Online dating and when to ask out?

[kittygrrl]

Originally Posted by DapperButch

Nah...people can be full of shit...meet them right away! lol

Why be all "into" somebody just to find out you don't jive? You really can't tell if your energy is a match until you are in person.

Dapper, that's not ever been my personal experience although i've heard plenty of horror stories. I'm not fickle when i want something enough and the feeling is mutual, i've never been disappointed. If you don't have an understanding of who you are and what you want then perhaps you have a point..it's just not mine

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by kittygrrl

Dapper, that's not ever been my personal experience although i've heard plenty of horror stories. I'm not fickle when i want something enough and the feeling is mutual, i've never been disappointed. If you don't have an understanding of who you are and what you want then perhaps you have a point..it's just not mine

I was actually making a joke when I said people can be full of shit.

But, I do believe that even if we spend a lot of time with people on the phone, text, you still can't get that true sense of a person until you meet them.

I was always very successful dating online. I found many partners that way. I just found that talking for periods of time prior to meeting elongated the process of finding out they were not a person I was going to end up dating or have a friendship with.

Ender seems to have a purpose. Meaning, he isn't just casually looking. He found someone he thinks he might really like. So, that is why I said go for it!

[kittygrrl]

Originally Posted by DapperButch

I was actually making a joke when I said people can be full of shit.

But, I do believe that even if we spend a lot of time with people on the phone, text, you still can't get that true sense of a person until you meet them.

I was always very successful dating online. I found many partners that way. I just found that talking for periods of time prior to meeting elongated the process of finding out they were not a person I was doing to end up dating or have a friendship with.

Ender seems to have a purpose. Meaning, he isn't just casually looking. He found someone he thinks he might really like. So, that is why I said go for it!

ok lol, but joke or no. This is a sentiment i've heard expressed often.
I once knew an online couple who didn't meet for a few years because of circumstances, when they finally did..no sparks. This intrigues me....but regarding energy exchange..why should there be an expectation (it) may not live up to your expectation? Personally why would i waste my time if i were not sure it would? Energy is energy. i've just never had that experience.
Yes...go for it if you want to..but it reminds me if you need a rush..then obviously be prepared for the inevitable crash j/s