To feel loved, I need to feel seen clearly and listened to. I need to feel trusted. I also need to know that I am a priority in that person's life, and that my safety, comfort and well being are a factor in her and our decisions. I need to be part of a long-term plan, that we make together. I want to feel that she is happy to see me when I walk in the door, and is sad to see me leave for little trips or whatever. I need to feel confided in, and I need her to be a confidante for me.
Not so outrageous, these expectations, but not so easy to find, either.
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