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[Rufusboi]

I've been using the men's bathroom for about 9 years now. And it was mostly because of the bad reactions I received in the women's bathroom. I was getting hassled too much, confronted, grabbed, had security called on me (I was in line for the bathroom and the security guard reached and grabbed for me to pull me out of line). I don't have problems in the men's bathroom. Men don't make eye contact. It took me a lot of years to get the nerve up to use the men's bathroom because I thought I would have problems in there and get hurt. Once I finally got the nerve up and learned that men don't even look up, then I started using the men's room exclusively.

I think women are very protective of the bathroom space. As Melissa says, its more of an event in there. Women are talking, changing their kid's diapers, taking their kid's to the bathroom, putting on make up, brushing hair, checking clothes.

Men just pee and leave. I don't use the urinals. Every men's room has a stall with a door and a lock.

Rufus

[TCB]

Originally Posted by Dylan
I have a question for the transguys. I'm NOT asking anyone but transguys.

I'd like to know what y'all think about a transguy who is read as male, who wants to be read as male, who has had top surgery, and who is on hormones...but yet uses the women's restroom (on occasion), and who gets ticked off when women in the restroom get upset that he's in there.


Thanks,
Dylan

I couldn't find the original post, so I just had to copy and paste the question.
To be quite honest, it's beyond me why any trans male (particularly that far into transition) would want to use the women's restroom. It defeats the purpose of everything he is doing if you ask me.
It actually frustrates me and is very disrespectful. Unless he feels he has some sense of privilege, that on it's own is very concerning.

Not to mention, why in the hell would you look to create a problem like that?
You can be damn sure those women in the restroom will not like him being there. UNDERSTANDABLY
It's beyond me.

[The Oopster]

I have to say I think I used a woman's restroom once out of desperation. We were at a gay bar and the men's bathroom had a urinal and a stall without a door. I wasn't equipped to pee standing up so I used the woman's. Fortunately I was still on the cusp at the time of passing and I also just used it way before the night got started and just made sure I didn't have to pee til we wer out of there.

Another time I was somewhere and the men's was out of order and I really had to go ... but just went and looked for another one. At this pt I just wouldn't be comfortable using the woman's no matter what unless it is a single locked door and the men's is broken and I really really really have to go.

Now I've also learned how to pee sitting down in a matter that no one would be the wiser. Some of the stalls i frequent don't lock well so I have learned how to sit so no one can tell. I need to come up with a new stp .... I have one piece ... just need to get the medical tubing next ... then figure out the best way to contrive the thingy. Right now I'm just lazy ... I drive a lot so try to get a 2fer when I can.

[Linus]

Originally Posted by The Oopster

I have to say I think I used a woman's restroom once out of desperation. We were at a gay bar and the men's bathroom had a urinal and a stall without a door. I wasn't equipped to pee standing up so I used the woman's. Fortunately I was still on the cusp at the time of passing and I also just used it way before the night got started and just made sure I didn't have to pee til we wer out of there.

Another time I was somewhere and the men's was out of order and I really had to go ... but just went and looked for another one. At this pt I just wouldn't be comfortable using the woman's no matter what unless it is a single locked door and the men's is broken and I really really really have to go.

Now I've also learned how to pee sitting down in a matter that no one would be the wiser. Some of the stalls i frequent don't lock well so I have learned how to sit so no one can tell. I need to come up with a new stp .... I have one piece ... just need to get the medical tubing next ... then figure out the best way to contrive the thingy. Right now I'm just lazy ... I drive a lot so try to get a 2fer when I can.

I really need to work on that part. I've tried it a couple of times only end up with my leg wet. I think my biggest concern is the strength of the stream being too forceful and thus overflowing.

[Dylan]

Originally Posted by Linus

I really need to work on that part. I've tried it a couple of times only end up with my leg wet. I think my biggest concern is the strength of the stream being too forceful and thus overflowing.

The medicine spoon.

Most awesome thing ever.


Definitely Takes Practice, But It's Well Worth The Investment,
Dylan

[The Oopster]

Originally Posted by Dylan

The medicine spoon.

Most awesome thing ever.


Definitely Takes Practice, But It's Well Worth The Investment,
Dylan

http://www.whenyagottago.com/products/TravelMate.html

I really like this ...much easier to use because the spoon is more custom for our bodies...

i use to get the u-tube on transitional male but nick doesn't seem to be selling just that any more and also is having health issue so isn't do the stud.

I'm hoping to make my own u-tube using the above product but just need to find the medical tubing and the right glues and then the stuff to put it together.

[Dylan]

Originally Posted by The Oopster

http://www.whenyagottago.com/products/TravelMate.html

I really like this ...much easier to use because the spoon is more custom for our bodies...

i use to get the u-tube on transitional male but nick doesn't seem to be selling just that any more and also is having health issue so isn't do the stud.

I'm hoping to make my own u-tube using the above product but just need to find the medical tubing and the right glues and then the stuff to put it together.

I don't see what the difference is between this and the medicine spoon?

Not trying to be funny, but I don't understand why I would pay nine dollars when I can get the same thing at Target for free?

I mean, I don't see how this would be any easier to use either. It's still going to take a helluva lot of practice to learn to position this thing properly.


Am I Missing Something?,
Dylan...could have easily missed something

P.S. you can get latex tubing at Home Depot or Lowes. If you use that particular spoon (that you linked to), you can just put the tubing over the end...you don't need glue...and run it through your packer. Should take about 3 seconds. (you can use a dab of caulking if you're really concerned)

[SassyLeo]

This is not really a question, but I wanted to share something that made me

My employer is VERY progressive. And I knew that already.

Today while searching through our policy database, I randomly came across the policy on Transgender and Transitioning.

I can't post it all here due to compliance, but I can give you snapshots:

-advocate for diversity-
-maintain a workplace environment that embraces diversity-
-every employee makes a unique contribution-
-fairness and equity ...defining characteristics of the workplace environment-
-discrimination/harassment will not be tolerated or condoned-

-managing an empolyee who is transitioning= ...demonstrate an understanding, sensitive approach to his/her needs and concerns-

It just made me appreciate my employer even more...

[CamBAMF]

Originally Posted by Linus

I really need to work on that part. I've tried it a couple of times only end up with my leg wet. I think my biggest concern is the strength of the stream being too forceful and thus overflowing.

http://www.mangoproducts.net/PackAndPee.htm

Its a combo of prosthetics and the medicine spoon. It's my favorite, but it does cost moeny. Like Dylan said why pay if u can get something cheaper and jsut as reliable at Target. I just like the feeling of 'wiping it out' at a urinal.

[Linus]

Originally Posted by CamBAMF

http://www.mangoproducts.net/PackAndPee.htm

Its a combo of prosthetics and the medicine spoon. It's my favorite, but it does cost moeny. Like Dylan said why pay if u can get something cheaper and jsut as reliable at Target. I just like the feeling of 'wiping it out' at a urinal.

I did purchase from them but they have the worst business practise I've ever seen. I actually had to file a complaint with the BBB before they responded to me --- over 6 months after I had paid and repeated emails to them. I discourage anyone who wants a PackAndPee from buying from Mango.

[CamBAMF]

Originally Posted by Linus

I did purchase from them but they have the worst business practise I've ever seen. I actually had to file a complaint with the BBB before they responded to me --- over 6 months after I had paid and repeated emails to them. I discourage anyone who wants a PackAndPee from buying from Mango.

I can see that. Twice I bought from them and twice they were late. But As soon as I sent them an email (and it wasn't a nice email) my products were shipped... I also heard there is a site that other people have used. Djknowsdicks.com but when I visited there it look incredible unprofessional. Idk

[Jet]

I think id have to have more than peach fuzz to use the men;s room.

Originally Posted by Rufusboi

I've been using the men's bathroom for about 9 years now. And it was mostly because of the bad reactions I received in the women's bathroom. I was getting hassled too much, confronted, grabbed, had security called on me (I was in line for the bathroom and the security guard reached and grabbed for me to pull me out of line). I don't have problems in the men's bathroom. Men don't make eye contact. It took me a lot of years to get the nerve up to use the men's bathroom because I thought I would have problems in there and get hurt. Once I finally got the nerve up and learned that men don't even look up, then I started using the men's room exclusively.

I think women are very protective of the bathroom space. As Melissa says, its more of an event in there. Women are talking, changing their kid's diapers, taking their kid's to the bathroom, putting on make up, brushing hair, checking clothes.

Men just pee and leave. I don't use the urinals. Every men's room has a stall with a door and a lock.

Rufus

[Dylan]

Originally Posted by Jet

I think id have to have more than peach fuzz to use the men;s room.

So, does that mean you're going to wait until you have a full beard before you stop using the women's restroom?


Dylan

[Jet]

Originally Posted by Dylan

So, does that mean you're going to wait until you have a full beard before you stop using the women's restroom?


Dylan

I'll never wear a beard

[Rufusboi]

Originally Posted by Jet

I'll never wear a beard

Beard or not you should respect women enough not to invade their private space.

Rufus

[Billy]

Originally Posted by Rufusboi

Beard or not you should respect women enough not to invade their private space.

Rufus

That's what I'm saying ....Why after everything we go through to be seen as MALE , want to go into the womans room .....You can't have it both ways ..

[chefhmboyrd]

Originally Posted by Billy

That's what I'm saying ....Why after everything we go through to be seen as MALE , want to go into the womans room .....You can't have it both ways ..

amen brother billy, you guys need to put on your big boy pull ups and got to the damn men's room where we belong.
@

[Jet]

Originally Posted by Rufusboi

Beard or not you should respect women enough not to invade their private space.

Rufus

who says i would invade

[Rufusboi]

Originally Posted by Jet

who says i would invade

The word INVADE means to intrude upon or encroach upon.

If you enter the womens bathroom and you are identifying as male then you are invading.

Rufus

[Dylan]

Originally Posted by Jet

I think id have to have more than peach fuzz to use the men;s room.

We might have gotten the idea you were talking about restrooms and using the women's restroom from this post where you state you'd have to have more than peach fuzz to use the men's room


Dylan