Top 10: Things To Have In Your Home That Women Love

[Soft*Silver]

when one is invited into my home:

drool towels..not for them to use because they drool, but to protect them from the infamous newf drool. Lay it in your lap and wait..especially when they come to tell you how good the water tasted out of the toilet bowl...and dont think I havent tried everything to keep them from doing that...I have...they win. Love me, love my newfs...

really nice long towels if they are staying overnite

their own bedroom..because at this point in time, I am not sharing beds.

reading material in the bathroom of his choice...I have three baths. Pick one and the material will appear...

a lint brush that will also remove cat and dog hair...

coffee in the morning made as they prefer it, in a cup that will be designated as his whenever he comes to visit and one I will use in the mornings sometimes when I am particularly missing him

a throne. This doesnt happen overnite. It takes him time to feel at home and to chose his place of honor. Some like to sit at the head of the table. Some like the end of the sectional. Some prefer a recliner. As long as its not MY throne, it becomes theirs when they come back.

beside his throne, a place of altar...things he needs...specific to him. Perhaps the tv guide and the remote. Or his favorite book he is working through on his visits to me. Or a bag of lemon drops and horehounds because he cant find them where he lives. Something, anything that says that I lovingly meet his needs

quietness. My house is very quiet. I dont often watch tv. I dont listen to alot of music. Even my appliances run quietly. It is a way of surrounding myself in the Present and keeping myself there. In the quiet of my home, he would find himself Present with me and I with him. In the early times of wooing, this is especially important. In order to build knowledge of the soul of another person, you really need to be Present with them in the Stillness so that you know you are meeting their Core and not their surroundings.

and in between the times of quietness, there will be times of his and her pleasures...does he like to watch Bruce Willis movies and tv shows (Moonlighting was wonderful!) Will he watch SeaBiscuit with me? Will we put on some country music and dance slow and close, as someone put it once, buckle rubbing music? Does he want to pop in a video game (horrors! I wouldnt know what to do if this happened!) or spend time on the computer? moments of activity to please him and myself, beyond and outside of the other...

[Sachita]

Originally Posted by softness

when one is invited into my home:

drool towels..not for them to use because they drool, but to protect them from the infamous newf drool. Lay it in your lap and wait..especially when they come to tell you how good the water tasted out of the toilet bowl...and dont think I havent tried everything to keep them from doing that...I have...they win. Love me, love my newfs...

really nice long towels if they are staying overnite

their own bedroom..because at this point in time, I am not sharing beds.

reading material in the bathroom of his choice...I have three baths. Pick one and the material will appear...

a lint brush that will also remove cat and dog hair...

coffee in the morning made as they prefer it, in a cup that will be designated as his whenever he comes to visit and one I will use in the mornings sometimes when I am particularly missing him

a throne. This doesnt happen overnite. It takes him time to feel at home and to chose his place of honor. Some like to sit at the head of the table. Some like the end of the sectional. Some prefer a recliner. As long as its not MY throne, it becomes theirs when they come back.

beside his throne, a place of altar...things he needs...specific to him. Perhaps the tv guide and the remote. Or his favorite book he is working through on his visits to me. Or a bag of lemon drops and horehounds because he cant find them where he lives. Something, anything that says that I lovingly meet his needs

quietness. My house is very quiet. I dont often watch tv. I dont listen to alot of music. Even my appliances run quietly. It is a way of surrounding myself in the Present and keeping myself there. In the quiet of my home, he would find himself Present with me and I with him. In the early times of wooing, this is especially important. In order to build knowledge of the soul of another person, you really need to be Present with them in the Stillness so that you know you are meeting their Core and not their surroundings.

and in between the times of quietness, there will be times of his and her pleasures...does he like to watch Bruce Willis movies and tv shows (Moonlighting was wonderful!) Will he watch SeaBiscuit with me? Will we put on some country music and dance slow and close, as someone put it once, buckle rubbing music? Does he want to pop in a video game (horrors! I wouldnt know what to do if this happened!) or spend time on the computer? moments of activity to please him and myself, beyond and outside of the other...

Damn you are very accommodating Girl!

I'm with you on the sleeping. I prefer to sleep alone. They would get their own bedroom, towels, etc.

BUT I'd show them where the coffee is and how I like it. I'd then give them a list of chores to do around the farm and if all went well I'd cook an awesome meal, wear something very pretty and he's be rubbing my feet whilst I perch on that throne! lol

Slow dancing sounds nice. If he was a really good boy I might even dance for him. (wink)

I love candles, nag champa, I like my space to be eclectic and have a nice spiritual feel about it . I am the Goddess of my domain and anyone who enters does so symbiotic with everything here. He must approach with great care, respect and compassion. I'm totally in no nonsense mood these days. Notice the hoops at the entrance of my long driveway.

[Thinker]

Originally Posted by softness

..especially when they come to tell you how good the water tasted out of the toilet bowl...and dont think I havent tried everything to keep them from doing that...I have...they win.

Keeping the lid down???

[Soft*Silver]

you would think keeping the lid down would fix it. But a big knows no barriers, and they (the newf breed) are so genteel and honest of a personality, that they dont understand that it is wrong to drink from the inside watering hole. In fact, they come up to me and thank me for giving them such fresh cold water..as it drips out of the flews of their mouth. I have watched my newfie slide her nose under the lid and just slide her face down to drink. She didnt even bother to lift it up to stay. She figures if I want the seat down, the least she can do for such an accomodating Missus, is to slide the lid back down when she is done.

The newf is a water dog. Puppies fall asleep with their heads in water bowls. Adults join kids in their wading pools. Unlike finicky little dogs who cannot stand to step in water puddles, mine walk and plod right in them.

I have even tried to duct tape the lid and seat down. LOL. Oh no...they just have to work a little harder at it. And Story lays down in front of the bowl until its fixed so she can drink. Patience is her middle name and she can sit there for hours.

When I clean the bowl I literally have to lock her out of the bathroom. I could do that all the time, but the bathroom floor is the coolest tile there is. Being a long haired double coated breed adapted for weathers from Newfoundland Canada, cool tiles are cherished ground...

So i leave the seat and lid up and they drink. People who find a problem with this, well, sorry. Thats why I live alone...I wont let anyone tell me they love me and then turn around and berate my newf. Love me. Love my toilet drinking long tendrils of drool, smiling newfies!

Originally Posted by Thinker

Keeping the lid down???

[Thinker]

Originally Posted by softness

you would think keeping the lid down would fix it. But a big knows no barriers, and they (the newf breed) are so genteel and honest of a personality, that they dont understand that it is wrong to drink from the inside watering hole. In fact, they come up to me and thank me for giving them such fresh cold water..as it drips out of the flews of their mouth. I have watched my newfie slide her nose under the lid and just slide her face down to drink. She didnt even bother to lift it up to stay. She figures if I want the seat down, the least she can do for such an accomodating Missus, is to slide the lid back down when she is done.

The newf is a water dog. Puppies fall asleep with their heads in water bowls. Adults join kids in their wading pools. Unlike finicky little dogs who cannot stand to step in water puddles, mine walk and plod right in them.

I have even tried to duct tape the lid and seat down. LOL. Oh no...they just have to work a little harder at it. And Story lays down in front of the bowl until its fixed so she can drink. Patience is her middle name and she can sit there for hours.

When I clean the bowl I literally have to lock her out of the bathroom. I could do that all the time, but the bathroom floor is the coolest tile there is. Being a long haired double coated breed adapted for weathers from Newfoundland Canada, cool tiles are cherished ground...

So i leave the seat and lid up and they drink. People who find a problem with this, well, sorry. Thats why I live alone...I wont let anyone tell me they love me and then turn around and berate my newf. Love me. Love my toilet drinking long tendrils of drool, smiling newfies!

Wow. Interesting. I learned something new today!!

[Toughy]

I'm just kind of curious about something. A couple of femmes have used 'he' and 'him' when talking about what they might do for butches who come to visit. Since, at least for the most part, 'he' is not the default pronoun for butch folk on this site, I have a question.

Does the use of 'he' in your posts mean you are talking about a transman and/or a male id'd butch? I have to assume that, because you certainly can't be talking about what you would do for a butch woman while using male pronouns. I must also assume you don't date butch women. If butch women are also in your realm of dating, you might try s/he as an inclusive way to use pronouns.

(and S/He is also a great book by Minnie Bruce Pratt.........a kick ass femme who has written some great stuff)

[JustJo]

My sweetie hasn't yet been to visit me at my home, as much as I would like that. Because of work and child commitments, I'm the one logging the frequent flyer miles.

There are some sweet things she does for me when I'm there....and some I try to do for her...

She always has diet coke and doritos...my two big weaknesses

She is my chauffeur to the beach ...not in the house, but still a biggie

scented candles

and more important than anything else....her attention, affection and love

And for her....I try to make her a home-cooked meal (when she lets me ), bake some brownies or cookies...and give her a massage.

[Ms Vixen]

Originally Posted by Toughy

I'm just kind of curious about something. A couple of femmes have used 'he' and 'him' when talking about what they might do for butches who come to visit. Since, at least for the most part, 'he' is not the default pronoun for butch folk on this site, I have a question.

Does the use of 'he' in your posts mean you are talking about a transman and/or a male id'd butch? I have to assume that, because you certainly can't be talking about what you would do for a butch woman while using male pronouns. I must also assume you don't date butch women. If butch women are also in your realm of dating, you might try s/he as an inclusive way to use pronouns.

...or you might use he... or she... depending on how your own personal construct theory runs.

I certainly use "he" for all butches... if they tell me that they prefer "she" I will use the title out of courtesy, but to me butch is "he", femme "she". This has held true for all of the butches and transguys I've known/dated, including those that identified as women. And in the case of the female identified butches I've known/dated, they understood and were comfortable with the fact that the "he" pronoun to me, and to them themselves in their interactions with me, honoured their butchness rather than their feminity.

Also not sure that we can assume that we know what the default pronoun is for all of the butches on this site.

Each to their own, diversity does make the world go round.

Cheers,


Ms V

[apretty]

and people want to know why the SHE is marginalized.

well here ya go:

Originally Posted by Ms Vixen

I certainly use "he" for all butches... if they tell me that they prefer "she" I will use the title out of courtesy, but to me butch is "he", femme "she". This has held true for all of the butches and transguys I've known/dated, including those that identified as women. And in the case of the female identified butches I've known/dated, they understood and were comfortable with the fact that the "he" pronoun to me, and to them themselves in their interactions with me, honoured their butchness rather than their feminity.

Also not sure that we can assume that we know what the default pronoun is for all of the butches on this site.

Each to their own, diversity does make the world go round.

Cheers,


Ms V

[weatherboi]

ten more things i have for my Ms in the house

really soft blankets
space in closet to hang clothes, floggers and store shoes
a few empty drawers
shelf space in bathroom closet
all the makings for fresh veggie spring rolls
specific items for coffee her way
specific cereals
bananas
pnut butter
honey

[Chancie]

Originally Posted by Ms Vixen

...or you might use he... or she... depending on how your own personal construct theory runs.

I certainly use "he" for all butches... if they tell me that they prefer "she" I will use the title out of courtesy, but to me butch is "he", femme "she". This has held true for all of the butches and transguys I've known/dated, including those that identified as women. And in the case of the female identified butches I've known/dated, they understood and were comfortable with the fact that the "he" pronoun to me, and to them themselves in their interactions with me, honoured their butchness rather than their feminity.

Also not sure that we can assume that we know what the default pronoun is for all of the butches on this site.

Each to their own, diversity does make the world go round.

Cheers,


Ms V

You're joking, right? Just to get a rise out of us?

[Diva]

Originally Posted by Toughy

I'm just kind of curious about something. A couple of femmes have used 'he' and 'him' when talking about what they might do for butches who come to visit. Since, at least for the most part, 'he' is not the default pronoun for butch folk on this site, I have a question.

Does the use of 'he' in your posts mean you are talking about a transman and/or a male id'd butch? I have to assume that, because you certainly can't be talking about what you would do for a butch woman while using male pronouns. I must also assume you don't date butch women. If butch women are also in your realm of dating, you might try s/he as an inclusive way to use pronouns.

(and S/He is also a great book by Minnie Bruce Pratt.........a kick ass femme who has written some great stuff)

Since this thread is in The Trans Zone, and since I am primarily attracted to male~identified butches and/or transmen, I used "guy" (I believe) in my particular post. I did not include 'she' because I didn't feel the need to be inclusive.... as this is The Trans Zone.

[Rook]

• a Grill {the kind u cook on}

• Pepperidge Farms orange Milanos....

• Pepperidge Farms Sausalito Crunchy cookies {getting the message?}

♦ Functional LG front washer/dryer..

♦ Coffee....

♦ Tea

• Jelly Bellies {Mostly Popcorn and Pomegranite}

• Wide variety of CD/DVD

♦ Comfortable Furniture...period.

• Occasional bottle of Wine in a nicely Stocked Fridge.

[Toughy]

Originally Posted by Diva

Since this thread is in The Trans Zone, and since I am primarily attracted to male~identified butches and/or transmen, I used "guy" (I believe) in my particular post. I did not include 'she' because I didn't feel the need to be inclusive.... as this is The Trans Zone.

Diva, you pointed out something I had not even noticed. I rarely ever look at where a thread is located in the forums. I didn't realize this was the 'trans zone'. Point taken.

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MsVixen just makes me mostly disgusted. I'm not at all surprised by her ignorance and lack of respect. However, that is not the first time a femme has said "all butches are he' to me...........the difference with this one is I read the words instead of them being said to my face. And it's not even the first time I have read those words.

Been there done that more than once.......*yawn*

[Thinker]

Originally Posted by June

So, Thinker -- Tell us. What did you used to like to have when you were entertaining "The Lay-day's"? You know, before you got hitched.

Ohhhhhh.....let's see...

I don't know that it was any different for a lady caller than it would have been or has been for guests in general.

I always started out by finding what she wanted to have in the house (bathroom products, drinks, breakfast items). I made sure she had access to whatever she needed in the bathroom and that clean, fresh towels and linens were ready.

I once read that having, for example, towels out and ready for the guest was a big way to show her that she was welcome (could be him or her, obviously).....a guest shouldn't have to ask for things such as towels, toothpaste, etc... It should all be easily accessible.

I would have an extra blanket in the room, water beside the bed, a couple different shampoos and soaps... I learned the hard way (getting shamed once by a lady) to make at least one drawer available, plus room in the closet.

Really, it's the same as I do for guests we have in our home today.

I remember........a gazillion years ago......that a lady came to visit me (local situation...just a day visit). My best friend roommate at the time waited a good amount of time before finally offering the girl something to drink.

Because I never did!!!

I sucked at that sort of thing and didn't know the first thing about being a host. I think I was about 22 or 23. That incident was seared in my mind forever, and I made sure I did what I could to be a good and welcoming host.

You're always at a disadvantage when not on your home turf, so it's really huge for the host to do every possible thing to make the guest feel at ease and welcome. ...whether the visit is for "romance" or friendship or family.

[Gemme]

I'm going to Thinker's house.

[Diva]

Originally Posted by Gemme

I'm going to Thinker's house.

Me, too. <packin' my bags> (I know The Lady won't mind....I'll cook & bake when I get there! )