Hey TD,
Nice post. I watched the Doc as well as the After Doc with Rosie. Considering some of the other stuff out there on Transmen, I have to say this was well done. I can relate to so much of what Chaz is going through, because I have already been there, done that and don't even want the shirt.
I believe that anytime a person chooses for their life that one thing they must have or be...willing to risk losing everything else, they very possibly could be put into a situation where they do indeed live their life without a partner -OR- they could open up their lives in such a way that there is only room for that right person to enter into. That is simply one of those things that we as humans have absolutely no control over regardless of whether we transition or not.
When I transitioned 13 years ago, I knew there was a strong possibility that I would forever remain single. What was more important to me at that time, was that I was choosing to save my own life. Yes, today I am single, but that's okay with me for now and I have zero regrets about transitioning.
- Jesse
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Originally Posted by T D
Watched the documentary about Chaz earlier and I keep hearing those words "who will love me? Who's going to love a man without a penis?" I think this is something that a lot of transmen ask themselves. It's certainly a legitimate question too. I was especially relieved to hear Chaz say that being a man isn't about what's between your legs, which I also believe. It's about the person as a whole being, who they are, how they treat others, the whole shebang.
Yet another topic that Chaz brought up was about not getting to be a young man. I can so relate to that, hell I didn't even get to be a middle aged man. One of the things that was very difficult for me when deciding whether or not to proceed with my transition was whether or not it would make it more difficult for me to date or find a partner, and especially at my age. I have pretty much resolved to spend the rest of my life as a single person if it comes to that, but honestly, it's a sad thing when you think about it.... that one even has to consider whether or not they're willing to be unattached for the rest of their life in order to live in the body of and be the person they believe themself to be. Very thought provoking for sure.
I don't know, just seemed like an interesting topic for a single FTMs and Femmes thread.
Anyone else have thoughts about this?
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