Trans and Relationship's
I have so many things going on in my mind and im curious.
For the Single trans guys out there, do you have issues from the Community telling you to look outside your "gay community" for a relationship? Do you get bashed because you date within your community? Conversation has it, we should not be dating lesbian's, femme women inside our community. I disagree, because some transguy's stay within the community. NOT all date straight women. I just dont agree on this subject. How do you feel? Simple conversation, not a community bashing thread. No nit picking. Just curious. |
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Liam, i get the fluctuating within the community. I try to stay connected. |
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But like some of the other comments above, I do not feel comfortable outside the community. It's not where I feel at home. The straight/heteronormative world isn't mine. I'm lucky to have a partner who is queer in who she dates. If I was to take on another partner (we maintain a poly outlook on life) I would likely look for another queer partner rather than a straight women. |
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Don't femmes have inherent qualities that stand alone and distinct from their potential of understanding transmen? I'm not trying to come off with snark; I just would like to know what it is about queer femmes that transguys are attracted to that doesn't have anything to do with themselves. Removing the potential *understanding* that queer femmes may have for transmen, aren't they different and attractive in ways that a straight woman is not? |
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I wondered if I could/should participate in the thread, since I'm not single and the question was posed to single transmen Dylan |
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Opposing the question to dating within the community, lol i usually get told to leave the "lesbian" community alone and go out and find a straight woman. Then im told that i "look" too male. So i best get moving on. I chuckle to myself, cause these are tweeners that have issues and like to cause drama. I just want to live my life, keep friends and tread lightly with the community. |
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Fragile is definitely not a word I would use to describe you. I just find it interesting that out of nine posts on a question posed to transmen in a trans thread, three of the responses are by cispeople, and two of the posts are asking for explanations while the other one talks about how cispeople feel about trans people in queer space. It's Just Ironic To Me Especially When Added To The Fact That I Asked The OP If It Would Be Out Of Line If I (as a coupled transperson) Was Welcome To Post, Dylan |
Im sorry for singling out transguys, it was not my intention.
And this is a community and EVERYONE is welcome in this conversation Dylan be nice lol sometimes threads heat up, sometimes they die off. im sick of having this conversation with a one sided lesbian that is NOT on the planet but texts me off the wall cause i was interested in HER ex. and i just need input here. thread is open to EVERYONE. keep it clean "HowSoonIsNow" i like snarkieness. bring it on. :) |
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I asked the question with sincerity. Apologies for posting in a thread that was not asking for my opinion--I usually read closer and don't intrude upon others' spaces. I blame it on not reading the OP closely enough, then seeing June's post and, mostly, my own compulsion to post when I read your words about femmes understanding you better than straight women and the fact that I have wondered about this subject myself. Thank you, Sam, for responding to my question/post. |
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i know you were sincere, i just went on with the snark comment. im sorry. didnt mean to offend you |
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I find it interesting that trans people are not only told they are not part of the glbTq community, but they're also then told how to act/acceptable terms/whom they may partner with/etc when they are in the glbTq
Yet the same 'rules' are not expected when the glbq's are in the T community This isn't a retort towards you June...honest. I'm talking about the OP. I have definitely been told I whom I 'should' be dating. We have all been told how we 'should' act in this community. We've all seen those who don't 'behave' excommunicated. It's just funny to me that trans ppl are often seen as 'guests' of the glbq community who can be easily discarded if they don't abide by the 'rules' even though we've helped the glbq community forever. Yet never once have I seen a cis glbq ask about their behavior when in T space...it's almost just an assumption that glbq's 'should' be welcome. It's just funny to me In A Not HaHa Way, Dylan |
As a transguy, I have insecurities about being part of this community. In many ways I do feel comfortable with you guys and gals in a way I don't feel at all comfortable in the cis/straight world. I consider myself queer, because my primary attraction is to femmes, and I am not at home in the cis/straight world. I love the LGBTQ community.
My insecurities are about how I fit into the butch-femme community as a transguy. Will anyone be interested in me once the T that I am on has changed my body? Will anyone still see me as a legitimate member here? Most importantly, will people here still see ME, and not just my body? I am on disability. I live out in the middle of a rural small town area. I have issues with anxiety and panic disorder. There are plenty of reasons for femmes to not have any interest in me. I just hope that my trans status isn't one of them. All that being said, only once so far have I pursued a femme who told me no, and it was because she wanted to be with a woman. No one has called me traitor or said I wasn't welcome here. I just worry that it might happen, cause I have heard of guys being treated that way. I think it is sad and hurtful. And by the way, I am attracted to femmes because they are powerful, strong women who embody femininity and courage and heart. They are bold, unapologetic, and not afraid to stand up and be proud of who they are and who they love. No one else touches my heart and heats my desires like a femme. Thanks for starting this thread Sam. |
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