, like getting t boned in my car, but all of the things that happened, made me stronger and able to face the things that go wrong, with honor and compassion. Things happen for a reason, we often don't know the reason for it, but I believe it is how we adapt that makes us who we are. |
Everything happens for a reason...gives opportunities to learn and grow...I could wish I hadn't done a lot of things but then again what fun would that be? ;)
Goes along with one of my favorite quotes: "You don't find life worth living; You make it that way!" How boring it would be without the learning... |
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what i wouldnt give to be able to erase just a few stoopid moments in my life... but... im stuck with them... and the consequences that i left myself with... would i rather not have the regret... of course not... but... people in hell would rather not be there either... so i guess i will just have to deal withem... |
Listened more been a better friend.. stopped trying to e what everyone else thought I should have been, not been a player taken the keys from her that last night.. just wish I would have taken the time to find me. I know the slips we make along the way shape us make us who we are but I think I could have done it better.. ahh regrets bitter pill:cigar2:
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I'd say I am sorry I screwed up my credit so bad, but it's taught me to be more careful of my finances and don't impulse buy (in big amounts, at least.. and okay maybe I still wish I hadn't a little, but that was 3-5 years ago and I have paid off every account - with documentation to prove so - and pay my bills on time if not ahead now)
I'd say I am sorry I dropped out of college, but I did so to take care of my partner I'd say I am sorry I ignored the red flags, but it showed me that was a path and type of person I didn't want to follow I'd say I am sorry I didn't meet you sooner, but I had to learn to love myself and more importantly, stand up for myself So really, the only thing I wish I hadn't done was starting smoking a long time ago - but I have given it up again and doing my damnedest to stick to it. |
Just wish I hadn't been suckered by the people who suckered me.
My fault for being so trusting. WT |
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to have sold my house sooner :praying:
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had not gone to sleep at the wheel and killed my car
had not puked on that CHP's Motorcycle boots. .blah |
I wish I had never gotten Plantar fasciitis in both feet and then a partially torn achilles tendon. The last 3 yrs of being very sedentary for me has cost me about 60 or 70 pounds and I know it will take a miracle to get it back off of me.
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Taken the ride that guy offered, when I was walking home...
As for the rest... If I would not have done those things I wouldn't be the person I am today... Isn't there a saying about, you would rather have loved than lost than to never have loved at all... I can't remember who said it or if I have even said it right but I would rather take a risk and risk it all than never have tried... Live with no regrets! |
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I wish I had finished college the first time around. It only took me until I was in my early 40's to finish my Master's degree, lol. But still, I did it!
I wish I had met my beautiful wife sooner in life, but I do cherish every moment we have; we both had a path to travel to get to where we are and our lives crossed when the timing was perfect! I wish I would have talked to my mom more; questions about my family and no one left alive with the answers. I wish I hadn't moved to where I did when I finally left my hometown. I'd have a lot more money toward retirement were it not for that HUGE mistake. In the end, its going to cause me to have to work a few more years than planned, but overall, I'm still in pretty good shape! All in all, I try to live with as few regrets as possible. I have a few lasting ones, but not many. Sometimes I might think something is a regret in the moment, but the advantage of hindsight usually lets me know that it was not a regret at all, but was instead exactly what was supposed to happen, and what needed to happen! Great Thread! Glynn |
wishing I had not continued with this trucking on the road, last spring when i had the chance to get out of it..... *sigh* |
I have no regrets. Nothing you can say or do can change the past. I take each day as it comes, live it completely, and move on to the next. I can't dwell on my mistakes. I can't think too much about my future. I'd rather live it a day at a time.
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I wish I would have told way before I did. |
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