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Originally Posted by Matthew
how do you handle someone who is constantly using your weight against you? When they are not rational or think its just plain funny to make fun of you, how do you really make them understand that its not okay? I'm still trying to figure this out and short of telling him to eff off and get out of My life, I don't know what else to do ~ I'm at a loss here.
Anyways enough of a thread derail, I hope that everyone has a fantastic day and that everyone's weight loss is on track :-)
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Hi Matthew,
It's not a derail at all. I think that a lot of us have dealt with people like this and it's painful and difficult...and that feeds into the negativity that pushes some of those emotional eating buttons...so it's a vicious circle.
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Originally Posted by Liam
Sounds to me as if you are describing a bully, perhaps your answers can be found in that direction.
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I agree with Liam. People who honestly think it's funny to hurt other people after being alerted to the fact that their comments are painful ....for me, those are bullies or worse.
I certainly don't have all the answers but, for me, I try to be firm and straightforward and let them know that what they're doing isn't okay with me and that, if it continues, I'm done.
If they continue...then I really am done. I create distance, and silence. For how long? It depends. There are people I've cut completely out of my life. There were others that I distanced from long enough that they got the message and changed their behavior towards me.
Honestly, I think some people are just plain toxic...and I'm better off with them out of my life.
It's one of those tough calls that everyone has to make for themselves.
Wishing you the best on figuring this out.
And.....just because....anyone who called me a friend and then said "suck it up princess" after I honestly and directly told them they were hurting me? They'd get more than a "fuck off". But that's just me.
