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Originally Posted by guihong
*You can learn a lot about your love interest in the first hour of the first date. If you're out for a meal, pay attention to how they treat the waitstaff.
*Don't shackle yourself to someone who doesn't make you laugh, and definitely, 100% not with anyone who makes you cry.
*If it feels wrong, it is wrong. Don't make excuses or second-guess yourself.
*You attract what you think you deserve, even unconsciously. The healthier you are, the better partner you will be, and you will attract healthier people.
*Accept the other person as they are that very moment. They're going to change over a years-long relationship, sure, but not on your schedule and not always the changes you want.
*Don't get into a relationship for the wrong reasons (which is just about everything except that you are full of love and health and want to share that with a special person). That includes pressure, horniness, guilt, or even boredom with your life. BTDT, all of them.
*A relationship doesn't always end because the love ends. Love can't fix everything.
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such a great point. sometimes you arent on the same page or right enough with yourself to be right enough with someone else even if you do love them.
there's always something good in you and in the person you love even when there's something not working in your behavior choices. i learned that self-respect and having loved one another for so long means you can find a few small ways to be kind to one another during a breakup. there's nothing more representative of honest love than watching the person you broke up with try to be sweet to you or watching them struggle to respect your decision. there's
a lot to admire in someone when you're breaking up with them and they still find ways to love you while helping to dismantle the world you made together. i learned that i never stopped wanting the best for them and always wished there was a way i could have said "i'm still on your side". even now, when i have small victories or do things that i couldnt have done in the past, i wonder if they would be proud of me because i really always wanted them to be proud of me.