Relating To Your Parent(s)

Cuddles · 02-21-2012, 07:50 PM

I am tired and worn out but I feel like sharing so I'm gonna post, then go to bed.

I went for a regular walk with my dear mother(62) tonight and I brought up some sensitive topics for the first time in a very long time with her. My nerves are totally wracked because I felt so very vulnerable. I've managed to form an extremely close bond with my mother and she's become my best friend in the whole world, but for years I would avoid certain topics because I didn't want to make her uncomfortable.

Kind of silly on my part and she let me know as much. I came out to her when I was 18 and was fortunate to have no backlash but over the years I wouldn't share things with her and we eventually settled into a don't ask-don't tell relationship. Her not asking because she thought I wanted privacy and me not telling because I wanted her to not be uncomfortable.

Thankfully I feel so much better now, except I can't help the nerve-shot feeling in me right now.

I'm curious though.... has anyone else had or having this kind of relationship with a parent? Where you're close and share with them or where you're close but don't? I know it's all relative to the relationship but maybe I just need to keep the lines of communication open for it to begin to feel 100% normal because as of right now it still doesn't completely?

02-21-2012, 07:50 PM	#1
Cuddles Junior Member How Do You Identify?: A romantic butch who loves to cuddle... and steal your french fry when you're not looking! Preferred Pronoun?: No preference. Relationship Status: Single, always looking to mingle and maybe be tamed one day Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Northern Florida Posts: 61 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 117 Thanked 191 Times in 36 Posts Rep Power: 1805812	Relating To Your Parent(s) I am tired and worn out but I feel like sharing so I'm gonna post, then go to bed. I went for a regular walk with my dear mother(62) tonight and I brought up some sensitive topics for the first time in a very long time with her. My nerves are totally wracked because I felt so very vulnerable. I've managed to form an extremely close bond with my mother and she's become my best friend in the whole world, but for years I would avoid certain topics because I didn't want to make her uncomfortable. Kind of silly on my part and she let me know as much. I came out to her when I was 18 and was fortunate to have no backlash but over the years I wouldn't share things with her and we eventually settled into a don't ask-don't tell relationship. Her not asking because she thought I wanted privacy and me not telling because I wanted her to not be uncomfortable. Thankfully I feel so much better now, except I can't help the nerve-shot feeling in me right now. I'm curious though.... has anyone else had or having this kind of relationship with a parent? Where you're close and share with them or where you're close but don't? I know it's all relative to the relationship but maybe I just need to keep the lines of communication open for it to begin to feel 100% normal because as of right now it still doesn't completely?