What have you learned? - Page 3

BoiJen · 12-31-2011, 03:35 PM

I've learned that my son is the one person I share the most with emotionally, and his memory, on things even I forget, is excellent. He has
taught me to believe in "magic", especially the kind I tell him of, when my belief in it was not there at first.
I've also learned that people who push you away are the ones who need you the most, but they won't tell you until they hit a breaking point.
One last thing I learned is that people who say they will never leave, always do, and if they say they will be there, never are.... Until proven.

spritzerJ · 12-31-2011, 03:51 PM

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Originally Posted by BoiJen

I've learned that my son is the one person I share the most with emotionally, and his memory, on things even I forget, is excellent. He has
taught me to believe in "magic", especially the kind I tell him of, when my belief in it was not there at first.
I've also learned that people who push you away are the ones who need you the most, but they won't tell you until they hit a breaking point.
One last thing I learned is that people who say they will never leave, always do, and if they say they will be there, never are.... Until proven.

I understand the emotional connection with your kiddo, it is amazing. As is there memory for what we forget. OMG, I never imagined how much brain power I've lost over the years but she reminds me daily.

Julien · 12-31-2011, 03:53 PM

I've learned that I can withstand the difficult times in my life if I give myself a chance to experience the events without struggle or negativity.

Sassy · 12-31-2011, 04:11 PM

I've learned I just might not be ready to let go of those dreams I had when I was 20-something.

msW8ing · 12-31-2011, 04:31 PM

i have learned that sometimes..through no fault of either party..relationships just don't work out..there isn't always hatred or blame or cheating or lieing or mud slinging..sometimes it just doesn't work. And everyone who comes into our lives for no matter the length of time or reason why..have a purpose..have something to teach us if we are just willing to learn.

spritzerJ · 12-31-2011, 04:49 PM

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Originally Posted by msW8ing

i have learned that sometimes..through no fault of either party..relationships just don't work out..there isn't always hatred or blame or cheating or lieing or mud slinging..sometimes it just doesn't work. And everyone who comes into our lives for no matter the length of time or reason why..have a purpose..have something to teach us if we are just willing to learn.

Oh so learned that one this week. I really wanted to make 'em suffer but I was lucky that my sister reminded me to let go and let go fast so there was room for a peaceful resolution. Because it was what we really needed a peaceful resolution. And peace is being found.

1ladyface · 01-11-2012, 01:57 AM

I've learned (or am trying to learn) to be patient with my body. Recovering from this cold takes time, getting more flexible takes time, getting stronger takes time.

I was talking with a friend today about how I overdid it this weekend and exercised too much and re-aggravated that pesky cough I developed over Christmas. He's in a similar place so we each came up with a mantra to remind ourselves to slow down this week. Mine was initially "my body is still healing" but then I realized that made me angry and impatient so I changed it to "my magical body is healing itself" which feels good.

(though slow)

kittygrrl · 03-15-2012, 11:27 PM

true kindness is perhaps greater than love

genghisfawn · 03-16-2012, 12:52 AM

Some things are impossible.

mariamma · 03-16-2012, 01:23 AM

Patience is a virtue and I am not a virtuous woman.

Glenn · 03-16-2012, 05:21 AM

The most attractive packages contain the most artificial ingredients

Ginger · 03-16-2012, 01:38 PM

I've learned that things really do seem better in the morning—when my energy is at its best, and the sun is shining.

girl_dee · 03-16-2012, 01:51 PM

How wonderful life is when it is really happening, the challenges and learning is part of the big ole wonderful picture of reality. Talking about the hard stuff and being safe to do so without becoming the bad guy is an amazing thing.

That i am worthy of a nice home, safe place to live (Thank you Syr!) where i have freedoms, without landlords telling me what to do or not to do.

that sugar coating the truth is not a good idea, that only comes to bite you in the butt. i'm also learning to recognize saccharin when i see it.

Amber2010 · 03-16-2012, 01:55 PM

I have learned that I make my own happiness and not the people in my life.

girl_dee · 03-16-2012, 01:58 PM

i've learned that i can't fix/save others, they have to figure it out on their own

scootebaby · 03-16-2012, 03:10 PM

I have learned...

Everything happens for a reason

Karma does exist,she is just quiet sometimes

Never assume...regardless what it is

Just_G · 03-16-2012, 03:29 PM

When people tell you who they really are; listen. When they tell you what they are looking for and you are NOT it; walk away.

I have a tendancy to think people change. They don't. If that is who they say they are; I need to start listening and walk away.

I once had a woman tell me, "I am going to do nothing but hurt you." (emotionally) Apparently I took that as a challenge to try to prove to her that she wouldn't. How STUPID of me to do that! I let her hurt me....I gave her that power when I didn't walk away....when I didn't listen to her TELLING me what she was going to do.

Ancora mi imparno!! (I am still learning!)

Just_G · 03-16-2012, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

i've learned that i can't fix/save others, they have to figure it out on their own

Amen to that!!

Just_G · 03-16-2012, 03:32 PM

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Originally Posted by msW8ing

i have learned that sometimes..through no fault of either party..relationships just don't work out..there isn't always hatred or blame or cheating or lieing or mud slinging..sometimes it just doesn't work. And everyone who comes into our lives for no matter the length of time or reason why..have a purpose..have something to teach us if we are just willing to learn.

This is so absolutely true!! They are there for a reason, season, or a lifetime!

girl_dee · 03-16-2012, 03:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Just_G

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I have a tendancy to think people change. They don't. </snip>

Amen to THIS.

12-31-2011, 03:35 PM	#41
BoiJen Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Boi Relationship Status: happy to find inner peace Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Motor City Posts: 65 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13 Thanked 120 Times in 46 Posts Rep Power: 214766	I've learned that my son is the one person I share the most with emotionally, and his memory, on things even I forget, is excellent. He has taught me to believe in "magic", especially the kind I tell him of, when my belief in it was not there at first. I've also learned that people who push you away are the ones who need you the most, but they won't tell you until they hit a breaking point. One last thing I learned is that people who say they will never leave, always do, and if they say they will be there, never are.... Until proven. __________________ *BoiJen* The past is our definition. We may strive with good reason to escape what is bad in it, but we will escape it only by adding something better to it. -Wendell Barry

12-31-2011, 03:53 PM	#43
Julien Member How Do You Identify?: TG/GenderQueer Preferred Pronoun?: I'm flexible, but only up to a point. Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Alabama, Gulf Coast area Posts: 1,007 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,247 Thanked 2,702 Times in 737 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I've learned that I can withstand the difficult times in my life if I give myself a chance to experience the events without struggle or negativity. __________________ Julien “Self-plagiarism is style.” Alfred Hitchcock Formerly known as Graphiteta2s

12-31-2011, 04:31 PM	#45
msW8ing Member How Do You Identify?: multi-faceted gem, femme, submissive babygirl if the chemistry is there. Preferred Pronoun?: lady Relationship Status: working on myself Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Lewiston, Idaho Posts: 920 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,700 Thanked 2,497 Times in 654 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	i have learned that sometimes..through no fault of either party..relationships just don't work out..there isn't always hatred or blame or cheating or lieing or mud slinging..sometimes it just doesn't work. And everyone who comes into our lives for no matter the length of time or reason why..have a purpose..have something to teach us if we are just willing to learn. __________________ *Don't judge me by my past..I don't live there anymore* A lady who knows the ropes..will never be bound. ~Mae West

01-11-2012, 01:57 AM	#47
1ladyface Junior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: loved and loving Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: SF Posts: 86 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 65 Thanked 279 Times in 66 Posts Rep Power: 3368880	I've learned (or am trying to learn) to be patient with my body. Recovering from this cold takes time, getting more flexible takes time, getting stronger takes time. I was talking with a friend today about how I overdid it this weekend and exercised too much and re-aggravated that pesky cough I developed over Christmas. He's in a similar place so we each came up with a mantra to remind ourselves to slow down this week. Mine was initially "my body is still healing" but then I realized that made me angry and impatient so I changed it to "my magical body is healing itself" which feels good. (though slow) __________________ xoxo -ladyface http://www.1ladyface.blogspot.com

03-15-2012, 11:27 PM	#48
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: gf Relationship Status: Uranus will retrograde in Gemini Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the wild mushrooms Posts: 9,658 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,706 Thanked 22,137 Times in 7,208 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	I've learned.. true kindness is perhaps greater than love

12-31-2011, 04:11 PM	#44
Sassy Member How Do You Identify?: Female Relationship Status: Together Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: In the sunshine Posts: 598 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 815 Thanked 1,929 Times in 460 Posts Rep Power: 19641164	I've learned I just might not be ready to let go of those dreams I had when I was 20-something.

03-16-2012, 12:52 AM	#49
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03-16-2012, 01:23 AM	#50
mariamma Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: single Join Date: May 2011 Location: Oregon Posts: 352 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,458 Thanked 1,115 Times in 281 Posts Rep Power: 9628891	Patience is a virtue and I am not a virtuous woman.

03-16-2012, 05:21 AM	#51
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Ginger Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme lesbian Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: East coast Posts: 2,416 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,829 Thanked 12,296 Times in 2,057 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I've learned that things really do seem better in the morning—when my energy is at its best, and the sun is shining.

03-16-2012, 01:51 PM	#53
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	How wonderful life is when it is really happening, the challenges and learning is part of the big ole wonderful picture of reality. Talking about the hard stuff and being safe to do so without becoming the bad guy is an amazing thing. That i am worthy of a nice home, safe place to live (Thank you Syr!) where i have freedoms, without landlords telling me what to do or not to do. that sugar coating the truth is not a good idea, that only comes to bite you in the butt. i'm also learning to recognize saccharin when i see it.

03-16-2012, 01:55 PM	#54
Amber2010 Member How Do You Identify?: Happy, Crazy, Bubbly, Funny, Strong, Outgoing, Friendly Preferred Pronoun?: Femme Relationship Status: Complicated Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 200 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 920 Thanked 594 Times in 154 Posts Rep Power: 3787185	I have learned that I make my own happiness and not the people in my life.

03-16-2012, 01:58 PM	#55
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	i've learned that i can't fix/save others, they have to figure it out on their own

03-16-2012, 03:10 PM	#56
scootebaby Timed Out How Do You Identify?: yes dear Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: south florida Posts: 2,494 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,264 Thanked 6,737 Times in 1,777 Posts Rep Power: 0	I have learned... Everything happens for a reason Karma does exist,she is just quiet sometimes Never assume...regardless what it is

03-16-2012, 03:29 PM	#57
Just_G Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, Switch, Comedian...G...whichever. Preferred Pronoun?: He....with an e! Relationship Status: I'll take kinky & twisted for $200, Alex!! Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the middle Posts: 2,281 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 874 Thanked 6,165 Times in 1,450 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	When people tell you who they really are; listen. When they tell you what they are looking for and you are NOT it; walk away. I have a tendancy to think people change. They don't. If that is who they say they are; I need to start listening and walk away. I once had a woman tell me, "I am going to do nothing but hurt you." (emotionally) Apparently I took that as a challenge to try to prove to her that she wouldn't. How STUPID of me to do that! I let her hurt me....I gave her that power when I didn't walk away....when I didn't listen to her TELLING me what she was going to do. Ancora mi imparno!! (I am still learning!) __________________ Happy are those who dream and are ready to pay the price to make them come true!