Butch Pronouns - A Questionaire

Nat · 05-16-2010, 08:58 PM

I have spent much of yesterday and today reading and re-reading the "Men with boobs" thread, and the use of default butch pronouns is one of many themes involved in that discussion.

I'm going to attach a poll, but there is not a poll that can cover every person's experience, thoughts, etc. So, in addition to the poll, I'm going to put a more inclusive questionaire below.

What I would like to do is ask anybody who participates in this thread to first fill out and post the questionaire - before addressing another person's answers to the questionaire.

If a question definitely does not apply to you, please write "N/A"

The Butch Pronoun Questionaire

1. How do you identify?

2a. What is your preferred pronoun (when referencing yourself)?

2b. Do you feel like your preferred pronoun fits you perfectly?

2c. Did you have another or other preferred pronouns in the past?

3a. Does your preferred pronoun vary depending on setting?

3b. If so, can you please explain why and how?

4. How important is it to you that people use your preferred pronoun?

5a. If somebody refers to you by the pronoun, "he," and this is not your preferred pronoun, how do/would you feel?

5b. How do/would you react?

6a. If somebody refers to you by the pronoun, "she," and this is not your preferred pronoun, how do/would you feel?

6b. How do/would you react?

7a. If somebody refers to you by the pronoun, "hy," and this is not your preferred pronoun, how do/would you feel?

7b. How do/would you react?

8a. If somebody refers to you by the pronoun, "zie," and this is not your preferred pronoun, how do/would you feel?

8b. How do/would you react?

9a. When speaking of a specific butch, do you strive to ensure you are using that person's preferred pronoun?

9b. If not, why not?

9c. If not, what do you see as the possible effects for that butch and others in the community?

10a. Do you associate different traits with different butch pronouns?

10b. Do you feel that different pronouns clue you in about how a butch may look, think, feel, dress, act, talk, walk, fuck, bond?

10c. Do you associate different ideologies, alliances or belief systems with different butch pronouns?

11a. If you are referring to a butch, and you have not had the opportunity to find out what that person's preferred pronoun is, do you use a default pronoun?

11b. If so, which pronoun do you use and why?

11c. If not, what do you do instead?

11d. Would you advocate a community-wide standard in this case? If so, what would it be and why?

12a. If you are referring to a hypothetical butch, do you use a default pronoun?

12b. If so, which pronoun do you use and why?

12c. If not, what do you do instead?

12d. Would you advocate a community-wide standard in this case? If so, what would it be and why?

13a. Do you tend to partner with butches who use a certain pronoun more often than others?

13b. If so, what pronoun?

13c. If so, can you share your thoughts about why this may be?

14a. Are there times when you have been corrected for using an incorrect pronoun for a butch?

14b. If so, how did you feel about it and how did it influence you?

15. Do you have any other thoughts regarding the use of butch pronouns?

16. If you could add a question to this questionaire, what would it be?

View Poll Results: Please choose the option that fits you best.
I am a femme and I try to never use default pronouns for butches.	33	20.50%
I am a femme, and I sometimes use "he" as a default pronoun for butches.	18	11.18%
I am a femme, and I sometimes use "she" as a default pronoun for butches.	19	11.80%
I am a femme, I sometimes use "hy" as a default pronoun for butches.	7	4.35%
I am a butch and I try to never use default pronouns for butches.	27	16.77%
I am a butch, and I sometimes use "he" as a default pronoun for butches.	17	10.56%
I am a butch, and I sometimes use "she" as a default pronoun for butches.	11	6.83%
I am a butch, I sometimes use "hy" as a default pronoun for butches.	8	4.97%
I am trans and I try to never use default pronouns for butches.	14	8.70%
I am trans, and I sometimes use "he" as a default pronoun for butches.	8	4.97%
I am trans, and I sometimes use "she" as a default pronoun for butches.	1	0.62%
I am trans, I sometimes use "hy" as a default pronoun for butches.	5	3.11%
See my answer below	11	6.83%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 161. You may not vote on this poll

05-16-2010, 08:58 PM	#1
Nat Senior Member How Do You Identify?: bigender Preferred Pronoun?: whatevs Relationship Status: in a relationship Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Tx Posts: 3,535 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,042 Thanked 13,990 Times in 2,594 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Butch Pronouns - A Questionaire I have spent much of yesterday and today reading and re-reading the "Men with boobs" thread, and the use of default butch pronouns is one of many themes involved in that discussion. I'm going to attach a poll, but there is not a poll that can cover every person's experience, thoughts, etc. So, in addition to the poll, I'm going to put a more inclusive questionaire below. What I would like to do is ask anybody who participates in this thread to first fill out and post the questionaire - before addressing another person's answers to the questionaire. If a question definitely does not apply to you, please write "N/A" The Butch Pronoun Questionaire 1. How do you identify? 2a. What is your preferred pronoun (when referencing yourself)? 2b. Do you feel like your preferred pronoun fits you perfectly? 2c. Did you have another or other preferred pronouns in the past? 3a. Does your preferred pronoun vary depending on setting? 3b. If so, can you please explain why and how? 4. How important is it to you that people use your preferred pronoun? 5a. If somebody refers to you by the pronoun, "he," and this is not your preferred pronoun, how do/would you feel? 5b. How do/would you react? 6a. If somebody refers to you by the pronoun, "she," and this is not your preferred pronoun, how do/would you feel? 6b. How do/would you react? 7a. If somebody refers to you by the pronoun, "hy," and this is not your preferred pronoun, how do/would you feel? 7b. How do/would you react? 8a. If somebody refers to you by the pronoun, "zie," and this is not your preferred pronoun, how do/would you feel? 8b. How do/would you react? 9a. When speaking of a specific butch, do you strive to ensure you are using that person's preferred pronoun? 9b. If not, why not? 9c. If not, what do you see as the possible effects for that butch and others in the community? 10a. Do you associate different traits with different butch pronouns? 10b. Do you feel that different pronouns clue you in about how a butch may look, think, feel, dress, act, talk, walk, fuck, bond? 10c. Do you associate different ideologies, alliances or belief systems with different butch pronouns? 11a. If you are referring to a butch, and you have not had the opportunity to find out what that person's preferred pronoun is, do you use a default pronoun? 11b. If so, which pronoun do you use and why? 11c. If not, what do you do instead? 11d. Would you advocate a community-wide standard in this case? If so, what would it be and why? 12a. If you are referring to a hypothetical butch, do you use a default pronoun? 12b. If so, which pronoun do you use and why? 12c. If not, what do you do instead? 12d. Would you advocate a community-wide standard in this case? If so, what would it be and why? 13a. Do you tend to partner with butches who use a certain pronoun more often than others? 13b. If so, what pronoun? 13c. If so, can you share your thoughts about why this may be? 14a. Are there times when you have been corrected for using an incorrect pronoun for a butch? 14b. If so, how did you feel about it and how did it influence you? 15. Do you have any other thoughts regarding the use of butch pronouns? 16. If you could add a question to this questionaire, what would it be? __________________ I'm a fountain of blood. In the shape of a girl. - Bjork What is to give light must endure burning. -Viktor Frankl