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[Dance-with-me]

Originally Posted by Gemme

The 50s era was not exactly beneficial to the progress of women's rights. It kinda sucked at it in a big way. But if someone wants to dress in an apron and take care of their man/guy/butch/wife/etc in ways that simulate that time, then what beeswax is it to anyone else HOW they do it as long as it's not abusive? Really? C'mon now.

I have to agree with this. First, I didn't read the "June Cleaver" lifestyle as a commentary on anything other than the image/surface ideal - I certainly didn't read it as a denial of the issues behind that actual time period.

But the main thing is that as a strong feminist, I believe that women have the right to choose, INCLUDING the right to choose to be a "housewife" and meet her spouse at the door with a cocktail in hand, wearing an apron and pearls as she cooks her spouse's favorite meal. Women choices should be respected even if they choose things that were once considered anti-feminist: Posing nude, being a sex worker, modeling as a pin-up girl, rarely if ever going out of the house without being perfectly made-up and coiffed, being a "girl" or "submissive" to a "Daddy" or "Master," etc. If those things are being forced on her by someone who is abusive and controlling, or she's doing them only because of the lack of any viable economic choices, or because of her own lack of self-esteem, or because she's been very conditioned to believe that's the only thing she can do well, that's an entirely different story. But I would like to at least presume that when anyone talks about something like that here, they are talking about a consensual relationship where both parties truly have equal power.