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Old 01-06-2013, 10:40 AM   #89
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Originally Posted by ButchEire View Post
I know you're trying to help him feel better but in reality, holding him close when he's afraid of the fire is reinforcing his fear. Ignoring him (making sure he is safe, of course) and rewarding with praise, etc. when he becomes calm is the best way to reinforce your goal.
Thanks. I just went and did what I should have done before and read the posts that preceded mine.

It's just such a pity. I hate the idea of him being upstairs all by himself - our home is 300 years old and very draughty - but if that's what he needs to do, then that's what he needs to do. (We've tried the reward/praise idea but again, no go.)

Anyway, thanks again for the advice.

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