Online dating and when to ask out?

easygoingfemme · 12-26-2017, 10:21 AM

Absolutely - low pressure not even necessarily a date- but casual coffee/lunch sooner than later. I feel like the energy you have together in person is super important to feel out early on.

homoe · 12-26-2017, 10:22 AM

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Originally Posted by easygoingfemme

Absolutely - low pressure not even necessarily a date- but casual coffee/lunch sooner than later. I feel like the energy you have together in person is super important to feel out early on.

EXACTLY.............

Dominique · 12-26-2017, 11:16 AM

Don't wait another day.

For me, the chase is always better than the catch. When it feels like the catch was better than the chase, you found the right one.

kittygrrl · 12-26-2017, 05:51 PM

Enjoy a slow burn...if or when we decide to meet, there are no questions in my mind.

DapperButch · 12-26-2017, 06:23 PM

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Enjoy a slow burn...if or when we decide to meet, there are no questions in my mind.

Nah...people can be full of shit...meet them right away! lol

Why be all "into" somebody just to find out you don't jive? You really can't tell if your energy is a match until you are in person.

kittygrrl · 12-26-2017, 06:33 PM

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Nah...people can be full of shit...meet them right away! lol

Why be all "into" somebody just to find out you don't jive? You really can't tell if your energy is a match until you are in person.

Dapper, that's not ever been my personal experience although i've heard plenty of horror stories. I'm not fickle when i want something enough and the feeling is mutual, i've never been disappointed. If you don't have an understanding of who you are and what you want then perhaps you have a point..it's just not mine

DapperButch · 12-26-2017, 06:42 PM

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Dapper, that's not ever been my personal experience although i've heard plenty of horror stories. I'm not fickle when i want something enough and the feeling is mutual, i've never been disappointed. If you don't have an understanding of who you are and what you want then perhaps you have a point..it's just not mine

I was actually making a joke when I said people can be full of shit.

But, I do believe that even if we spend a lot of time with people on the phone, text, you still can't get that true sense of a person until you meet them.

I was always very successful dating online. I found many partners that way. I just found that talking for periods of time prior to meeting elongated the process of finding out they were not a person I was going to end up dating or have a friendship with.

Ender seems to have a purpose. Meaning, he isn't just casually looking. He found someone he thinks he might really like. So, that is why I said go for it!

12-26-2017, 11:16 AM	#3
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