Showing scars: what are your relationship fears?

Demure · 09-26-2016, 04:19 PM

I've been single for 7 years as I made a promise to myself unless I can be honest about my needs or wants and able to say 'what about me' then I wasn't gonna date.

I am by nature a carer and giver which was taken for granted but it wasn't really their fault as it was a defence aspect on my part. Give them what they want so they won't need me. Sounds cold but I mean as I'm very protective of my own personal space emotionally, physically etc. But problem was it came back to bite me in the ass cus the odd times I said I wanted a hug the reply was well what about you? Shocked that I had asked. Example in a 3 and half year relationship I asked for a hug 5 times.

So still not dating as I can't allow someone to be close enough for me to relax with them

09-26-2016, 04:19 PM	#21
Demure Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Ma'am or Oi Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: England Posts: 43 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47 Thanked 113 Times in 31 Posts Rep Power: 1718005	I've been single for 7 years as I made a promise to myself unless I can be honest about my needs or wants and able to say 'what about me' then I wasn't gonna date. I am by nature a carer and giver which was taken for granted but it wasn't really their fault as it was a defence aspect on my part. Give them what they want so they won't need me. Sounds cold but I mean as I'm very protective of my own personal space emotionally, physically etc. But problem was it came back to bite me in the ass cus the odd times I said I wanted a hug the reply was well what about you? Shocked that I had asked. Example in a 3 and half year relationship I asked for a hug 5 times. So still not dating as I can't allow someone to be close enough for me to relax with them __________________ So it begins ....