Being Tactile...

1QuirkyKiwi · 10-29-2011, 04:20 AM

I’d like to take the Butch Hands and Femme Hands as inspiration for this thread – some have mentioned how they love to be touched by their partners and love to touch them in return...

As babies we put everything into our mouths, which is how we learned, since there are more nerve endings in the mouth than any other body area of the same size. We were hopefully given more tactile stimulation to facilitate brain development and encourage us to explore our surroundings. Hopefully as babies our parents created a tactile paradise for us by letting us play with toys and other everyday items that help us distinguish between different textures……we were cuddled…..maybe gently massaged……had our favourite blankies/soft toys, etc.

I’m a VERY tactile person by nature – next to my acute sense of smell, being touched gently and lovingly by my partner is high priority for me in a relationship – I also love to touch my partner gently and lovingly, too! I’m very artistic, loving the textures, rhythms and forms of Sculpting, using Pastels, hand embroidery and other sewing, pottery and......Ahem! My partner's body *Wink*(I take inspiration and casual guidance from the great renaissance masters on this, lol!).

I have a have a predominantly kinaesthetic learning style – when learning something, it helps for me to move around as this increases my understanding. I’m very expressive emotionally with my face and body and music is also sensory for me.

When I’m uncomfortable with a person or in a situation I can become tactile defensive (hypersensitive) very quickly. I physically (as well as emotionally) feel overwhelmed and need time alone and to take a shower to rid myself of the energy of that person(s) or situation. I’ve been told this is down to my SB - I'n sure that there are many people who have equally as overwhelmed on occassion, so, I'm not totally convinced on that, lol!

I cannot be in a relationship with a woman who IS NOT tactile – I feel straight-jacketed and sensory deprived as well as unloved, undesirable and not able to show my loe for her - that hurts deeply for me. Is being tactile a high priority for you in a relationship?

Do you feel overwhelmed by some people touching you and some situations?

Can being tactile be taken the wrong way? (Outside of the first date scenario, as that has already been discussed in the dating threads).

I respect ALL thoughts, opinions and perspectives and I hope you will, too! I’m just a curious Kiwi wanting to know, lol!

10-29-2011, 04:20 AM	#1
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