What have you learned?

Just_G · 03-16-2012, 03:29 PM

When people tell you who they really are; listen. When they tell you what they are looking for and you are NOT it; walk away.

I have a tendancy to think people change. They don't. If that is who they say they are; I need to start listening and walk away.

I once had a woman tell me, "I am going to do nothing but hurt you." (emotionally) Apparently I took that as a challenge to try to prove to her that she wouldn't. How STUPID of me to do that! I let her hurt me....I gave her that power when I didn't walk away....when I didn't listen to her TELLING me what she was going to do.

Ancora mi imparno!! (I am still learning!)

girl_dee · 03-16-2012, 03:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Just_G

>snip<

I have a tendancy to think people change. They don't. </snip>

Amen to THIS.

Just_G · 03-16-2012, 03:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

Amen to THIS.

And I didn't mean that in a bad way....I have simply found that when people say they are "X", then they are always going to be "X"....they might change their ways for a while, but they always end up going back to "X". Does that make sense?

(and this is just MY personal experience I am speaking of)

girl_dee · 03-16-2012, 04:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Just_G

And I didn't mean that in a bad way....I have simply found that when people say they are "X", then they are always going to be "X"....they might change their ways for a while, but they always end up going back to "X". Does that make sense?

(and this is just MY personal experience I am speaking of)

i knew exactly what you meant, and i agree and that is my experience too

Okiebug61 · 03-17-2012, 07:31 AM

I've learned that loving someone is not only something in the opened eyed present but in the blind future. Thankfully she loves the same way.

kittygrrl · 03-17-2012, 11:44 AM

I've learned, I don't miss coffee, a healthy smoothie gives me tons more energy..coffee is a drug

Ginger · 03-17-2012, 06:58 PM

Today I learned how satisfying it is to sleep, what a beautiful place sleep can be.

kittygrrl · 03-18-2012, 12:50 PM

... there is no such thing as forever..or should i amend that with forever can have very different contexts depending on who is using it..people will lie to you, and lie to themselves..make sure you are clear & honest if you decide to use that term in your relationships to avoid disappointment altogether don't use it at all (imo)here & now is where your focus should be, evaluate & make sure it's what you need not want you wish it to be

girl_dee · 03-18-2012, 07:28 PM

i've learned that you can become colder more jaded each time something hits you right in the face. Sometimes i wish i could learn never to let anything hurt me, ever again, then i could say i learned to shut off my hurt.

03-16-2012, 03:29 PM	#1
Just_G Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, Switch, Comedian...G...whichever. Preferred Pronoun?: He....with an e! Relationship Status: I'll take kinky & twisted for $200, Alex!! Tournaments Won: 1 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the middle Posts: 2,281 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 874 Thanked 6,165 Times in 1,450 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	When people tell you who they really are; listen. When they tell you what they are looking for and you are NOT it; walk away. I have a tendancy to think people change. They don't. If that is who they say they are; I need to start listening and walk away. I once had a woman tell me, "I am going to do nothing but hurt you." (emotionally) Apparently I took that as a challenge to try to prove to her that she wouldn't. How STUPID of me to do that! I let her hurt me....I gave her that power when I didn't walk away....when I didn't listen to her TELLING me what she was going to do. Ancora mi imparno!! (I am still learning!) __________________ Happy are those who dream and are ready to pay the price to make them come true!

03-17-2012, 07:31 AM	#5
Okiebug61 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Light Butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Hitched to Red Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 1,528 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,261 Thanked 5,378 Times in 1,245 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I've learned that loving someone is not only something in the opened eyed present but in the blind future. Thankfully she loves the same way. __________________ "Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawake." ~ Anatole France

03-18-2012, 12:50 PM	#8
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: gf Relationship Status: Uranus will retrograde in Gemini Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the wild mushrooms Posts: 9,620 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,697 Thanked 22,133 Times in 7,204 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	I've learned ... there is no such thing as forever..or should i amend that with forever can have very different contexts depending on who is using it..people will lie to you, and lie to themselves..make sure you are clear & honest if you decide to use that term in your relationships to avoid disappointment altogether don't use it at all (imo)here & now is where your focus should be, evaluate & make sure it's what you need not want you wish it to be

03-17-2012, 11:44 AM	#6
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: witchy Preferred Pronoun?: gf Relationship Status: Uranus will retrograde in Gemini Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the wild mushrooms Posts: 9,620 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,697 Thanked 22,133 Times in 7,204 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	I've learned, I don't miss coffee, a healthy smoothie gives me tons more energy..coffee is a drug

03-17-2012, 06:58 PM	#7
Ginger Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme lesbian Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: East coast Posts: 2,416 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,829 Thanked 12,296 Times in 2,057 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Today I learned how satisfying it is to sleep, what a beautiful place sleep can be.

03-18-2012, 07:28 PM	#9
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,829 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474873	i've learned that you can become colder more jaded each time something hits you right in the face. Sometimes i wish i could learn never to let anything hurt me, ever again, then i could say i learned to shut off my hurt.